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K.T.
Among the many other things I have researched over the years, dream
interpretation has always been one of the most rewarding and
interesting subjects. Many things that occur in our dreams are attempts
by our own subconscious minds to voice concerns that we may decide to
ignore otherwise. You may already know this, of course, but others here
may not.
The theme of being stripped, particularly by anonymous and threatening
figures of the opposite sex, is a frequent symbol of a helpless
situation. In a dream, clothes can represent our sense of security, and
the removal of those clothes represents a loss of that security, and a
feeling of having no control over a situation. It also represents a
sense of vulnerability.
The oil is a strange one, and not one I have ever encountered before.
Unfortunately, my books are all back in the UK, so I cannot check, but
I would say that either this was triggered by some recent event or
experience, or some personal imagery that might not be obvious to
anyone else. It does however serve the purpose of removing even more
control from you in the situation.
A bottomless black pit it always a worrying element in a dream. I have
only had one dream myself with such vivid imagery, and featuring "the
pit", and it was at a very difficult time of my life. These images are
all strong, and the fact that you seemed to struggle to escape but
could not wake up, indicates that this message is very important.
I do not know your situation, and with the limited background you give,
I can only guess at the meaning, but if I had to make a guess, I would
say that:
Your friend's departure has made you look at your new family
responsibilities in a different light. You are no longer as free
as you were, and you find yourself looking to a long future of
being tied to a family. This may not be a conscious thought at all,
indeed I would expect you to most strenuously deny it, but it does
occur to almost everyone in your situation. You had to make an
important decision, and you were perhaps unsure of where your
loyalties lay. It may not even have been directly related to "Joy",
she may just have been a convenient image, as representing a loss
of something. Your child was struggling, as they do, and you wanted
to hold onto him, and your friend, but in the end you made your
choice. You followed your child, and your instincts, and made the
ultimate sacrifice. The fact that you woke at this point is a good
sign. Even if I am completely wrong about everything else here, I
am sure of that. You had a decision to make, and you made it. I
would be extremely surprised if this dream reoccured.
It does not really matter whether you understand the meaning of a
dream, since your subconscious has already made the decision by that
time anyway. What does matter is that something is obviously happening
in your life that you are unhappy about, and that you feel a lack of
control over. All you may be able to do is be happier in acceptance of
that fact, since there are often things in our lives which we are
powerless to prevent.
I hope this helps, but I may be way off the mark with little or no
background information on you. The best I can say is that I am
concerned for you, and that I hope things work out OK. I really would
be surprised if you were troubled by the dream again, so sweet dreams
from now on OK?
Adam.
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