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Title:Discussions from a Christian Perspective
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Created:Mon Sep 17 1990
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328.0. "Sexual Harrassment" by LJOHUB::NSMITH (rises up with eagle wings) Wed Oct 09 1991 15:40

There may ultimately be reasons to doubt the credibility of Anita Hill's
charges against Clarence Thomas, but it enrages me to hear the "reasons"
that some Senators and others give for not believing her story!  While I
can understand their ignorance, it is appalling nevertheless, and they
certainly should hurry to upgrade their education about sexual harrassment,
sexual power, sexual politics, and the realities of women's lives.

Based on my own experience, I conclude that when a woman experiences
sexual harrassment, she has to think through a number of options and
make a series of decisions.

1) If it seems "out of character" with her previous experience with that
   man, she will question whether he did, in fact, say what she clearly
   heard him say.  (Or do what she clearly felt him do, etc.)

2) Once she establishes in her own thinking that, yes, he clearly *did*
   say or do what she experienced, she must make a decision:  Should she
   tell, and if so, whom should she tell?

3) Reasons that a woman may decide *not* to tell:

   - They were alone, no witnesses, no proof; her word against his 
   - The woman feels that she personally can deal with the man and does not
     see him as being an immediate threat to other women
   - Telling would hurt his wife/family and her husband/family
   - Telling would mean the end of a much-needed business or professional
     relationship

4) If she decides not to tell, she is quite likely, in my opinion, to continue
   as normal a relationship as possible with the man, especially if their
   relationship involves her (or her family's) livelihood!


My generalizations are based on my own experience, as follows:

   A man who was a friend of ours and a business associate of my husband's,
   got my work phone number, called me long distance, and asked me to do
   specific physical things.  It was entirely unexpected and I kept thinking
   he had some business message for me to give my husband -- until he abruptly
   hung up and I realized what personal activity of his own he had been
   engaging in while on the phone!

   There are so many factors to consider in a case like this!  I told my
   husband, but I did not tell the man's wife nor ask my husband to refuse
   any further business dealings with the man.

   - I didn't want to "raise a stink" or be considered a prude.  
   - I didn't want to deprive my husband of a much-needed business contact.
   - I didn't want to give his wife information that would cause her pain and 
     embarrassment.  (We were friends as couples.)
   - I was not afraid of a physical sexualy assault and felt that he was not
     likely to be a physical threat to any other woman, either.

   Furthermore, if I had confronted the man the next time I saw him, he could
   easily have denied that the phone call ever occurred -- and I had no way
   to prove that it did.  I, like Anita Hill, would have been scrutinized.

   Even though I think I told someone at work, that would not have been proof
   of *who* had called me!   

   So my husband and I agreed that the man was in some sense "crazy" and we
   would be cautious.  I further decided that if he repeated anything like that
   again, I would be prepared, would confront him, and would probably tell his
   wife.

   I received that phone call approximately ten years ago.  Fortunately, the
   incident has never been repeated.  My husband continues to do business with
   the man and we occasionally go out together as couples.  Most of the time
   I don't even think about the incident, and I feel reasonably comfortable
   when the four or us socialize.

   But what he did was *way* out of line and cause me a great deal of stress
   and turmoil!

   Fortunately, this man will never be a Supreme Court nominee and I will never
   have to deal with the tell/don't tell issue in the context that Anita Hill
   had to do.

   If Anita Hill's allegations are true, I can fully understand why she did not
   report them sooner -- and why she continued to maintain friendly,
   professional contact with Clarence Thomas.

   The incredulity of male Senators who cannot understand this is evidence of
   a greater rift between men and women than I had believed possible.

   Nancy Smith
   Oct. 9, 1991
     
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328.1Pat Robertson's put-downsLJOHUB::NSMITHrises up with eagle wingsWed Oct 09 1991 15:4412
    I'm working at home today and while checking News at lunchtime,
    stopped briefly to hear what the 700 Club was saying about the charges
    against Thomas (or rather, what they were saying about Anita Hill).
    
    Pat Robertson was saying that Hill did not accuse Thomas of touching
    her (true, according to the papers) but of asking her out!  Then he
    and his co-hostess chuckled over the absurdity of equating an
    invitation to dinner with sexual harrassment!  How a supposedly
    well-educated, well-informed commentator could "omit" Anita Hill's
    charges that Thomas went on to discuss sexually explicit activities 
    and pornographic movie plots is beyond me -- especially someone from the
    religious right who is so vehemently opposed to all pornography!
328.2DEMING::VALENZAGet thee to a notes conference.Wed Oct 09 1991 15:5011
    Thank you for your thoughts, Nancy.  What really impressed me was the
    way that *female* Congressmen, virtually en masse, stormed the male
    bastions of power in the Senate and convinced them to delay the
    confirmation vote.
    
    In a way, I think it would be unfortunate if he were to be rejected for
    this reason, when there were already so many other reasons to reject
    his nomination.  But this is an issue that speaks to the hearts of a
    lot of women.
    
    -- Mike
328.3what did he do, what does he say, why should we believe one over the other?CVG::THOMPSONRadical CentralistWed Oct 09 1991 16:0520
	Any word on why Senators with a vested interest in these alligations
	didn't? I haven't had time to watch or read the news in a couple of
	days so I'm still trying to pick up the story. I would expect that
	Biden would have marched these charges out right away if he thought
	there was the remotest chance that they were true.

	There seems to be two schools of thought on this thing so far. One
	thought is that the charges are false and brought up at the last minute
	for political reasons. The idea being that if the charges were true
	they would have come up a month or so when the Senate was first made
	aware of them. The other is that they must be true because either a)
	a woman is making the charge or b) Thomas is a bad man so must have
	done it.

	So far I don't even know what the charges are, sexual harasment is
	pretty general, and have not seem/heard/read Thomas' side of it so
	I don't know what to think. The opinion I get from some women is that
	Thomas' side is unimportant and not worth hearing. Sad.

