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Conference misery::feline_v1

Title:Meower Power is Valuing Differences
Notice:FELINE_V1 is moving 1/11/94 5pm PST to MISERY
Moderator:MISERY::VANZUYLEN_RO
Created:Sun Feb 09 1986
Last Modified:Tue Jan 11 1994
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:5089
Total number of notes:60366

2775.0. "Please Take This cat." by NSSG::STCLAIR () Wed Aug 16 1989 19:39

    
I had offered to take my friend's cat (now living in Brookline) when she 
moved and bring her to my home.  Her new apartment won't allow pets 
and at the last minute my landlord refused me as well. 

She the cat, or should I say "it" - the cat, is blessed with an ample 
figure beneath a stylish short black and white coat.  She is about 4 
years old and has lived indoors for the past two years.  She is very 
affectionate and a little talkative.  Her conversational tone is not 
the aggressive New Yorker nasal whine of a Siamese more the Boston Beacon
Hill Grand Dame.  Her breeding is clearly that of a superior hybrid 
not at all the unstable high-strung thoroughbred.  She lost a little piece of
her ear I believe to an abusive husband from whom she is now divorced.
Despite the difficult times in her past she remains very affectionate and 
lovable.

I had always been mildly allergic to cats.  But I have not suffered my 
usual discomfort with this cat.  I don't know if this is because my 
chemistry changed on she is truly a most unique and pleasant animal.

You can call her owner at 617/893-5439 and ask for Ginny or send me E-mail.

Thanks

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2775.1Cat's been cared for ...NSSG::STCLAIRWed Sep 06 1989 18:356
    
    I am glad to say that this cat has found a nice home.  I am also
    disappointed that NO ONE in this notes file responded to this note
    or directly to me with suggestions.  
    
    
2775.2WR2FOR::CORDESBRO_JOWed Sep 06 1989 20:2716
    I am also glad that this cat has found a home.  But, it might help
    to mention that while we are all cat lovers in this file, there
    is only so much we can do.  Most of us are at cat max already, so
    the best we can do for you is to keep our ears open, and put the
    word out to our friends that there is a cat available.
    
    As you can see, at any given time there are at least ten different
    cats being advertised in this file as needing a new home.  After
    just going through a similar situation in trying to find a home
    for a deserving cat, I can certainly understand your frustration,
    but I think that this notes file should not be the target for these
    feelings.
    
    Jo (who has almost 20 cats herself)
    
    
2775.3ALLVAX::LUBYDTN 287-3204Wed Sep 06 1989 20:4110
	RE: .1

	In addition to what .2 said, I assume that most people reading
	this notes file prefer to respond to notes using the notes file.
	You asked for a response via E-mail or phone.  

>You can call her owner at 617/893-5439 and ask for Ginny or send me E-mail.

	Karen
2775.4bad day, Dougie?DINSCO::FUSCIDEC has it (on backorder) NOW!Wed Sep 06 1989 23:006
2775.5we all have bad days now and then ...WONDER::SKALTSISDebWed Sep 06 1989 23:126
    I worked with Doug 10 years ago and I sure want to agree with Ray.
    He was always a real nice guy, probably just having a real bad day.
    
    Deb (who is also having a bad day)
    
2775.6CRUISE::NDCNancy Diettrich-Cunniff-I wanted it allThu Sep 07 1989 11:347
    I also can understand his frustration.  It sounded to me like
    that cat had someplace to go but that they preferred to place
    him in another home.  There are lots of cats in this file that
    have noplace to go but a shelter.  I think sometimes we concentrate
    on those cats a bit more.
      Nancy DC (Who is a little wary of introducing adult cats to the
                furry foursome)
2775.7SALEM::WHITEWAYThu Sep 07 1989 11:499
    	Surely you can understand the reply in .1. I personally feel
    the same way at times. I have placed several notes about cats in
    need, and gotten absolutely no responses that helped place the cat. 
    I do not feel #1's response was off base. It just shows what many
    feel when they are dealing with placing animals. It hurts like h***
    to know there are so many people reading these notes, yet so little
    that can take the cats and give them good homes. 
    	Re 1 : I am glad the cat has found a home.... (I only wish I
    could for the ones we are caring for)..         ;)
2775.8NRADM::CONGERWhat's ONE more cat????Thu Sep 07 1989 12:3822
    
