Conference moira::parenting_v3

    Could someone who watched the 20/20 episode last night give us a
    re-cap??

    3 main sections were  :
       (1) parental interaction w/ child right from birth...showing how the
    parents engaging and bonding with the child affects them...showed some
    infants from an orphanage who failed to thrive due to lack of sufficient
    human contact
       (2) sleep patterns - using the Ferber method to modify child's
    sleep behavior...video section of parents utilizing the Ferber
    method, i.e. teaching him to self-soothe
       (3) the terrible twos - THIS CHILD LOOKED AND ACTED EXACTLY LIKE
    MINE - the never ending battle between his new independence and
    your (as a parent) need for control....how many limits to set, etc...
    complete with video tapes section of child throwing tantrum in 
    grocery store.
    

    I would love to see this.  If anyone in PKO taped it, could I possibly
    borrow it?
    
    I never even saw the advertisment for this special.
    
    BTW, what were some of the suggestions to a parent of a two/three year
    old?
    
    Thanks.
    Joyce
    x9025

    The program is available from 20/20 for a cost ($19.95, I believe).
    I think that is a bit steep but if you can't find anyone who 
    did tape it, you might want to contact 20/20.
    
    I think the segment on sleep problems using the Ferber technique,
    offers a very convincing argument for consistency handling poor 
    sleep habits early in a childs life. I remember cringing the 
    first time I saw this segment many years ago because I had 
    recently gone through sleepless nights because of a daughter who 
    couldn't comfort herself back to sleep.  Now, several years later, 
    I still cringed watching that segment. I really felt for the parents 
    (and child) even though I currently experience a full-nights sleep 
    on a regular basis. Sleep deprivation is a very serious problem.
    
    Jodi-  

    regarding the 2-3 year old behavior...they had the parents speak
    with brazelton who viewed the tape footage...he maintains that limit
    setting is important but you really have to go with the flow and 
    pick up cues from the kid...he stressed the importance of understanding
    that the kid is experimenting at all times and that the pattern
    is normal developmental growth. the mother wanted to maintain
    consistency and he sort of let her off the hook by saying that was
    very difficult to achieve at this age. i think the underlying message
    was to aim for consistency but expect that you can't achieve it.
    
    i noticed that brazelton has that very calming effect on people...sort
    of like walter cronkite...but of course their kids are all grown !

    I'll supply a blank tape if anyone in the MRO, NRO or SHR would make me
    a copy.  
    
    What IS Sleep????
    
    Lyn
    297-2220
    

    ..And what about the supermarket temper tantrum mentionned?
    
    My kids are 7, 3 and 1. I go shopping with them every week (without my
    wife), and I have always sworn that the day one threw a tantrum I would
    gather them up and walk out the door, leaving the cart where it was.
    Whoever was responsible would not go shopping for the next couple of
    times, no matter what arrangements had to be made. I've never come
    close to having to do that, and these are some very strong-willed kids
    who at that 2-3 age can be quite rough.
    
    Kit

    Denise,
    
    My husband taped the sleep segment and the tantrum segment of the
    20/20 program.  It's not a great copy but once we finish viewing it
    I can let you borrow it.  
    
    I must say that watching the sleep segment last night was very
    disturbing but it reconfirmed that the process we took with our
    daughter about letting her get herself to sleep since she was
    6 months old was correct.  We have not had any sleepless nights
    since then except due to colds or booster shots.
    
    I plan to watch the tantrum segment tonight and will add my 
    opinion/reaction to it tomorrow.
    
    -Patty

    The main reason most of us missed this show, was the fact that it
    wasn't listed in the various TV sections. For some reason what ever
    show was planned for that time slot, wasn't shown.

    My husband had been watching sports and flipped this program on in
    mid-stream. I didn't know WHAT was going on when I first saw this
    little tyke SCREAMING in the crib. It was horrible, as our Daniel has
    never done that. He lies down, fusses for a few minutes then falls
    asleep. Anyway, back to the show.... I was amazed at how the Ferber
    method helped this couple and the child responded to the consistency.

    You realize, that if everyone who wants a copy of this program chipped
    in, they could get a copy from 20/20 for only pennies a pop?

    I just sent a full copy of the program to the basenoter for her to view
    and copy.  If anyone wants to continue that process of copying, be my
    guest.  I just eventually want it back.