			Alfred
328.4LJOHUB::NSMITHrises up with eagle wingsWed Oct 09 1991 16:3525
    Alfred,
    
    There *may* be some women who say that "Thomas' side is unimportant and
    not worth hearing."  If they mean that, I agree that that is sad.
    
    BUT BE VERY CLEAR: To some women the chief and overriding issue at this
    point is not necessarily whether or not Thomas is guilty or whether or
    not Thomas should be confirmed, but our anger, our rage, our fury, over
    the attitude of many male Senators and commentators (on talk shows,
    etc.) toward Anita Hill *as a person*!  
    
    The pros and cons of Thomas' qualifications to sit on the Supreme Court
    are certainly important.  If Hill's allegations are unfounded, then she
    is guilty of a serious offense.
    
    But many of us women who were resigned to getting Thomas on the Court,
    in spite of what seems to us to be mediocrity at best, are now faced
    with proof that a great many of our Senators do not seem to "have a
    clue" as to what sexual harrassment means to us!
    
    I truly and sincerely hope you can understand this difference and why
    it is important.
    
    Nancy
    
328.5first prove that the Senate has proof of the chargeCVG::THOMPSONRadical CentralistWed Oct 09 1991 17:1324
>    But many of us women who were resigned to getting Thomas on the Court,
>    in spite of what seems to us to be mediocrity at best, are now faced
>    with proof that a great many of our Senators do not seem to "have a
>    clue" as to what sexual harrassment means to us!

    What is this proof? Serious question. All I've heard so far is that
    this woman gave testimony, the Senate asked for and received an FBI
    investigation which came back with "no proof other then the woman's
    testimony." So not having evidence enough to stand up in a court of
    law they put the issue aside. Is there truly more evidence? If so
    I agree there is a real problem. 

    
>    I truly and sincerely hope you can understand this difference and why
>    it is important.

    OH, I do. But I'm still looking for more than just an unsubstansiated
    accusation. If Thomas were to claim that she harassed him would you
    be so quick to believe it? Note that if you answer no you label
    yourself a bigot. And if you say yes then you have to admit that there
    is room (and lots of it) to doubt her charge. For the time being I 
    believe in innocent until proven guilty not innocent until accused.

    			Alfred
328.6SWAM1::DOTHARD_STPLAYTOEWed Oct 09 1991 17:2718
    re: 0
    
    I don't think they have decided on the "believability" of the story, it
    may very well be true.  I think they were more incensed by the timing,
    and that it appeared to be "designed" to specifically target Thomas'
    appointment.  Had the charge been lodged at the time of the incident
    it would be no question of considering it.  But now, and since we are
    in need of judge, to investigate this incident at such a late date
    would be unfeasible...especially because of the lack of evidence, only
    an accusation, by a woman who was employed by Thomas in two different
    positions.  What's the point of her all of a sudden NOW coming to the
    front with this information...and more importantly, WHO put her up to
    it...I refuse to believe that she has come forth on her own without
    council from someone else.
    
    Just my opinion...
    
    Playtoe
328.7My two cents.BUFFER::CIOTOWed Oct 09 1991 21:4882
    Hi Nancy,
    
    Interesting topic.
    
    First, I am not a Thomas fan.  Having listened to his congressional
    testimony very carefully, I sense that the man is deceptive,
    evasive, and someone who thinks nothing of bending the truth -- 
    especially when it pertains to owning up to the strong personal 
    views he has articulated over the years.   I would feel uncomfortable
    entrusting him with the future of women's rights, civil rights, and
    individual privacy issues.  Just my gut feeling about the man.
    
    Re:  Hill.  When you talk about being enraged over the senators
    treatment of Ms. Hill *as a person* I am a bit confused, simply because
    we (and they) do not know her "as a person."  For that matter, we do
    not even know Thomas "as a peson" -- just the charade the media feeds
    us over the tube, bite by bite.   Notwithstanding ridicule and rude/
    impolite treatment, which is wrong.... For all we know and don't know,
    she may be a saint -- someone with impeccable honesty, someone who
    means what she says and says what she means.  Then again, she may not.
    For all we know, her *personhood* may leave much to be desired.  For
    all we know, her character may be a disgrace to the human race.  We
    just don't know.  
    
    However, I am glad Congress will have an oppportunity to thoroughly 
    check out her credibility, and, in the process, thoroughly check 
    out Thomas's credibility.  Should the senators assume Hill IS 
    credible and IS a honest, decent person until she is proven otherwise?   
    Should they believe in the goodness of her word?   Isn't that equivalent  
    to believing that Thomas is guilty until proven innocent?  Our judiciary 
    works the other way around.  Personally, I think the senators should 
    be suspect of her word and credibility, until they have the wherewithal 
    to check it out.  Ridicule of this woman is certainly a different 
    story and unjustifyable.  She should be afforded every courtesy, 
    but her word should be considered suspect until it is held up to 
    verification and scrutiny.
    
    You may think that I, as a man, simply do not understand sexual
    harrassment.  Well, I do.  Not only have several close female friends
    of mine been harrassed -- and downright abused -- by men, but I 
    also have been sexually harrassed by certain females, from time to 
    time, during my 14-year tenure in the work-a-day world.  
    On-the-job harrassment that is unmistakable.  (Most of that 
    time was not at Digital, by the way.)  If you do not believe me,
    write me privately, and I'll tell you some stories.  
    
    When a male says he was sexually harrassed by a female, people giggle 
    and smirk.  Why?  Because we're supposed to like it and feel good about
    it.  It's considered OK and normal.  Males who experience unwelcome
    sexual come-ons on the job by females don't dare talk about it or report 
    it, for fear of getting laughed at, for fear of being thought of as
    unmanly and queer.  Why do you think that boys who are molested by adult 
    women are supposed to consider themselves "lucky" in society's eyes?
    
    If I seem to be making a big deal about this it is because, usually,
    no one else seems to have the guts to get this issue out in the open.
    
