| I think that this dream depicts her boyfriend as a cross-dresser.
(By "cross-dresser" I mean a man who is heterosexual but who likes to
dress up in womens' clothes. As far as I know, a cross-dresser doesn't
have a psychological problem - his hormonal development at a very early
ago differs from the norm.)
Her boyfriend is very refreshed and rested, as one might appear after a
good sleep or after a pleasant psychological change. He's probably re-
turning to his male lifestyle - the all-the-way (hallway) heterosexual
relationship - after a cross-dressing interlude. But he's pointing out
correctly (all white/right) that his feats (feet) are being restricted
by rejections (shoes/shoos) and by narrow-minded attitudes that treat
cross-dressing (the ballet strings) as a scandal (sandal). He's uncom-
fortable. He needs more time and more freedom to express the female
part of himself.
Here's another possibility: her boyfriend has taken on someone else's
problem. He puts himself in that person's shoes. The person, a woman,
is exasperated - fit-to-be-tied; she has been left or is thinking of
leaving. She would like to have more freedom, but there are unaccept-
able consequences or strings attached to such a move.
Virginia
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| Hi Virginia,
Thanks for your input. However, I know the guy real well, and know that
he is not a cross dresser.
I think the dream was more symbolic than your first interpretation. The
second one sounds it might be possible. I'll relay the message.
Any more ideas?
Thanks
Yasemin
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| Further ideas....
The most obvious element in this dream seems to be the boyfriend's
restrictions; and the most disconcerting element (to me) is that
he's laughing and talking all the time the restrictions are causing
him discomfort. Why is he taking something so serious so lightly?
There's no indication that he's on his way to or from a costume ball,
or that he's lost or damaged his shoes and has grabbed the first pair
that's available. Perhaps he's just saying - humorously - that he's
put up with these restrictions for a long time now and that they're
becoming a real drag.
There is something in his relationship with a woman that is binding,
straight-laced, up-tight, too short, too narrow; he feels grounded.
But who or what is restricting him? His present girlfriend? A past
girlfriend? His mother? His father? Himself? Family customs?
Religious or financial or work-related considerations? Or is it his
girlfriend, the dreamer, who is being denied or short-changed or
strapped?
Virginia
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