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I doubt that the law really makes "teasing" illegal. And IMO, it shouldn't.
The kind of behavior that the law is aimed at is life threatening, or so
extreme that a single incident could have serious emotional consequences.
There was an extensive series about this in the Boston Globe a couple of weeks
ago.
The legislation is largely the result of the efforts of a few mothers of young
men who died as the result of hazings. The deaths have typically been the
result of alcohol poisoning and/or exposure. I'm not sure of the specific
example Lyn refers to, but there was a death at American International, but it
was due to excessive alcohol, not spaghetti. One specific incident that was
mentioned in the Globe article was an initiation "spaghetti dinner" in which
the participants sat at a table. The dinner consisted of spaghetti and large
amounts of various kinds of alcoholic beverages. Garbage cans were provided
in case the participants needed to throw up. That's all I recall clearly,
but if memory serves me correctly, the participants were not allowed to leave
the table until all the alcohol was consumed. Now, IMO if a person does that
voluntarily he (the _documented_ cases are almost exclusively male) is
unbelievably stupid. But if a person forces, through any type of
intimidation, another to do something similar, their conduct is, IMO properly
labeled as "criminal". In the case of the mother who was most responsible for
the legislation, her son died in a hazing in which he was forced -- perhaps
"intimidated into" is a more accurate term -- to consume something like a half
gallon of whisky. He was then was locked in the trunk of a car, naked, in
subzero weather. He died of alcohol poisoning and exposure.
Now some "hazings" are pretty harmless, and my even serve as a bonding
mechanism for the participants and promote a feeling of belonging on the
people who go through them. I don't think anybody will ever be prosecuted for
making underclassmen carry meal trays for the seniors, or for putting shaving
cream in someone's sneakers, or making freshmen stand up on their chair and
sing. But there is some conduct which goes FAR over the line of what is
reasonable behavior, and deserves to be treated as criminal. This conduct
includes the dangerous things mentioned above, and some conduct, which IMO
constitutes sexual and physical abuse, outlined in the Globe article.
I'm working from memory, so I may not quote thing exactly, but I haven't
embellished. I've also put the remainder of the note behind a form feed,
since it's pretty graphic, and some of you may be offended. But suffice it so
say, we're not talking calling someone names or even stealing a lunch.
Clay
In the Globe article, the lead incident involved a high school track team on a
bus, unsupervised. The larger (one of them 6'5" and 280 pounds) and older
kids were at the back of the bus. The younger, smaller kids were told --
accompanied with the threat of physical violence -- to sit at the front of the
bus, to not look back, and to come back when their name was called. When
their name was summoned, they were told to do things like strip, stick their
fingers in their anus and lick them or to eat pubic hair. Eventually, the
perpetrators were forbidden to participate in school activities, such as track
and school dances, etc. Of the ten perpetrators, six weren't punished at
all, because they had not physically touched the victims. IMO, the punishment
was too mild. The lack of phycical contact may be mitigating, but certainly
should not excuse entirely. The perpetrators could have been charged under
the anti-hazing law, but to date haven't been. So once again, we ain't
talkin' about making a kid wear a beanie.
The attorney for one of the perpetrators was quoted as saying that his client
"shouldn't be treated as a criminal for 45 minutes of stupidity". Sorry, but
I disagree.
In another incident, two students were stripped, and told to race, holding a
cracker in their buttocks. The loser had to eat the crackers.
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| Just a clarification -- the after school program my daughter is in,
and which distributed the note, is for 6th graders. I don't think
6th graders do the sort of "hazing"
in the previous notes, but some children are quite abusive (spitting
in other children's food, namecalling, putting dirt in their hair or
backpack, attempting to make them fall when riding their bike, etc.)
Since grownups have the right not to have people
do that sort of thing to them, I think children have the right to
be treated with respect as well. It is difficult to make things
that aren't immediately life threatening criminal, though.
Radia
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| I'm thinking about this one. If I had to define "hazing" I would say it
is an act (verbal, physical or mental) which is used as an initiation
stunt. The AIC incident was part of a fraternity initiation, if I'm
remembering correctly. Kids don't go out and say "let's haze people
tonight". You usually know the people doing the hazing and you accept
it as part of the initiation.
My swim team in high school somewhat had hazing for the initiation of
freshman. It fell upon 2 types of people - those who were "accepted"
swimmers (the kids who were great swimmers and in the in-crowd) and
those girls who wouldn't say "boo" but really wanted to be on the team.
It was merely getting your bathing suit pulled off and thrown back into
the pool. Yes, an accident could have happened from a struggling,
slippery swimmer. We did have a girl report it, namely because she
didn't want anyone to see her naked. We didn't get in trouble per say,
but were told not to do it anymore. The intent was never malicious, it
was never to hurt or harm. It was merely an initiation and it didn't
happen to everyone and no one sat around a scheduled the initiation
"activities".
I think initiation rights are okay if they are within reason. It
becomes labelled as hazing when it seems to be over the top. I do think
there should be a law to protect victims of hazing incidents and
"prosecute" those that go over the top with the stunts they pull. I
don't think this law should have any impact on teasing. They are
seperate things from my perspective (even though teasing can be very
damaging).
There is no way the government could ever come up with acceptable
hazing activities so it is easier to ban them all together.
Andrea
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| <Now some hazings are pretty harmless and may even serve as a bonding
mechanism...>
Coming from a college sorority, I can say (in my experience at least)
that historically, that's what hazing was meant to be. . . a bonding
experience. It used to consist of the wearing a beany stuff, singing
for your supper stuff, etc.
Unfortunately, each class strives to "out-haze" the class before.
Hence, the extremely dangerous activities that abound today. I was
lucky in that I was a founding member of a national sorority on my
campus, thus we had no class to outdo. We didn't do _anything_ to our
pledges (trial members). If you tried to do anything, even "get me a
coke" - you were out of my sorority.
That was 7 years ago. . . I'm afraid of what the kids may be doing now.
Why am I afraid? I personally know of other sororities/fraternities on
campus who:
- tied pledges up naked in sub-zero weather to trees, roofs, cars,
anywhere public
- had pledges of one fraternity shoot bee-bee (sp?) guns at the
sorority girls across the street. When the town police were called,
they didn't respond because it was only a "fraternity" incident
- had their male pledges lie in a circle with their mouths open,
while they poured _anything_ (I won't be graphic here) into their mouths
they desired
- had their male pledges sit naked, on large blocks of ice, for hours
at a time. Some of them are probably reading infertility articles now,
and I'm not making light or joking - think about it
This stuff is child's play compared to what I've heard goes on in the
bigger schools where fraternities and sororities are more popular.
This includes the stuff like go to a rocky gorge where a coffin is
strung across the top, you pretend you die and get in the coffin and
they string you across. After of course everyone is roaring drunk.
Yup folks, the rope broke on somebody and he died.
Sorry to ramble, this is a subject I feel very strongly about. There's
no place to draw the line, so _all_ hazing has to be off limits.
And don't think this isn't happening in junior high. Ask an
ex-cheerleader, football player, or other organized activity member.
The ones who are a part of it now probably won't tell, but the ones who
have grown up and know better probably will!
I applaud the new law - but don't think it was meant for "unorganized"
type teasing. I hope somebody posts a note here with a little more
info for us all.
Thanks for the topic!
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