    Sexual harrassment is, sadly, an offense that is shrouded in subjective
    societal biases regarding human nature, male/female stereotypes, 
    outrageous assumptions/expections of what is "right" and "wrong"
    and "normal" and "abnormal" and on and on.  Unfortunately, as a
    society, we can't seem to tackle this problem straightforwardly,
    without all the inbred traditional societal crap and conditioning.  
    
    We, as a society should:
    
    1.  Understand that it is wrong to harrass/abuse a fellow citizen.
    
    2.  Foster a free climate in which anyone can seek recourse when she/he
        is harrassed/abused.
    
    3.  Treat harrassment charges with judicial impartiality and due
        process.  Innocence until proof of guilt.  Unfortuantely, many
        of these incidents of harrassments are perpetrated without
        witnesses.  (I know this first-hand.)  And, for better or worse,
        it comes down to:  Who is credible and who is not?  Whose word
        do you believe? 
    
    My two cents and then some,
    Paul   
    
    
328.8Nope, sorryLJOHUB::NSMITHrises up with eagle wingsThu Oct 10 1991 09:0935
    
    RE: .5, Alfred,
    

>>    But many of us women who were resigned to getting Thomas on the Court,
>>    in spite of what seems to us to be mediocrity at best, are now faced
>>    with proof that a great many of our Senators do not seem to "have a
>>    clue" as to what sexual harrassment means to us!

  >  What is this proof? Serious question. All I've heard so far is that
  >  this woman gave testimony, the Senate asked for and received an FBI
  >  investigation which came back with "no proof other then the woman's
  >  testimony." 
    
    Please read what I wrote again, more carefully.  The "proof" I referred
    to had nothing to do with proof of Hill's charges against Thomas, but
    of "proof" (obviously not the legal kind -- perhaps I should have said
    "strong evidence") that our *Senators* don't understand (1)why a woman
    wouldn't report the activity at the time (2)why she would reluctantly
    report it now and (3)why she would maintain business/professional
    relations with the man.
    
>>    I truly and sincerely hope you can understand this difference and why
>>    it is important.

 >   OH, I do. But I'm still looking for more than just an unsubstansiated
 >   accusation. 
    
    Sorry, Alfred, but you don't understand at all.  You're still focusing
    on Thomas and his guilt or innocence while I was hopeing you could
    understand the difference between *that* issue and the other.  It seems
    to have missed you completely.  Perhaps I can't communicate it well,
    but I can't improve on my original efforts.  :-(
    
    Nancy
328.9Timing not Hill's agendaLJOHUB::NSMITHrises up with eagle wingsThu Oct 10 1991 09:107
    RE: .6
    
    The timing may well have been politically motivated.  But the timing
    came from the judiciary committee, which approached Hill, who resisted
    for several days before finally agreeing to tell her story.
    
    The timing was not hers.
328.10LJOHUB::NSMITHrises up with eagle wingsThu Oct 10 1991 09:2663
    re: .7, Paul,
    
>   Re:  Hill.  When you talk about being enraged over the senators
>    treatment of Ms. Hill *as a person* I am a bit confused, simply because
>    we (and they) do not know her "as a person."  For that matter, we do
>    not even know Thomas "as a peson" -- just the charade the media feeds
>    us over the tube, bite by bite.   Notwithstanding ridicule and rude/
>    impolite treatment, which is wrong.
    
    Sorry, my language was not precise.  I am referring to the "ridicult
    and rude/impolite treatment," which, IMO, make up a personal attack
    as opposed to dealing with the merits (or lack of merits).
    
    - To doubt her credibility "out of hand"
    
    - To cast doubt *because* she didn't report it ten years ago (and to
      say what she "should have done" and what the man speaking (at any
      given time) would have done and equating that (implicitly) with "what
      any reasonable person would do"
    
    - To cast doubt *because* she continued to have professional dealings
      with him
    
    - To blame her for the timing (in spite of the fact that the judiciary
      committee approached her and that even then she was reluctant)
    
    These are what I meant by the way they treated her as a person.
    
>    Should the senators assume Hill IS 
>    credible and IS a honest, decent person until she is proven otherwise?   
>    Should they believe in the goodness of her word?   Isn't that equivalent  
>    to believing that Thomas is guilty until proven innocent?  
    
    No, it isn't the same at all!  They should not *prejudge* either
    person's credibility.  *That* is the point!  Sure, if you know Thomas
    and trust him (as one Senator was stating), you continue to trust his
    denials -- but you can, at the same time, leave yourself open to the
    evidence that you (perhaps) have either not yet seen or (worse yet)
    may have chosen not to examine!
    
>    Personally, I think the senators should 
>    be suspect of her word and credibility, until they have the wherewithal 
>    to check it out.  
    
    Do you honestly believe that if a *male* law professor who was an
    *honors graduate* from Yale Law School came forward with *any*
    allegations against Thomas that his credibility would be immediately
    suspect as hers was?
    
    I'm trying -- perhaps quite unsuccessfully -- to say that there is
    a difference between refusing credibility to someone out of hand and
    judging that the other person is guilty.  You can say that A is a
    person of integrity and so the charges A brings certainly need to
    be taken seriously while also saying that you believe B is innocent 
    unless and until proven guilty.
    
    I can imagine that a male who is harrassed would almost never be
    believed, unfortunately.  I have *heard* men say -- undoubtedly only
    joking and without any idea of what it would really be like -- that
    they'd love to be sexually harrassed!  Very sad.
    
    Nancy
    
328.11CVG::THOMPSONRadical CentralistThu Oct 10 1991 10:3817
>    Please read what I wrote again, more carefully.  The "proof" I referred
>    to had nothing to do with proof of Hill's charges against Thomas, but
>    of "proof" (obviously not the legal kind -- perhaps I should have said
>    "strong evidence") that our *Senators* don't understand

	I was asking for the proof or stong evidence that the Senators don't
	understand.

>    Sorry, Alfred, but you don't understand at all.  You're still focusing
>    on Thomas and his guilt or innocence while I was hopeing you could
>    understand the difference between *that* issue and the other.  It seems
>    to have missed you completely.

