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Title: | Topics Pertaining to Men |
Notice: | Archived V1 - Current file is QUARK::MENNOTES |
Moderator: | QUARK::LIONEL |
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Created: | Fri Nov 07 1986 |
Last Modified: | Tue Jan 26 1993 |
Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
Number of topics: | 867 |
Total number of notes: | 32923 |
501.0. "FRIENDS AND WOMANKIND: A Friend's Viewpoint" by GWYNED::YUKONSEC (Leave the poor nits in peace!) Thu Sep 06 1990 16:43
I posted this in TINCUP::QUAKER and MOMCAT::WOMANNOTES-V3. It was
suggested that I post it here also. As I said in WOMANNOTES, if it
is inappropriate, the moderators are free to delete it.
This is from a little pamphlet I have. Actually, this *is* a little
pamphlet I have.
It is not entered as an exercise in getting converts, and should not
be construed as such. I enter it because of what it says about
Quakers, and our attitudes toward women.
Dr. Mary Steichen Calderone is a physician specializing in public
health. She is also a member of the Religious Society of Friends.
I think she wrote this about 1984, but I'm not positive. It is, I
think, still relevant.
Note: Where there are two sets of quotation marks, Dr. Calderone
entered a quotation.
""Who comprises mankind?" Everyone, men, women and children."
""Who comprises womankind?" Women."
""Why the separate-but-not-equal term womankind, as if women were a
sub-species?" Why, indeed?"
""Why not use humankind to mean men, women, and children, and mankind
only as the equivalent of womankind?" Why not?
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""In a large southern city I noticed in some of the older public
buildings that there were separate washrooms still labeled 'colored
women' and 'white ladies'." Separate but never equal."
""Didn't that seem to black women like an insult?" It surely did."
""If the signs had read 'colored ladies' and 'white women', wouldn't
black women have felt just as much put down?" Maybe more so."
""Then what about the washroom signs I saw in a large modern
building--these signs read 'Men' and 'Ladies'." Same kind of put down,
by sex instead of color."
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"Being a Quaker lays on one the responsibility for engaging in a
continuing internal process of finding out what one really believes in,
and relentlessly tracking down one's own bigotries, prejudices,
inconsistencies, blindness, and refusals to recognize truth and accept
it as such. Conversations with oneself like the above are part and
parcel of that process."
"It is kind of a gadfly one carries around within one as a Friend--but
gladly. If one cannot achieve such open conversations with oneself, it
is certain that communication with God will not be open."
"Friends have always been especially sensitive to and questioning
about the ways in which human beings relate to each other, in a
continuing re-examination of their own inner and outer relationships.
This consistent component of Quakerism has resulted in the equally
consistent and insistent habit Friends have of looking upon and
treating all human beings as persons, regardless of age, color,
economic status, religion, occupation or gender."
"Walk cheerfully over the land, seeking that of God in every*one*"...
George Fox [the leader of the Quakers, though not really a "founder"]
never assumed that spiritual development was the sole province of men.
Men and women Friends have always shared their responsibility,
ministry, and accomplishment, as well as their seeking and suffering.
Mary Dyer was hanged for persisting in her right to be a Quaker.
Elizabeth Fry initiated one of the longest-held Friends'
concerns--prison reform. Friends were among the first to educated men
and women equally. Some of the women's movement's great heroines are
Quakers--Lucretia Mott and Susan B. Anthony, leading abolitionists and
feminists, and Alice Paul, author of the women's rights amendment."
"To Friends, a woman is first and foremost a person; as it happens, a
female one, but a person in her own right. As such, she is separate
and equal to, but not the same as, a man, who is a person in *his* own
right."
"Friends perceive "personhood" as uniquely human. It is bestowed upon
us as humans, by God. It is a gift claimable by each of us on behalf
of ourselves, but only as we work to make it available to all others.
Because Quakers recognize that the process of change starts at home,
within oneself, the struggle for "personhood" is an individual one that
moves toward achievement only as one helps others achieve theirs."
"Today we see a rising of women in groups, acting on behalf of
themselves as individuals and collectively, but not often enough on
behalf of men. There are probably two main reasons, both hopefully
moving into past history, for this one-sided concern by women."
"The first one lies in the undoubted sexism of males. Collectively,
throughout the centuries, men controlled women in all of their
activities, by any number of subtle and not-so-subtle devices--legal,
social, economic or psychological. Women today are quite rightly
identifying and resisting these devices. Happily, so are some men on
behalf of women, in recognition that these devices have served both
sexes very poorly."
"The second reason is perhaps a general unawareness of how shackled
men have become by their own self-forged bonds. Consider the terrible
demands the "male role" makes on male human beings: they must wage war
on each other, be strong and never weep, brave and never admit to fear,
achieve "success" at all costs, bear the brunt of the economic
responsibilities for their families, be able always to "score" sexually
with women. And consider how many things they have been prevented from
being, or doing because it was "unmasculine": dancing, cooking, being
intimately involved in raising their children, being affectionate to
their male friends. . . . It is always risky to generalize, but these
things are probably true for many men within the Society of Friends as
well as in society at large."
"One hardly thinks of Friends, men or women, as revolutionaries and,
in truth, their outer demeanor, comportment and life style have tended
to be quiet and conservative. But on major social issues--slavery,
peace, alternative service during was, religious ecumenicism, racial
equality--on such issues Quaker concern and conscience come on strong.
Quaker voices are usually heard loud and clear "speaking truth to
power.""
"Friends can witness to the need of males as well as of females for
liberation on many fronts simply as human beings. The significance of
revolutions never lies in what they are *against*, but in what they
are *for*."
"And, despite some objections to tactics, it is clear that Friends
have much to gain from the women's movement in our own search for
"personhood" for all people. Behind the rhetoric and the clamor is a
heartfelt and justified plea from women on behalf of women, to be
allowed to become full human beings, with maximum possible fulfillment.
Clearly, humankind will not be able to find and witness to that of God
in each of us until its major elements--men and women-- perceive and
witness to that of God in themselves and in each other. This must be
in the course of all of their daily relationships, whether in the
family, at work, in recreation, and in worship."
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