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Conference moira::parenting_v3

Title:Parenting
Notice:READ 1.27 BEFORE WRITING
Moderator:CSC32::DUBOIS
Created:Wed May 30 1990
Last Modified:Tue May 27 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1364
Total number of notes:23848

1348.0. "Kindergarten/When?" by ABACUS::ALBERT () Fri Apr 03 1992 13:50

    
    I was wondering at what age should a child be put into a pre-school	
    kindergarten? I have a 3 1/2 year old and I was contemplating taking
    her out of her private home daycare and putting her into a pre-school
    but many people have said she's too young and my other concern is that
    I need to find one that will take her full time. I can't have a
    situation where it's part time. I thought that maybe when she is 4
    or 4 1/2 that would be a good age to put her in. Any suggestions out
    there would be greatly appreciated. One note, my sitter spends alot
    of time with them reading,doing numbers coloring abc's you name it.
    
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1348.13-1/2 is a good age for changeAKOCOA::TRIPPFri Apr 03 1992 15:0116
    My experience with the shift from home care to preschool was done at
    just about the 3.5 age.  Most preschools are geared to the 3 to 5 year
    old bracket.  I think the kids do well, simply by virtue of being
    grouped by their own age.  ( I own a success story, I can't believe how
    much he learns each day!).
    
    My experience is that most that are "flexible and forgiving", which
    means if they overlook the fact they might not be completely toilet
    trained, or if they don't feel like taking a nap today, it's OK or just
    want to play instead of being read a story are the best.  I avoid all
    those that seem strict and inflexible.  The one who say that a 3 year
    old MUST be COMPLETELY toilet trained.  That is an unrealisic
    expectation, most of those types (IMO) are also the hardest ones to
    deal with as far as sensitivity to the children's needs.
    
    Lyn
1348.2Fine, for most kidsCLUSTA::BINNSFri Apr 03 1992 16:598
    3 1/2 is certainly not too young.  Our first 2 *loved* being old enough
    to "go to school", as opposed to staying in a home day care situation
    -- even a very good one, as we had. The oldest switched a the standard
    2 years 9 months (when the child is no longer considered an infant for
    staffing purposes). The 2d went at 3 1/2 yrs. The third will go next
    month, at 2 yrs 9 mos.
    
    Kit
1348.3Mommy is today daycare day???CSOA1::ZACKFri Apr 03 1992 17:2413
    When I switch my daughter (then 3) from a home day care to preschool/
    daycare situation she loved it.  I seen such a difference in her 
    development. She didn't want to come home with me at night.  Even when 
    I was on maternity we let her stay part time in daycare because she 
    wanted to. (I can't say I didn't enjoy the break and opportunity to be 
    alone with the baby).
    
    Our problem now is that we have placed the girls in daycare only three
    days and week and my husband works shifts so that he can be home with
    them on two days.  Well my daughter wants to go to daycare everyday.
    Oh well...
    
    Angie          
1348.4XLIB::CHANGWendy Chang, ISV SupportFri Apr 03 1992 20:135
    I started my son at a pre-school right after he turned 3.
    He loved it.  He wanted to go everyday even weekends.
    Why not give it a try?  I bet your daughter will love it.
    
    Wendy
1348.5Our experienceICS::NELSONKTue Apr 07 1992 13:4013
    I think a lot depends on the kind of preschool you're considering.
    And it depends on the child.  My son just turned 4 in late March.
    We could have started him in preschool last fall, when he was 3.5,
    but he wasn't toilet trained (this is a church-run school that
    requires toilet training; that's about the only thing they insist
    on), I had just had our daughter in late June, and I was going
    back to work the week of Labor Day (you should excuse the expression),
    then preschool started Sept. 15.  So we felt that was a lot to put
    on a little boy's plate.  My sitter and my husband and I talked it
    over at some length, and we felt that very little would be gained
    by starting James in preschool last fall.  So he's going this fall.