	No it didn't miss me. I was talking about two issue which you merged
	into one. Mia culpa probably.

			Alfred
328.12DPDMAI::DAWSONLooking for realityThu Oct 10 1991 11:0123
    RE: basenote...
    
    
                      My one real hope is that this thing can be proved one
    way or another.  I would hate to think that political attacks could
    destroy anyones chances for promotion and career enhancement.  I also
    think that a proof that "she" is lying would be *SO* hurtful to the
    womans movement that it might take years to recover.  If the proof
    turns the other way, then I think that this man has *NO* right to be on
    the highest court in the land.  A most difficult situation.  
    
                      I also think that a very valid question should be
    asked of the committee as to why they did not take seriously the
    information when they recieved it.  In all fairness to both parties
    involved.  I shudder to think that in this day, our elected officials
    are *STILL* playing the "good ole boys" game.  With events throughout
    the world occuring as they are, our elected officials have a greater
    responsibility to govern and pass on very important and world changing
    issues.  I am saddened by the handling of the whole process and has me
    not just a little bit worried.
    
    
    Dave  
328.13Christian Perspectives?TFH::KIRKa simple songThu Oct 10 1991 12:2737
Nancy,

Thank you for bringing this up, I found your base note extremely well thought 
out and expressed.  I've watched some of the televised hearings, and caught 
some of the discussion on the MacNeil/Leher NewsHour (where, as far as I can 
tell, they make a concerted effort to bring together several people with 
strong viewpoints from many sides of an issue).

I have my own (mixed) thoughts about Thomas, but the style of discussion of 
sexual harrassment by some of our leaders I thought showed clear 
misapprehension at best, and even disdain for a majority of our population.
(And has been pointed out, there is a certain disdain for those on *both* 
sides of the sexual fence who have been victimized by such abuse.   I know.)

To hold Thomas as innocent until proven guilty, while being open to the 
veracity of Hill's claims may be a difficult proposition for some, but I think 
it is well worth the exercise.

My question here is, what are our various Christian Perspectives?  I read this 
thread and see mostly political oriented discussion.  Yes, there is certainly 
an underlying flavor to various entries, ranging from, shall I say, the 
predominantly Old Testament perspective through a more Gospel inspired view .-) 

I myself am praying that our elected and appointed leaders find a way to do 
their work in love; of God, of each other, and of the people they work for.
I think we all fall short of the mark of accepting ourselves and others as 
equal--equally human, equally unique, equally precious in the eyes of God.

I find myself meditating on Christ's words "love, as I have loved you".  Where 
does that love take us?  Where does the divine lead us, socially, 
economically, politically?

I wonder where others find themselves as Christians debating these issues?

Peace,

Jim
328.14CVG::THOMPSONRadical CentralistThu Oct 10 1991 13:2810
    I suspect that there really isn't any disagreement as to the wrongness
    of sexual harassment. It's pretty clearly wrong. Especially from a
    Christian perspective. I think that we have debate here only over
    if it happened in this case or not. I suspect that we do not have
    enough information to make that judgment.

    Some of us want to believe Thomas innocent. Some want to believe him
    guilty. This clouds all our judgment. This is the way it is.

    				Alfred
328.15LJOHUB::NSMITHrises up with eagle wingsThu Oct 10 1991 16:2321
    re: .11, Alfred,
    
     The "strong evidence" I referred to in .8, 
>    that our *Senators* don't understand (1)why a woman
>    wouldn't report the activity at the time (2)why she would reluctantly
>    report it now and (3)why she would maintain business/professional
>    relations with the man.
     
     ...consists of statements that various ones of them have made.  It is
    true that I did not (and cannot) quote them verbatim.  Their comments
    were on TV, in the newspapers, etc.  And, of course, the comments were
    not made by *all* the Senators.  They may have been made by only one or
    two but have received a lot of media coverage. 
    
    Nevertheless, it was enough to undermine my confidence and make me
    fearful for the overall welfare of women in our country.
    
    Nancy
    
    
    
328.16DEMING::VALENZAGet thee to a notes conference.Thu Oct 10 1991 16:3292
                      Few Doubting Thomases in the Senate
                               by Ellen Goodman
                          (from today's Boston Globe)
    
    It was her word versus his.  Just a he-said, she-said sort of thing, as
    Sen. John Danforth had put it, dismissing the "October surprise," the
    "smear campaign," the "eleventh hour" accusation of sexual harassment
    that had thrown Clarence Thomas' sure thing into full disarray.

    Who was this "she" anyway?  The senators who found her "credible" called
    her Professor Anita Hill.  The others called her "the woman," or "this
    lady," or even, in the strange case of Sen. Alan Simpson, "the lady who
    was lured."

    Before Hill stepped into her televised Oklahoma classroom, measured and
    earnest, dignified and strained, the Senate's Judiciary Committee had
    dismissed her.  Before Hill said, "It is an unpleasant issue.  It is an
    ugly issue," they had decided to deal with her charges the old-fashioned
    way.  Among themselves.

    Anyway you cut it, some of these men had known since mid-September that
    the former head of the civil rights enforcement agency was accused of
    violating a woman's civil rights.  Anyway you run the sequence of
    events, they had known before the committee vote that a Supreme Court
    nominee had been accused of sexual harassment as defined by that court.

    But like businessmen running a private corporation, they handled this
    "delicate matter" discreetly, among their own kind.  Why, Arlen Specter,
    the very model of judiciousness, had gone to Thomas and gotten a
    forceful denial.  Dennis DeConcini had "made the judgment, right or
    wrong, that he was credible to me."  It was her word versus his.  They
    took his without hearing hers.  They didn't tell the rest of us.

    Would it have been better if Hill had gone public earlier?  Sure,
    although anyone who wonders why she was reluctant can listen to the
    messages on her telephone tape.  Did the senators have any legitimate
    reason for protecting Thomas' privacy?  Sure, FBI files are full of
    scurrilous attacks.

