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Title:Psychic Phenomena
Notice:Please read note 1.0-1.* before writing
Moderator:JARETH::PAINTER
Created:Wed Jan 22 1986
Last Modified:Tue May 27 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:2143
Total number of notes:41773

1273.0. "Another dream interpretation" by EISYFI::ISLER () Fri Jun 08 1990 14:27

	Hello there all you dream experts.

	A friend of mine had this dream a few days ago. She could not figure 
	out what it means. We thought that some of you out there might have an
	idea. 

	This is how it goes: She runs into her boyfriend in a long hallway,
	kind of dark. She said he looked real refreshed, rested, etc. They 
	start walking together. He is on her right side. But he
	is wearing an old pair of narrow, and pointy white shoes. And he points 
	them out to her. It looks like he is not very comfortable. She doesn't
	recall the contents of it, but they are talking and laughing all this 
	time.
	
	Then the attention goes to his left foot, which is now wearing sandals
	(women's) with strings (like ballet strings) tied. The sandal is very
	tight and narrow on his foot, and not long enough that his toes are 
	sticking out, touching the ground. This sandal is white as well.

	Does anyone have an idea what this could mean?
	

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1273.1If the shoe fits, ....MFGMEM::ROSETue Jun 12 1990 07:2031
    I think that this dream depicts her boyfriend as a cross-dresser.
    (By "cross-dresser" I mean a man who is heterosexual but who likes to
    dress up in womens' clothes.  As far as I know, a cross-dresser doesn't
    have a psychological problem - his hormonal development at a very early
    ago differs from the norm.)
    
    Her boyfriend is very refreshed and rested, as one might appear after a
    good sleep or after a pleasant psychological change.  He's probably re-
    turning to his male lifestyle - the all-the-way (hallway) heterosexual
    relationship - after a cross-dressing interlude.  But he's pointing out
    correctly (all white/right) that his feats (feet) are being restricted
    by rejections (shoes/shoos) and by narrow-minded attitudes that treat
    cross-dressing (the ballet strings) as a scandal (sandal). He's uncom-
    fortable.  He needs more time and more freedom to express the female
    part of himself.
    
    Here's another possibility:  her boyfriend has taken on someone else's
    problem.  He puts himself in that person's shoes.  The person, a woman,
    is exasperated - fit-to-be-tied; she has been left or is thinking of
    leaving.  She would like to have more freedom, but there are unaccept-
    able consequences or strings attached to such a move.
    
    Virginia
    
    
    
    
    
    
         
    
1273.2Any more ideas?EISYFI::ISLERTue Jun 12 1990 12:4212
    Hi Virginia,
    
    Thanks for your input. However, I know the guy real well, and know that
    he is not a cross dresser. 
    
    I think the dream was more symbolic than your first interpretation. The
    second one sounds it might be possible. I'll relay the message.
    
    Any more ideas?
    
    Thanks
    Yasemin 
1273.3Hmmm....MFGMEM::ROSEThu Jun 14 1990 07:2927
    Further ideas....
    
    The most obvious element in this dream seems to be the boyfriend's
    restrictions; and the most disconcerting element (to me) is that
    he's laughing and talking all the time the restrictions are causing
    him discomfort.  Why is he taking something so serious so lightly?
    There's no indication that he's on his way to or from a costume ball,
    or that he's lost or damaged his shoes and has grabbed the first pair
    that's available.  Perhaps he's just saying - humorously - that he's
    put up with these restrictions for a long time now and that they're
    becoming a real drag.
    
    There is something in his relationship with a woman that is binding,
    straight-laced, up-tight, too short, too narrow; he feels grounded.
    But who or what is restricting him?  His present girlfriend?  A past
    girlfriend?  His mother?  His father?  Himself?  Family customs?
    Religious or financial or work-related considerations?  Or is it his 
    girlfriend, the dreamer, who is being denied or short-changed or 
    strapped?  
    
    Virginia