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| 369.1 | | CHCLAT::HAGEN | Please send truffles! | Tue Sep 25 1990 12:34 | 13 |
| I don't have any advice or experience with this, I just wanted to mention
that I've read you should tell a child that the baby is growing in a special
place inside of Mommy. Not to tell the child the baby is growing inside of
Mommy's tummy. Children will think anyone with a tummy can grow a baby,
and that they might become fearful that they, too, are pregnant.
It sounds as if your son is just using his very active imagination. I wouldn't
worry. You can always get him a stuffed animal or doll (a gift from the new
baby?) to be his baby after yours is born.
I am very interested in the replies to this note. I haven't told my son (who
is almost 2.5) about our baby, yet. I wanted to wait until I was about 5 mos.
along.
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| 369.2 | I think it's pretty normal | SCAACT::COX | Kristen Cox - Dallas ACT Sys Mgr | Tue Sep 25 1990 13:32 | 7 |
| Kati is much younger (19 mos.) but she also thinks she has a baby in her
tummy. She also thinks her daddy has one too. But the only one she
kisses and hugs is Mommy's tummy. She has thought this from the beginning,
and I never saw anything wrong with it (we plan to give her a doll that she
can change diapers, etc.... when the baby is born).
Kristen
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| 369.3 | Not until it "obvious" | NRADM::TRIPPL | | Tue Sep 25 1990 13:36 | 15 |
| I had read that you shouldn't mention the pregnancy to a sibling until
it is "obvious", for a lot of reason including they have no concept of
time, what if something goes wrong and you miscarry etc. It sounds
logical to me at least.
A humourous note, I remember a friend who had a child about 3 or 4 and
had explained babies growing and pregnancy the "hard way", when a cat
gave birth in the middle of the day. A few days later she was sitting
at the kitchen table sewing, and between the PMS bloat, and the way she
was sitting she looked pregnant. Up comes her son who pokes her in the
tummy and asks "You got me a brother in there Mom?" I can only imagine
the look on her face! Kids, they say the darnest things!!
Lyn
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| 369.4 | IT IS NORMAL | CGVAX2::GALPIN | | Tue Sep 25 1990 17:25 | 16 |
| Your son is definitely normal! My first son used to say the same
thing when I was pregnant with my second. I also tried the no you
don't have one in your belly, but he kept insisting, so I dropped it.
During my pregnancy, I bought a book on baby animals to help him
understand what was going on. I also bought a book which gives
excellent pictures of the fetus throughout the nine months. It really
gave Brad a picture of what was growing inside me. I explained to him
that when the baby was big enough, I would go to the hospital and the
doctor would take it out (C-section). When his brother was born, he
was really excited and never gave it a thought that he didn't have
"his" baby. By the way, he was almost 3 when Tyler arrived. So, go
along with it, talk to him often about the baby, and enjoy your
pregnancy.
Diane
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| 369.5 | Thanks | MAJORS::MANDALINCI | | Thu Sep 27 1990 10:14 | 10 |
| Thanks, folks!!
I figured he wouldn't really have any problem when I actually delivered.
We do talk alot (not obsessively) about the baby and I let him look at
the pictures in my pregnany books (not the delivery ones). Since he has
no concept of real-time at this point, we just told him that the baby
would be ready to be born after Santa Clause comes. Now, I'm just
hoping I don't go more then 3 weeks early!!!
Andrea
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