    But anyone with half an investigative eye open could have discovered
    that Hill was "no kook," as Sen. Paul Simon put it.  And anyone doing
    his job should have understood that this is a subject that deserved as
    much attention as Douglas Ginsburg's tokes of marijuana.

    This portrait of men in power is not pretty.  Capitol Hill is not just a
    place where you can bounce checks with impunity and discriminate without
    fear of the law.  It's a place where men can listen to Thomas's
    straight-faced claim that he had no opinion on abortion and then
    question Hill's credibility.

    If these men kept the lid on the charges of sexual harassment, however,
    it was not just to protect Thomas.  To many, Hill is their worst
    nightmare.  The woman who rides out of the past waving a charge.  False,
    of course, or maybe true.

    Women have always lived with a sense of vulnerability.  They have been
    vulnerable to rape, harassment, abuse; on the street, at work, even at
    home.  Slowly, they have won some tools of self-defense.  In the
    shouting match of his word against hers, it is not always or only his
    that is heard.

    Date rape, battered-women's defense, sexual assault.  With each modest
    change in attitude and law, there has been a stunning overreaction on
    the part of many men.  Where women feel vulnerable to male assault, men
    feel vulnerable to a woman's accusation.

    Rape is still vastly underreported.  Twice as many men kill their wives
    as wives kill husbands.  Sexual harassment remains as widespread as it
    is hard to prove.

    Yet when a Willie Smith is arrested, how many men think: Any woman could
    accuse me.  When a battered wife who killed her husband is granted
    clemency, how many think: It is open season on husbands.  And when
    Thomas is hit with a charge, how many thing: You can't even ask a girl
    out anymore.

    In real life, false accusations are few, maybe even fewer than false
    acquittals.  But in fantasy life, they are the "reverse discrimination"
    story lines of the time, the female pit bull attack on the ankle of
    innocent man.

    Her word is not always the right one.  The chore of proving in public
    what happened in private remains as difficult as ever.  There is no
    assurance that airing Hill's charges and Thomas's countercharges would
    lead to a crisp clean-cut winner.

    But it was not for the all-male Senate committee to silence "her word"
    before it was spoken in public.  At the 11th hour and the 59th minute
    these senators finally heard, loud and clear, the voices of women.  The
    women they represent.

    Her word, her word.  This is our word to Congress: Listen up.
328.17He Who Is Without Sin Will Be Confirmed ?PCCAD1::RICHARDJBluegrass,Music of PerfekchunThu Oct 10 1991 18:4328
    Are we electing Saints to the Supreme Court  ? If sexual harassment 
    accusations keeps Thomas from being confirmed to the Supreme Court, then 
    you can forget putting any man on the Supreme Court in the future. Sexual 
    Harassment by today's definition wasn't nearly understood ten years ago by 
    women, never mind by men. I would challenge any male who is over 40 to tell 
    us that he never said things that couldbe defined as sexual harassment by 
    todays feminist.
    
    Just telling a sexual type joke to a woman or having a playboy calendar
    on your desk constitutes sexual harassment by todays standards. However,
    I remember working  in a factory with women and men, where just about
    every guy had  a pinup hanging in his locker.

    Let's face it. Many of us older guys didn't understand the feelings of
    the women we've worked with in the past. We're learning and we've come 
    a long way in changing the way we treat women, but even as much as
    we've come to understand, I doubt  if anyone  really knows what could
    constitute sexual harassment in todays world, never mind eradicate it
    from their behavior. From what I understand, even laughing at a sexual 
    joke told by another male could put you on the  sexual harassment list. 
    How many could plead innocent to that ?

    By today's standards, St. Agustine couldn't get elected to the Supreme 
    Court. His life before his conversion surely would of prevented him
    from being confirmed.

    Peace
    Jim
328.18Responsibility, not sainthoodLJOHUB::NSMITHrises up with eagle wingsThu Oct 10 1991 23:3039
    re: .17, Jim,
    
    If you have the opportunity, please take the 1/2-day seminar on sexual
    harrassment that is offered at DEC from time to time.  Because I am
    a supervisor, I *had* to take it -- because anyone in management
    can be legally liable on a "should have known" basis (even if they didn't
    actually know that something was legally wrong).
    
    If you are an individual contributor, as I understand it, you are not
    liable for some things unless and until you are told that it is
    offensive and not to repeat it.  This would cover telling a joke or
    having the calendar.  Your supervisor/manager would tolerate it or not
    according to whether it created a "hostile environment" for someone in
    your group or facility.  (I'm *not* qualified to teach this stuff, so
    please don't hold me to the explanation.)
    
    So it's different for managers and non-managers.  And it's especially
    different for Judeg Clarence Thomas.  It is was his *job* as head
    of EEOC to KNOW the law and to uphold it!  And it will be even more his
    *job* to know, support, and uphold the law as a Supreme Court Justice.
    Your argument about changing standards, rules, definitions over the
    years doesn't apply here.  You see, IF he himself was guilty of
    violating a law his agency was supposed to enforce, how can he be
    trusted to interpret and uphold the Constitution?
    
    
    Frankly, many things that can legally constitute sexual harrassment are
    things that I find personally quite acceptable.  For example, I'm a 
    "touchy" person in that I like to touch people on the arm or shoulder,
    etc.  This is a very risky thing to do -- especially for a supervisor
    -- and yet it is second nature to me and is not intended as a sexual
    overture (much less a threat).  I can usually sense a person's
    "personal space" and respect it (refrain from violating it).  (It's only
    sexual harrassment if it offends the person being touched.)  
    
    But what if I'm wrong in assessing a person's comfort level or in not
    sensing his or her need to avoid being touched?
    
    Nancy
328.19JURAN::VALENZAGet thee to a notes conference.Fri Oct 11 1991 00:03133
Article: 1013
From: harelb@mssun7.msi.cornell.edu (Harel Barzilai)
Newsgroups: misc.activism.progressive
Subject: CLARENCE THOMAS OPPOSED EEOC INVESTIGATIONS OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT
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CLARENCE THOMAS OPPOSED EEOC INVESTIGATIONS OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT 
 
Fairness and Accuracy in Reporting, Oct. 10, 1991 
 
[Excerpts transcribed and edited by the Christic Institute, 
Washington, D.C.] 
 
