Conference moira::parenting_v3

    He may still be a bit sick--when my son (16 months) has a cold, he
    acts in much the same way: clingy and crying, wants to lie down but
    won't sleep for a long time, doesn't eat as much as usual, etc.
    
    When he's over the cold all that behaviour goes away.  I think that
    there is still some pain (sore throat? stuffy nose? sinus pain?)
    for some time after the fever and other more obvious symptoms are
    gone.
    			-John Bishop

    
    Donna - I think Eric might still not be feeling well.  See note 672
    regarding a bug that has been going around.  Spencer had the fever,
    vomitting etc. for a couple days, but after that it was just winey,
    crying, inpatient, and forget about asking him to do anything, and
    wicked loss of appetite.  It took about 9 days for him to get totally
    back to being himself.  I was getting worried too.  So maybe he still
    isn't feeling well but can't communicate to you where he doesn't feel
    good??  
    
    Good luck
    elizabeth
    

    I agree, it sounds like he's still not completely recovered from the flu.
    It took my kids (and me, too!) well over a week to get back to normal,
    even though the obvious symptoms - fever and achiness - only lasted
    a few days.  They were grumpy and had much smaller appetites than usual
    for quite a while.  It sounds like everybody's giving your son plenty of
    good care - hope he's back to normal soon!

						Cheryl

    I would bring him to the doctors for a check since it sounds like
    he is still not feeling well.  At that age and similar symptons,
    my cousin's son had mono.  He was at the same sitters as my son and
    normally a very friendly active child.  But during this one week,
    he pretty much kept alone and was not acting himself.  She took him
    to the DR's and after a few tests, found he had mono.  I never
    heard of anyone getting it that young but it happened.  A quick
    trip to the drs will rule out physical problems.  Good Luck!
    
    Jennie

    My daughter (14 months) had the flue the end of January - beginning of 
    February.  Kati who is definately not a clingy baby, very independent 
    wants to be held and rocked (which Mom doesn't mind since its been about 
    8-9 months since she would let us hold and cuddle her).  She crys at the 
    drop of a hat, and if somebody looks at her funny she falls to the
    floor and sobs.  Her usual healthy appetite, has also diminished.   
    
    I can totally relate to you, about being sad.  I breaks my heart to see
    her like this.  She is also at a sitters, and gets tremendous amounts
    of attention there.
    
    My sitter noticed that Kati is just about to cut a tooth, I am sure
    this is adding to her fussiness.  Do you think your little one could
    also be working on a tooth of his own.
    
    I guess we just need to ride this one out.  Good luck!             

    Thanks for the replies so far.  I feel better hearing everyone else
    who had this bug ended up acting this way.  I visited Eric at lunch
    and he still seemed a little different, but he was upset because he
    thought I was there to take him home and he wanted to stay!  When I
    picked him up he started crying.  When I put him down he was better.
    
    He did do that awfully sad/hurt feelings cry when a couple other boys
    were holding his shoulders doing a follow the leader type thing, but
    that was about it.  Maybe I'll take this opportunity to cuddle some
    more.  It was nice to be able to just lay with him for as long as
    I wanted last week when he was sick.
    
    re: mono. I know of several people whose kids/husbands have mono
        right now or just got past it.  I hope it's not that.  
    
    Donna
    

    We have that flu out here in CA, too, and its wicked!  Just when John
    (2.2 yrs) seemed to be getting better he started the weepies, too. 
    Turned out he had a sinus infection and an ear infection.  Those ear
    infections can be really sneaky and painful.  Took JM about two weeks
    to get better and start to eat again.
    
    Cathy

    
    re .7  That would be my guess too!  Check for head shaking and ear
    pulling, also sleep disruptions.  Those ear infections are sneaky!
    
    Rochelle

    Chase too!  4 and 1/2 days of fever and now a very bad runny nose.
    He is still cranky and eating light.  I would give it some more time! 
    Luckily you have a Dr. appt. to make sure its nothing else.

    Eric is at about 98% of his ole self again.  Tuesday night he seemed
    much improved.  No crying, just wanting to be held a lot.  Wednesday
    he seemed very good.  The doctor checked his ears and they are fine.
    I was afraid because he got many ear infections when he was an
    infant and I dreaded them coming back.  Looks like he's outgrown
    that problem. 
    
    So as they say, if you want a problem cured, enter a note and the
    next day your child will be fine.
    
    Thanks,
    Donna
    

    The other thing that I found (we went through a week home with the flu
    last week) is that the first few days back at daycare are exhausting -
    it's getting back in to the schedule etc that is tiring, so at 6 pm,
    their fuse is a little short....
    

Your note could have described David (16 months) a couple of weeks ago. 
As with Eric, David's doctor proclaimed his ears and sinuses clear, but
he kept having bouts of weeping when it seemed that all efforts to 
comfort him only made it worse -- no appetite from a kid who normally
eats like a horse -- back to three bottles of milk and one of juice when 
he was nearly onto the cup -- and cutting four teeth at the same time, 
poor kid.

He still has bouts of this when he's tired, and his appetite remains
erratic about three weeks after he was sick.  So don't be surprised if
you have another couple of bad days.  

--bonnie