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The basic concept is that giving physical rewards for good behavior
reinforces the child to ask "what is in it for me?" as opposed to
internalizing why it is in their interest to eat their vegetables,
be honest, trustworthy, etc.
Maura
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The concept in .1 is pretty much how we've raised our daughter.
We have never used any physical rewards since we EXPECT her to
be capable of accomplishments (such as toilet training, brushing
her teeth, be honest, be compassionate, etc) just because she is
human. Since all humans (unless challenged) can use a toilet or
toothbrush or tell the truth or be nice, we don't see the point
of rewarding such natural progressions. Yes, we do have celebrations
for extraordinary achievements, like being on the honors roll or
winning a competition. It works for us.
Eva
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| I tell you, I get a good poop out of my Angeline and I'm ready
to throw a parade as a reward! ;-)
So far, though, I generally do not give much in the way of
physical reward for an immediate action. Well I mean, encouragement
and hugs and expressions of pride flow easily. But an actual treat
as a reward comes at more unexpected times.
Like Saturday...I've been trying to teach Angeline to ask for
things "nicely". Ongoing process. However, we both got up in
great moods Saturday. She asked for things well without prompting.
We played together nice all day, and had fun outside, and she didn't
protest much of anything...we just had a great day. Sometime during
the afternoon, I slipped her a couple Hershey's kisses just "for being
so good today" and "making Mama have SO much fun!". :-)
Works for now, but I'm sure things will change and change with time.
cj *->
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