NEWS ADVISORY: Reporter Laura Sydell of radio station WFUV in New 
York City has uncovered documents dealing with sexual harassment 
linked to Clarence Thomas' work on the 1980 Reagan transition team. 
The excerpt below, according to Sydell, is from a part of the report 
of the EEOC transition team that was inserted by a subcommittee that 
consisted of Thomas and one other member. The passage criticizes ``a 
barrage of trivial [sexual harassment] complaints against employers 
around the nation.'' It urges that the EEOC not devote resources 
toward ``the elimination of personal slights and sexual advances 
which contribute to an intimidating, hostile or offensive working 
environment.'' 
 
The EEOC transition report would appear to be relevant since Thomas' 
subcommittee report urged a low priority for the type of harassment 
of which Thomas has been accused. Yet the document has not been 
widely reported. 
 
.. . . The documents were first reported by Sydell on Oct. 7. The AP 
story on the documents ran Oct. 8. 
 
For more information: 
 
Laura Sydell    (212) 365-8050, (212) 877-7541 
Jim Naureckas   (212) 633-6700, (212) 598-4436 
 
Document 1: Excerpt from report of EEOC transition team, 1980, 
inserted by a subcommittee of which Thomas was a member: 
 
``. . . the vagueness of the definition of discrimination has 
undoubtedly led to a barrage of trivial complaints against employers 
around the nation. The elimination of personal slights and sexual 
advances which contribute to `an intimidating, hostile or offensive 
working environment' is a goal impossible to reach. Expenditure of 
the EEOC's limited resources in pursuit of this goal is unwise.'' 
 
Document 2: Memorandum from Clarence Thomas to Jay Parker of the EEOC 
transition team, dated Dec. 22, 1990: 
 
``On November 10, 1980, the EEOC promulgated guidelines on sexual 
harassment. These guidelines hold an employer responsible for acts 
of sexual harassment in the workplace. The employer is `responsible 
for its acts and those of its agents and supervisory employees with 
respect to sexual harassment regardless of whether the specific acts 
complained of were authorized or even forbidden by the employer and 
regardless of whether the employer knew or should have known of their 
occurrence.' 
``These guidelines expand the common law of agency. Under common law, 
the actions of the agent must be within the scope of his employment 
before the principle is held liable. The EEOC guidelines not only 
eliminate this requirement that the activities of the supervisory 
personnel be within the scope of employment, but go so far as to 
state that even if the employer forbids such action, it will still 
be responsible. 
 
``Recommendation: 
 
``It is recommended  that these guidelines be reexamined and that 
the liability of the employer be related to its participation in the 
alleged sexual harassment.'' 
 
FAIR is recommending phone calls to newspapers and other media to 
ask if they plan to run this story. They suggest the following 
message: 
 
``I'm calling about a story on Clarence Thomas. It was about a 1980 
EEOC transition team report. Thomas helped put together a section on 
sexual harassment recommending that EEOC funds not be used to pursue 
elimination of sexual harassment in the workplace. 
 
``Have you seen the story? I know AP ran a story on it. Fairness and 
Accuracy in Reporting has the information. 
 
``I haven't seen anything on it. Are you planning on running 
anything? When? If not, why not?'' 
 
The following is a partial list of phone numbers for television 
networks, wire services and newspapers: 
 
ABC World News Tonight                   212-887-4040 
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Associated Press     Washington          202-828-6400 
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328.20 I Agree With You NancyPCCAD1::RICHARDJBluegrass,Music of PerfekchunFri Oct 11 1991 10:3129
    RE:18
    Nancy,
    	  yes, I agree with what you are saying. However, articles that
    were in this weeks paper on sexual harassment were scary. DEC's policy
    as you have given us seems reasonable. What extremist feminist groups 
    want, would make any male fearful of looking at women or talking to
    them about anything other than work. Last night on the PBS McNeal
    Leaher SP ? report, they were talking about the same thing. They
    interviewed some managers of the top Fortune 500 companies, and they
    said, that when they talk to their female counterparts or employees,
    they make sure they only talk about work, and whenever possible make sure 
    there is someone else around. What great environment to work in !&;)

    Our world is gone crazy. My wife is a second grade special needs aid in the
    elementary school in my town. She said some of the kids she works
    with will often come up to her and hug her and thank her for helping them.
    She is put into a dilemma because she is not suppose to even touch a child.
    So like she said, "what am'I suppose to do, push the child away from me ?" 
    The only affection some of these kids know is what they get at school. 
    She gives clothing to some of them because some come to school in cold
    wet weather, with out socks on and shoes that have holes in them. I
    bet she isn't even suppose to do this cuz the parents could say it
    humiliates them.


    Original sin is making compassion a thing to be feared.

    Peace
    Jim
328.21Trying to further communicationLJOHUB::NSMITHrises up with eagle wingsFri Oct 11 1991 10:5668
    Jim,
    
    I have hope (when I'm in my usual optimistic mood, but that isn't the
    case *this* week!) that when men (in general) truly understand what
    offends women, what impact "sexual stuff" has on many women's ability
    to do productive work, and *why* this is true for women, then MAYBE the
    rules won't have to be so rigid!
    
    I *enjoy* sexual repartee -- when it is among *equals* who obviously
    respect each other and aren't "on the make."  I agree that *for me*
    the absence of all such exchange would make the workplace very dull.
    After all, our sexuality is part of who we are, and
    recognizing and affirming it can build up general, overall
    self-esteem.  (In other words, I appreciate being appreciated as a
    woman -- providing I'm ALSO appreciated as a productive worker!  The
    first does not substitute for the second!)
    
