| Title: | Topics Pertaining to Men |
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| Moderator: | QUARK::LIONEL |
| Created: | Fri Nov 07 1986 |
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my son has been playing league baseball for 5 years starting with
minor league, then little league and now he is in babe ruth league.
here is the problem.
i was going to go up as a coach of a team after they had their draft
the manager who had fifth pick was going to pick him and then i was
going to be a coach on that team.well my ex-wifes boy-friend coaches
on another team that picked third and they picked him before we could.
i have been his coach for all 5 years he has played and he is good at
it the four years he has played in little league he made alstars and
last year he pitched three no-hitters. i feel it alot of this was due
to the extra time that i put in with and his own will to be the best
at his game he is very competive.
not to run on but how hard is this going to be to see my ex's
boyfriend spending this prime time with him when i feel it should
be me i've talked to him (my son )and told him how i feel and that
i will still help him all i can but this will be for the next three
years how would you handle this
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| 443.1 | Another Father | FTMUDG::RAYER | You were my only cuddly toy.(sp) | Tue Apr 10 1990 15:37 | 16 |
"Little league, is it an adult game or is this a game for the kids." I remember the times my son played ball.I coach,wife ran the concession stand, it seemed nice to get involved. The parents of the kids in little league seemed more involved in the game than the kids. The parents were at each others throats during the games. Some of the kids in the outfield looked like they were in a world of there own. Some kids did'nt want to play, its just that there parents thought they should play. After all this I would suggest you sit back and enjoy your son, help him as much as possible to keep him interested in the sport. Don't worry who's coaching. Just be there to support him while he's playing, he knows who his father is. From another Father, | |||||
| 443.2 | stay with your son | ASABET::EHNSTROM | Tue Apr 10 1990 19:14 | 6 | |
Agree with -1. Don't get caught up in the game... get caught up in
your boy; it works better that way.
Thom Terriffic
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| 443.3 | IT'S NOT THE GAME - IT'S HOW WELL YOU FATHER! | SUBWAY::JBARNES | Thu Apr 12 1990 18:23 | 39 | |
Agree with.1 & .2
I have two sons that were involved in football, baseball and basketball
from the time they were eight all the way thru college. At times I
coached the teams they played on and on other occasions they were
coached by others.
If I had it to do again..... I got to see more of them when they were
coached by others, they had less peer pressure because they weren't the
coaches son, and in the end they learned all that I could teach and
what others could teach. In addition we didn't have to carry the
player/coach things home with us.
If you want to be a good coach you don't always get to watch your son
or daughter play because you have to watch the whole team and coach the
whole team. When I coached them I found a tremendous urgency to be
tougher on them as players to compensate for any perceived favoritism
and that wasn't necessarily fair.
As to some of the other observations, I ran a youth football league
with 1400 8-13 year olds for 7 years. Parents who tried to influence
coaches (without giving any of their time), coaches who coached like
their livelihood depended on it, parents who forced their kids to play,
parents who thought we were babysitters and never picked their
sons/daughters up till 11:30 or later, coaches who couldn't understand
that they were coaching children instead of pros were the toughest
thing to deal with.
The best support you can be is to be in the stands and cheer his team
on, give him a vote of confidence whether he has a good game or not,
and try not to criticize his coach any more than you would any other.
My sons are aged 28 and 30 now and our fondest memories were the times
we spent together on the field and on the court....we didn't win them
all but we had fun trying together.
Best of Luck,
JB
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| 443.4 | in agreement | ASABET::EHNSTROM | Wed Apr 25 1990 18:59 | 14 | |
agree with all of the above!
I chair/coach a local ball league also. This year we have 215 boys
and girls ages 4 - 12. I have as yet to see may youngest boy play in a
game because I'm running the older division where my oldest boy is. As
a coach its tough not to play favorites but I also get warm feelings
when the other 11 children on my team come week after week after week
and some other coaches can't get enough players to field a team. Just
seening those kids come is enough for me to know that I'm diong the
right thing to my boys and the rest of the league.
Thom Terriffic
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