| Title: | Welcome to the Non-Custodial Parents Conference |
| Notice: | Please read 1.* before writing anything |
| Moderator: | MIASYS::HETRICK |
| Created: | Sun Feb 25 1990 |
| Last Modified: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 420 |
| Total number of notes: | 4370 |
Just thought I would open up a new note for Karen's concerns. Kinda
good to keep it out of the intro note, I think.
My take on this is that the situation sounds reasonably stable. It
also sounds pretty fair that you are not paying him since he did not
pay you for a long time. The thing with the state is one of those "go
fight town hall" issues. Since it is minimal, it is probably cheaper
and easier to let it go. As to whether or not you should pay support
now? Well, that seems to me to be a really personal issue. Can you
afford to make your sons life better, does he really need it, and do
you want to?
As for NCPs not paying, it depends a whole lot on the circumstances.
If they are supposed to or are needed to and don't, then I get a might
riled up. Otherwise, I just hope you keep your son's welfare in mind.
I also sympathize over the behavior of your son and its affects on you.
Kids can be hell, even pretty good ones.
Hugs
jimc
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| 151.1 | Thanks | RIPPLE::KENNEDY_KA | One Day at a Time | Tue Aug 27 1991 18:46 | 12 |
Thank you Jim for opening up this note. I do keep my son's welfare
first, I pay for all the little incidentals, guitar lessons, clothes,
etc. I do not send the money to my ex, but to his mother, that way I
know my son gets it. My son has calmed down considerably since living
there and I *KNOW* that it is the best thing for him. I guess the only
thing I would ask at this point is should I go after my ex for my back
support? At times it feels like I should, because it is rightfully
mine and at other times I wonder, why bother. If I could get the court
to issue an order where just his income tax refunds were sent to me, I
would be happy. Any comments?
Karen
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| 151.2 | Its Yours | POBOX::WILLIAMS_L | Fri Aug 30 1991 19:03 | 3 | |
They are your due for managing the care and feeding of your son. As
long as you use it for him I see no reason why it should not be
collected as the court has ordered.
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