Conference moira::parenting_v3

    I know my wife liked comparing the similarities and differences between
    her two pregnancies.
    
    
    Mike

    Kate,
    
    You could try one of those over the counter ovulation kits. 
    
    It's best to stay away from coffee as much as possible but I guess
    watered down is better than full strength.
    
    I've read that many experts say that 3 years difference is ideal. My
    2 are 2 years 10 months apart and they have a blast together.
    
    Good luck 
    
    Kate
    
    Oh, By the way.................relax.;^).

    Kate -- 
    
    It took me forever (well, a year) to get pregnant the second time. 
    I don't know if it was my body resisting what my head said I
    wanted ("No, no, you can't do this to me again!") or the
    situation, or just that it had been a few years, but we were on
    the verge of seeking medical help ("OK, we'd better go to the
    doctor as soon as we get back from vacation") when I turned up
    pregnant with Steven (on the first day of said vacation, I woke up
    and dashed to the bathroom...)
    
    But the third time, like the first, was easier than falling off a
    log. 
    
    You can try cutting your coffee with decaf -- it's slightly better
    than watering it down.  But I've heard more people report good
    results by making hubby wear boxer shorts instead of jockey shorts
    :) :) :)
    
    --bonnie

    Hi Kate,
    
    This may sound silly, but it helped with us (with Aisha anyway...Jakey
    was a welcome little suprise!). I read a book named, "How to get
    Pregnant". I can't remember the author, but I know it's in the store
    or library.  The book was good. It gave alot of advice and showed
    how to take basal temperature etc.
    
    Anyway, it said to prop your rear up on a pillow and pull your knees
    up (you know what I mean...with your feet flat on the bed while
    you are lying down still?). This is supposed to help hold it all
    in, if you get my drift. It said to do it for a 1/2 hour. It also
    said not to go to the bathroom right away after sex as you lose
    some of the semen if you do that.
    
    It worked for me. Aisha took 1 week to conceive!
                                      
    Good luck....it'll happen when you least expect it!
    
    Dot

    Boy do I remember trying to get pregnant with the second child.
    Our first daughter was concieved on the first try.  We then waited
    almost 4 years and then started to try for number 2.  Well... I
    was so set on having this baby (and of course it would be a girl)
    my poor husband almost had a coronary ;^)!  We tried and tried and
    nothing happened.  I cut out all coffee, smoking and the occasional
    beer.  It was going on six months and I began to think something
    was wrong because with our first baby it was so fast.  Then the
    time came when I KNEW that I was pregnant.  I went out and bought
    a home pregnancy test - well it came out negative!!  I was so depressed
    I called my OBGYN and went in for a test.  Well that test also came
    out negative :'(  She told me to go bakc at the end of the week.
    I did and and the test came out positive.  Talk about screwy.  I
    had concieved towards the end of my cycle that's way the tests were
    coming out negative.
    
    Anyway I had a girl and everything was fine.  I would say the biggest
    problem was trying tooooooo hard and not relaxing (my hubby didn't
    have a chance to)!
    
    I would suggest relaxing and not rushing and if you can cut out
    all caffine if possible.
    
    Relax don't hurry!
    Denise

re .4:

>                                    I read a book named, "How to get
>    Pregnant". I can't remember the author, but I know it's in the store
>    or library.  The book was good. It gave alot of advice and showed
>    how to take basal temperature etc.

    Dr. Sherman Silber.

    Time for some real life advise, as told to me by my son's (but not
    then) Godmother......Go out and commit to a long term debt you just
    know you can't afford anyway, let alone think about if you have another 
    person to feed and dress, or stay out of work without a paycheck!!
    
    It worked for us, the first time we had just bought a sporty *little*
    TWO seater car...expensive!! the second time we had put our condo on
    the market and were in the process of trying to pay cash for land to
    put a pre-fab home on and the bridge loan in between!  I had actually
    gone through several months of Clomid, temp charts, hormone
    suppositories and very contiously trying to get pregnant, then I just
    said I won't try anymore, no more hormones, suppositories etc, it's too 
    much bother.  THAT was the month I got pregnant with AJ!  My son's 
    Godmother had her first right out of nursing school, with student loans up 
    the kazoo, her second was as they moved into this tiny little farm house 
    with only a master and a tiny little bedroom too small to share.  (She said 
    next time she'll check the expiration date on the contraceptive jelly).
    
    So just give up on getting pregnant, that MY sure fire method!!
    
    Lyn
    

  We had problems with #2 too.  With number one we were pregnant on the
  first try but with #2 we tried for 3 months, then had a miscarriage, then
  waited 3 months to try again, and then tried for 4 months before getting
  pregnant.  It was so easy the first time I was really surprised with
  how long the second one took.

  Even though that isn't alot of time compared to lots of people who try
  I was an emotional wreck.  I was constantly wondering if I was pregnant
  and hated deciding whether I should have a beer or drink coffee or not.
  I also hated the rollercoaster of thinking I might be pregnant for 2
  weeks and then being depressed for 2 weeks when I knew I wasn't and then
  getting excited all over again because I thought I might be.

  I can certainly see why people would want to stop trying and take a 
  break.  It also seemed like everyone I knew was pregnant.  I guess maybe
  I'm over emotional but it drove me nuts.  I did start using a basal
  thermometer which helped me feel like I was doing something.  Well Kate,
  I'm certain it will happen soon enough.  Hang in there.