| Title: | Meower Power - Where Differing Opinions are Respected |
| Notice: | purrrrr... |
| Moderator: | JULIET::CORDES_JA |
| Created: | Wed Nov 13 1991 |
| Last Modified: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 1079 |
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Hello to everyone !
My name is Elisabetta and I am writing from Milan (Italy).
I'm a feliner and I have 2 kitties living in my flat together with
me and my husband.
GIGIO is a wonderful black male european smoke tabby with big,
green eyes. He's 1 year and a half old. He has always been an
introvert and aggressive cat.
LUNA is a beautiful female european blue and white with
yellow-green eyes. She's 6 months old.
I have some problems as Luna has been with us about 3 weeks now and
Gigio keeps on eating her food, beat her (even if it seems to play
with her, also) and doing a lot of mess together expecially on
evening and early morning. Above all he seem really sad and
depressed by this situation as Luna is really friendly and purrs
all over all the time, and she stole his bed (which is our bed,
obviously!).
I'm in a confusion. I wouldn't like to push away the baby as she's
so sweet and lovely, but at the same time, I am supposing Gigio's
thinking is that I am not taking care of him anymore, even if we
are trying to give him all the love possible.
Any suggestion on how to manage the situation ?
Thank you for your help and sorry for my bad english.
Elisabetta
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| 618.1 | Divide et impera... | BPSOF::EGYED | Per aspera ad astra | Tue Sep 28 1993 11:37 | 13 |
First of all, remember that time solves most problems. I am sure, here
are a lot of feliners who can give you best advices. As for me, I have
only one cat, but as my mother introduced the second cat to her
household, it gave similar problems, which were solved with time and
love and patience fully.
A question: is your husband also a cat lover? Perhaps try to 'share'
cats, best way cross-sexed, that means yours should be the male cat,
and his the female... Then each of them has an 'own' human to rule,
that might help!
Nat from Hungary, who just returned from Italy, visiting the Milan
Catherdal and is YET impressed!
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| 618.2 | Give extra loving! | POWDML::KAREN | Tue Sep 28 1993 12:13 | 9 | |
Elisabetta,
Perhaps you could put the new kitty in a separate room for just a
little while and at the same time give special treatment to the older
cat.
If you did this for maybe 15 minutes or half an hour each day, the
older cat would know that you still love him and that he is still
special and won't have to fear that the newcomer will intrude on his
"special time".
Karen
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| 618.3 | Yup, lots of love and attention..... | STUDIO::COLAIANNI | I have PMS and a handgun ;-) | Wed Sep 29 1993 09:35 | 21 |
Elisabetta,
Nat probably hit the nail on the head, so to speak, when he said, it
just takes time. Three weeks is not a great amount of time really, when
it comes to an only cat adjusting to a new arrival. Make sure you give
your older kitty LOTS of attention, and maybe try to stroke both of
them at the same time if possible.
It took my little female Furby MONTHS to get used to the introduction
of Finnigan, while it only took Feendoonie a few weeks. Of course they
are still wary of him, as he's so large, that when he pounces on them
he knocks the wind right out of them! ;-)
Patience and love will eventually win him over, I'm sure. Please keep
us all informed as to your progress. As you probably already figured
out, we all LOVE to get kitty stories!
Love,
Yonee
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| 618.4 | These things take time ;^) | ELWOOD::FEASE | Andrea Midtmoen Fease | Wed Sep 29 1993 11:26 | 4 |