    On the other hand, Jim, it takes an *awful lot of energy* to be ready
    and able to defend oneself against improper, uncomfortable advances,
    demeaning comments, etc.  Many of us learn coping mechanisms that we
    have to employ daily!!!  When I stop to realize how much *energy* that
    requires that could otherwise be spend in productive work, it really
    makes me furious!
    
    So if the only way to solve the problem is for men to start spending
    more of *their* energy in dealing with being "fearful of looking at
    women or talking to them about anything other than work" then I can
    feel angry enough to say -- even to a friend like you -- live with it!!
    (Questions of the day:  does this make sense to you?  Do you understand?
    Am I able to communicate these issues effectively?)
    
    How many men have even *tried* to understand why behavior that men find
    harmless and "fun" can be deeply offensive and hurtful to women -- at
    least before all this came up this week?  It's painful for all of us to
    talk to each other (cross-genders) about these issues.  It's hard for
    us women to understand men's fears of being falsely charged when we
    think men don't understand what it does to us inside to "put up with"
    *unwanted* things from men -- sometimes on a daily basis. 
    
    I think you were the one, Jim, to ask about our "Christian
    perspectives" on all this.  I believe it is our Christian
    responsibility to promote communication and understanding on these
    issues.  I'm much less judgemental toward someone who *understands*
    -- or at least tries to understand -- even if his behavior doesn't
    always measure up to his understanding -- 'cause *my* behavior sure
    doesn't always measure up!
    
    RE: touching, etc.  Part of the rationale for the legal stuff here (in
    terms of touching an employee, for example) is that we have no way of
    knowing who has been abused or had other traumatic experience that
    causes them to react to touch differently than we might expect.  That's sad,
    but statistics indicate that an awful lot of us (both female and male)
    have been abused, and we don't want to stir up painful
    memories/reactions.
    
    As for not touching the children, that boggles my mind.  On the other
    hand, I suppose it is "necessary" to avoid being charged with child abuse.
    (Have you read "The Good Mother"?)
    
    I think my Christian discipleship would require that I touch (in an
    appropriate way) and take the risks of being falsely charged.  At least
    in cases of obvious need.
    
    By the way, am I really the only woman in this conference interest in 
    discussing this stuff?  I realized last night that all my exchanges here
    so far have been with men...
    
    Nancy
328.22this is serious for men too you knowCVG::THOMPSONRadical CentralistFri Oct 11 1991 12:0025
    One thing that women appear not to understand about this issue
    is how scary it is to men. There is no defense in our society
    against a charge of sexual harassment. Teachers lose their jobs
    regularly because of harassment charges. Often the charges are
    dropped later because the girl only made them (with out base)
    to "get" the teacher. This is not to say that there aren't all
    too many valid charges. There are - but a man knows that a girl
    (no matter how young) can destroy his career on her word alone. 
    That is scary. At a time when we need male teachers as examples
    for boys raised in fatherless homes we are making it too risky
    for them to consider teaching kids - especially teenagers.

    Likewise many men in business are afraid to deal with women. Especially
    older men whose business behavior was formed in the days when women
    were less common in the work place. All of a sudden things they said
    and did which were safe in an all male environment are grounds for
    dismissal. Even though there is no intent or desire to make anyone
    uncomfortable.

    Women seem to think that men don't take sexual harassment seriously
    or try to understand it. I think women don't understand, or even try
    to, the man's side. There are two sexes involved here but many women 
    seem to forget that. The men I know take it very seriously.

    			Alfred
328.23 PCCAD1::RICHARDJBluegrass,Music of PerfekchunFri Oct 11 1991 12:3411
    RE:21
    Nancy I like the way you explain it !

    Most women, especially the ones I work with are real good sports,
    and I would guess that the type of woman who goes running off to personal
    at the first off color remark are exceptions and not the rule.
    We have had such type women  in my department, but they usually had a 
    problem getting along with both men and women in general.

    Peace
    Jim
328.24CARTUN::BERGGRENa deeper wave risingFri Oct 11 1991 13:0213
    Nancy .21,
    
    > By the way, am I really the only woman in this conference interested
    > in discussing this stuff?
    
    No.  My work load over the last few days has been such that I cannot
    participate beyond read-only.  Thanks for opening this topic up Nancy.  
    All responses have been extremely thought-provoking and I appreciate 
    them and the participants here a *great* deal.  I hope to add more
    later.
    
    peace,
    Karen                     
328.25Another hand upCGVAX2::PAINTERFri Oct 11 1991 13:3411
    
    Nancy,
    
    Same here - not enough time...and also I haven't been able to closely
    follow the events either (however I'm taping the 10am hearing today and
    hope to watch it tonight).
    
    I am interested though.  I've been fighting this all my life, and
    you're right - it is tiring and energy-draining.
    
    Cindy
328.26WILLEE::FRETTSif u want to heal u have to *feel*Fri Oct 11 1991 15:1813
    
    Me too Nancy.  I haven't come to any conclusions about this because
    I want to hear the full disclosures that are happening today (at least
    they are scheduled to).  I too appreciate the exchange in this note.
    I may be back to share some thoughts in this note and I may not...just
    not sure how my schedule will be and whether I will be able to put
    my feelings into words on this topic.
    
    However, I do feel that what has happened with this is similar to the
    tip of an iceberg finally getting everyone's attention, but there is
    so much more of importance going on underneath it.
    
    Carole
328.27News update...BUFFER::CIOTOFri Oct 11 1991 15:2930
    Just a quick update....
    
    My brother, Ed, called me about an hour ago to say the congressional
    hearings re Thomas/Hill have been very, very explosive and emotional so
    far.  He said Thomas gave a highly emotional, tearful, angry statement
    regarding his reputation.  In it he reportedly said something like,
    "This job isn't worth it!  My reputation is permanently reuined and
    the pain inflicted on me and my family is unfair/irreparable.  If
    you want me for this job fine.  If not, it isn't worth what you are
    putting me through.... Everything Prof. Hill said about me is not true.
    In fact, she never voiced any concern/grievance regarding what she is
    accusing me of..."  or some such thing along those lines.  
    It was a downright tearjerker, designed to be that way or otherwise.
    
