Conference hydra::dejavu

    Virginia,

    > Any suggestions or theories on why we have this continual
    > streak of bad luck???????

    If you read through this notesfile, you'll find lots of suggestions.
    From the tone of your note, for starters, I'd say that you *expect*
    "bad luck".  Some the ideas you'll find in here will tell you that
    you create from expectation.  If you expect an outcome you'll probably
    experience it.  Try working on your expectations and you may see some
    changes.

    Terry

    Reply to .0,
    
    Here are some additional ideas.
    
    It seems like you are doing something right if you are still together.
    I'd say that we learn how to create success by starting small, then
    working our way up to larger things. And it's very important to
    remember to learn from our failures. I generally give myself failure
    points when I fail then build upon that knowledge.
    
    Perhaps it may be that you don't realize what you are doing that is
    done well, then working from there. Or it may be that there is no
    recognition of what you don't know well enough to succeed in.
    
    Attitude helps. I think that the only real failure is one who stops
    trying.

    Virginia,
    
    I can sympathize, many of the things I have tried to do encounter a
    similar block. However, one must never get discouraged, I agree with
    Mike that learning from your experience is extremely important in
    understanding the value of one's ups and downs, especially the downs.
    
    What you may be faced with here is to focus on your own integrity,
    your relationship with yourselves, inside and out, and not to
    concentrate on things which are beyond your control. In this light,
    you may well be able to see things as they really are, as an aspect
    of yourselves, and how you perceive things to be, rather than a
    conspiracy.
    
    Life will be getting more difficult for all of us, consider the value
    of waking up and putting your feet on the ground every day, as a
    miracle.
    
    Regards,
    
    Sergei

    
    If I may add: If your "Luck" didn't work... The word of God is full
    of BLESSINGS. If ANY man/woman be in Christ, he/she is a new creature;
    old things have passed away, behold, all things become new (Meaning
    your spiritual being, and certain situations in life, as well).
    
      I you strongly feel that you and your family are under some sort
    of curse, I invite you to humble yourself in prayer, to a Almighty
    God, who Loves and cares about your every need in life: Repent of
    your many sins, and he will forgive you, and lift that curse that
    satan has placed upon you. BUT!! YOU "HAVE TO" BELIEVE, AND TRUST
    IN HIM!!" After (IF) you do these things, send me a mail messege
    to let me in on the results..... You won't be disappointed, if you're
    sincere @ heart.
    
    God Bless
    
    Lorenzo
    

    
    Hi Virginia,    
    
    I know what you mean, and my heart goes out to you for I've been there
    myself.
    
    My thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through your difficult
    times.  Please let us know how you are doing and if we can help in any
    way.  There is a "Request for Assistance" note set up in this
    conference for just this kind of thing.  I hope that you will find, as
    I have found, a very supportive and wonderful group of people here in
    this conference.
    
    Love,
    
    Cindy

    Thanks for all the encouraging words.  We're still trying to work
    something out on our house.  I don't think I'd been nearly as upset if
    the lady that backed out had done it sooner instead of waiting until
    the day before closing.  I mean, we're sitting there all packed up and
    now I've got to unpack a few things to get us through and pray that
    someone else comes along that will buy our house.  I think we're going
    to rent a storage room and put all the things we can live without in
    there.  I guess what really depresses me is here it is a few weeks
    before Christmas and I'm not going to put up a Christmas tree and risk
    having to take it down and moving it.  I've already gone through enough
    work that looks like it may be double work...packing, unpacking, moving
    to storage, packing, moving to the new house (hopefully), unpacking. 
    It's really frustrating.
    
    Thanks for your support,
    
    Virginia

    Virginia,
    
    I've been through phases in my life similar to what you've described
    and I've found that what always seems to work best for me is when I
    "give up and let go."  It doesn't matter.  You will have a place to
    live, you're husband's job might not be the best, but its a job.  There
    will be other houses to buy, other jobs and other years to have your
    Christmas trees.  At least you are happy together.  And having grown up
    in a home where we had all the material things, and parents that had no
    respect or liking for each other (or themselves) I can tell you which
    is more important.
    
    It will work out, maybe not the way you want it to right now, but very
    possibly for the long term best.  Many times when I wanted something
    badly and couldn't have it, I realized later that long term, the thing
    would have been a disaster.
    
    Someday I should tell you the story of how I got my mortgage.  It
    usually leaves people rolling in the aisles.  When I get to the part 
    about how I finally found a banker who gave me verbal approval of the 
    loan and dropped dead in his driveway the next day (ok, the day after
    that, but it reads better this way), the audience is in tears...
    
    Mary

    Viriginia,
           
    I hope things are going better for you now.  When I first read your
    note I thought I know exactly what you're going through.  What you
    don't need is everyone telling you to 'cheer up, things could be
    worse.'  Of course they could be worse, but they're bad enough right
    now.  At a time like that you need a hug, not a sermon.  I hope
    you got the hug you needed.
    
    Two years ago I had signed on a place the day before the stock market
    fell.  Previous to this my stock would have been a downpayment.
    Afterward, there was no way I could make it.  A Jewish friend came
    down when he heard about it and said their old saying is 'next year
    in Jerusulem.'  It didn't help much, but it did help.  He also gave
    me a hug, which did help.
    
    After a while I finally was able to tell myself I probably wasn't 
    supposed to live there.  The way things are going in this state
    right now, maybe it was my way of being told I should follow my
    heart to Virginia where all my friends have gone.
                                       
    Good luck to you, all my best for happy holidays.
    
    Karen