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Conference lgp30::christian-perspective

Title:Discussions from a Christian Perspective
Notice:Prostitutes and tax collectors welcome!
Moderator:CSC32::J_CHRISTIE
Created:Mon Sep 17 1990
Last Modified:Fri Jun 06 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1362
Total number of notes:61362

164.0. "Your own memorial service" by CSC32::J_CHRISTIE (Masterpeace) Tue Feb 19 1991 21:56

What would you like your own funeral or memorial service to be like?

Richard
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164.1CSC32::J_CHRISTIEMasterpeaceWed Feb 20 1991 00:4114
I would like some to sing or recite the words to "The Impossible Dream."

I would like the passage in Corinthians read that says something like,
"God chose the weak to confound the strong; God chose the foolish
to confound the wise." (I'm still limping along without a concordance)

I would like a time of spontaneous sharing, where anyone so moved may
speak.

No flowers, please.  If you've got the urge to send flowers, please,
do so before I die.

Peace,
Richard
164.2SA1794::SEABURYMWed Feb 20 1991 09:5614
       I had a uncle who was a Passionist who retired to a monastery
     in W. Springfield Ma. where he died after a long and peaceful
     retirement. 
       After the funeral Mass was said the other residents of the
     monastery held the "Father Ed Memorial Barbecue And Basketball Game"
     which he had requested. He wanted people to remember him by enjoying
     themselves doing the things that he enjoyed and he certainly loved
     cook outs and playing basketball.
        I've always thought I'd like something similar done. Perhaps
     a 10K run and picnic or a canoe trip and camp out would fill the
     bill.  

                                                               Mike
164.3No Irish Wake, please!GWYNED::YUKONSECFreeway Condition: HUG ME!Wed Feb 20 1991 12:028
    attended!   (*8
    
    
    After that, I would just like it to be a Meeting for Thanksgiving, in
    the manner of Friends.  Really, what else could I possibly want than
    people I loved giving thanks that I was in thier lives?
    
    E Grace
164.4do your survivors a *BIG* favorCSCOA1::LANGDON_DWed Feb 20 1991 15:5024
    You know,,planning (or at least outlining) your own memorial service
    can be a *great* service to your survivors and your minister.
    
     Think about it,,(I've helped plan such services for my mother (3 yrs 
    ago),my father-in-law (2 yrs back),and my brother (last Easter).
     Coming right on top of the loss it wasn't easy remembering such
    things as favorite Bible verses,hymnns etc.Sitting down with the
    family and minister to plan a service on short notice was downright
    uncomfortable!
    
     Many years ago our church had a series of discussion group meetings
    on memorial services/funerals,,our minister urged all of us to at 
    least write down outlines of what we'd like----WITH the reminder that
    services are *Really*  for the LIVING,,,.
    
    Anyway----- I want mine to open and close with "Lord of the Dance",,
    (preferrably with trumpets ala Copeland's Appalacian(sp) Spring!)
                I like *all* of the Bible ,,maybe Psalm 108,,
                I want it upbeat (hey,,*I'll* be through struggling at that 
                point)
                I want it short
                No flowers,,give the money to your own church or charity.
    
    Doug 
164.5PAARRRTY!CSC32::LECOMPTEThe lost are always IN_SEASONThu Feb 21 1991 03:5411
    
    	I think this is funny (in a morbid sort of way).  If so many people 
    want they memorial service to be light and not somber why are so many
    so depressing?
    
    	I agree with all of the above.  I think there ought to be a party.
    I know of at least one person that will be in a partying mood when I 
    die.  I also want an alter call at my funeral.  When I die, I know
    where I'm going and I would like every one that attends my funeral to 
    follow me.
    
164.6LEZAH::BOBBITTa pickax a compass & night gogglesThu Feb 21 1991 13:5022
    My grandfather has already planned his service, which will be delivered
    by my-aunt-the-minister, and to make it easier for her he even worded
    it with gender-inclusive text (no all-encompassing "HE" or "HIS"
    stuff....) - he's a really special man and I'm sure I'll just cry
    buckets at this service (thank whomever he has not passed away yet, but
    he must someday after a VERY long and full and amazing life).
    
    For me?  I'd love someone to read some of my poetry.  None of this
    open-casket stuff, just cremate me and sprinkle me liberally over the
    coast of Maine.  Lots of candles and stuff - in fact maybe no normal
    lights, just candles.  And colorful flowers - none of this lily stuff. 
    And kleenex in every pew.  Maybe everyone can hold hands with the
    people next to them, or hug the people next to them or something -
    something warm, so my warmth can continue through them.  
    
    Final words would be something like the inimitable phrase from "Dead
    Poets Society"  
    
    "Carpe diem - make your lives extraordinary!"
    
    -Jody
    
164.7LEZAH::BOBBITTa pickax a compass & night gogglesFri Feb 22 1991 12:137
    oh, and in addition, I'd love to have about a dozen people, friends and
    relatives, share something about me with the people at the service,
    something that was special to them, some facet they remember very
    clearly.
    
    -Jody
    
164.8Who's in a hurry?GRANPA::LROSSThu Feb 28 1991 01:008
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    > What would you like your own funeral or memorial service to be like?
    
    I would like it to be delayed as long as possible, thank you.
    
    Larry