    Senator Hatch angrily blew up, shouting/screaming at Chairman
    Biden, when Biden told the committee not to ask questions of
    Hill pertaining to personal things in the FBI report, things having to do
    with her and Thomas's private life.  "I'll quit this committee
    if we're not allowed to question the accuser!  All the information
    is already out in the open, reported by the press.   Everyone already
    knows all the things we're going to question Prof. Hill about!"
    
    Sen. Biden called a recess to cool everyone off.
    
    This report is second-hand, so I don't know exactly how accurate it is.  
    But one thing is for sure:  It's quite an explosive spectacle.  
    I wished I had remembered to tape it.  Catch it on the news tonight.
                                                                
    Paul
    
328.28SHALOT::LACKEYBirth...the leading cause of deathFri Oct 11 1991 16:0721
Hi Paul,

I had the opportunity to take a long lunch and I watched most of what 
occured prior to the lunch recess (around 1:15).  Most of what you 
reported, in terms of content, was accurate; but the notable exception 
is that the proceedings, while being very graphic and somewhat intense, 
were nevertheless very subdued.  Thomas' opening statement was very 
emotional and potent, and contained the message you described.

Hill's opening statement was very subdued, but clear and void of 
specifics.  The questioning, however, quickly got into the details of 
who said/did what and when.  There was some irritation between Hatch and 
Biden, but from what I saw there was no "blow up."  They exchanged 
several "All I'm trying to get at is...," and "Well what I thought you 
were asking was...," type statements; but there was no yelling or raised 
voices that I heard.

Btw, CSPAN will be replaying all of the coverage in the evenings 
according to a newspaper article I saw.

Jeff
328.29Praying for "righteous judgement"VMPIRE::WASKOMFri Oct 11 1991 18:2833
    I've been struggling with how to approach this topic.  Much of my
    personal study in the last few days has focused on Bible Concordance
    work with "justice", "judgment", and the like.  The most obvious call
    is to look to God for true justice and righteous judgement.  I see
    precious few praying for God's will to be done by *all* parties
    involved in the nomination/judging processes currently in the political
    arena.
    
    I'm also becoming more and more aware that the strongest attacks on 
    Good (not a typo) are coming in the arena of sexuality/sexual relations/
    relationships in this era.  I can't figure out exactly *why* yet, but 
    I'm working on it.  :-)  Other eras have had other challenges, this
    appears to be ours.
    
    So far as the specific nomination of Clarence Thomas, I'm not thrilled
    with him as a candidate, and haven't been from the beginning.  He
    wasn't willing, while head of the EEOC, to enforce the laws that his
    job called for him to enforce.  That strikes me as behavior that is
    less strong-minded and fair than what I want on our court benches, at
    all levels.  And this is from someone who is politically conservative
    on many things.  What I want is non-idealogues in positions of judging.
    
    I got my first exposure to sexual harassment education, in an attempt
    to wipe it out, at another employer in 1978.  That education stated
    what has been stated since - harassment is in the eye of the beholder. 
    You don't make sexual comments at work.  If someone complains, you stop
    the conversation, take down the poster, remove the calendar, whatever. 
    That goes both ways - men can complain just as much as women can.  The
    offendee doesn't have to complain to the offender directly, and whoever
    receives the complaint to has to act promptly to resolve the problem.  
    Here at Digital, I haven't had a problem, for which I am grateful.
    
    Alison  
328.30some personal observationsBUFFER::CIOTOFri Oct 11 1991 19:0548
    .28  Jim,  I guess the story that was passed along to me was a bit
         exaggerated, but we shall see when it all comes out in the wash.
    
    Nancy.... Re:  teachers and students.  I know many teachers (male and
    female) who have told me they do not, under nearly all circumstances,
    touch a student or get left alone with a student for fear of being
    accused of child molestation/abuse.
    
    This is sad.  So many children NEED decent affection/compassion and
    touching.  But I am afraid precautions are necessary.  We as a society 
    are not ready yet, not mature enough yet, to differentiate between what
    constitutes healthy/good touching and intrusive/bad touching.  And
    even then, what is "good" to one is "bad" to another.  For example,
    I am a rather touchy person, like you.  However, I have my own 
    standard for what is offensive and what is not.  Someone touching
    me on the shoulder in the workplace is OK.  However, during 
    the years, I have been pinched on the rear by a few females in the 
    workplace.  (I can tell you all are laughing now!)  But that happened.  
    It happens to other guys I know too.  The women, when confronted 
    with it, thought nothing of it.  They said it was just harmless 
    flirting and that I was too sensitive.  (These women were not 
    even friends; they were good work acquaintances.)
    
    Do many women feel safe coming onto men in the workplace, thinking
    that the men will *welcome* it?  (If so, they may have good reason
    to think that.)
    
    Anyway, we as a culture are uptight and messed up about issues
    regarding touching, physical affection, and sexuality.
    
    Sure, guys say they WANT to get sexually harrassed in the workplace.
    It is basically true, to a large extent, but they have very 
    STRINGENT criteria.  First and foremost, the woman
    must be *attractive*.  Personally, I think getting pinched on the 
    rear by ANYONE in the workplace, attractive or not, is offensive.
    But with a lot of guys, it is not ...  but ... but... 
    God help any woman  who comes on to these same guys -- expecting them
    to like it -- when the guys consider her unattractive.  A lot of guys 
    I know simply freak out when a woman, who they perceive 
    as unattractive, comes on to them, but would nevertheless welcome
    blatant sexual come-ons in the workplace by women who they 
    consider attractive.    
    
    I don't expect many people to agree with these personal observations
    of human nature, but I wanted to share them with you nevertheless.
    
    Paul
    
328.31LJOHUB::NSMITHrises up with eagle wingsFri Oct 11 1991 22:166
    I agree with your observations, Paul.  (If there was one I disagreed
    with, it sure didn't jump out at me!)
    
    :-)
    
    Nancy