    	Well, Curt, I have to disagree with you. I think .1 was
    	a little bit harsh. As .2 said, there are so many `emergency'
    	pleas to place cats in this file lately, there is only
    	so much we can do. In fact, I have a 9 month old tom hanging
    	around my house that I know is a stray, but I haven't asked
    	in here if anyone wants him yet because I'm trying to exhaust
    	all `external' resources first. It's unreasonable to expect
    	to place a cat `by friday', `in three days', or `by the end
    	of the week or he gets put to sleep', as we have all been 
    	reading in here lately. 
    
    	To .1 - Please don't judge us so harshly. Almost all of us 	
    	        have had foster cats, placed cats, and kept the ones
    	        we couldn't place because we couldn't bear to put them
    	        to sleep. I started out with one, I'm up to three, in
    		a 2 BR apt, and that doesn't count the dozen or so I
    		have placed in the last few years. 
    
    		
    		Sherry (Rosie, Missy and Squeek)
     
2775.9I'm happy you solved your cat dilieminaFRAGLE::PELUSOThu Sep 07 1989 12:4214
    	RE: .1	
    
    	I am sorry you were dissapointed in the notes file.  I hope you
	will take the time to browse thru the adoption note # 414 and
	see all the wonderful cats and kittens who need homes.  I also 
	hope you will realize that this file is a LIMITED recource.  There
     	are other recources available like a newspaper, Want Ad, church and
    	grocery store listings.  We see animals in 'emergency' type situations
     	weekly....and there is only so much the file participants can do.  
    
    	I am very glad your situation was resolved and hope you will continue 
    	to read FELINE, because it really is a fun file.

        
2775.10re .8SALEM::WHITEWAYThu Sep 07 1989 13:0413
    
    re 8. (i hope I have the right one) Sherry!
    	Oh, without a doubt re.1 was harsh. My point was that I think
    it is natural. Haven't we all felt that way at times? 
    
    	I do agree with you though that one can not "expect" to place
    a cat. But I think most that put replies/notes in this file hope
    to be heard and really feel that their problems will get answered.
    Many times they are not, and it is hard not to feel a bit hurt by
    it..
    	
    curt
        
2775.11WR2FOR::CORDESBRO_JOThu Sep 07 1989 16:1116
    I am the author of .2 and I wasn't trying to be hurtful to the base
    noter, only to express that while I could understand his frustration
    at not having any responses, I didn't feel it fair to be harsh to
    the feline community in this file.  We all do the best we can.
    
    I have been there too.  I have put many adoption notes in here.  But, 
    as was mentioned, this file is a limited resource.  Most of the 
    participants already have as many cats as they can take in, and 
    although we would love to help each and every cat, sometimes this is 
    not going to be impossible.                                   
    
    Jo
    
    
    
    
2775.12thank you alSALEM::WHITEWAYThu Sep 07 1989 16:3934
    
    
    	There is a reason for this reply. Someone [ :) ] commented to
    me about the subject, and put the wheels in my brain 'a-turnin'.
                                                  
    	I think at times we all deal with situations that hit very close
    to our hearts. At those times we hope others can help us out. It
    is natural for this to happen. But I do think sometimes we overlook
    the fact that all of us are in in together. My previous replies
    were NOT by any means meant to complain about anyone in the notefile.
    (I know all too well how compassionate you {ALL} are.), and it was
    certainly not to draw pity to my own problems. I attempted
    to express a feeling that we all share at times, and to perhaps
    explain a feeling (My own opinion) that others were overlooking:
    	
    	Anger, hurt, frustration, and total uselessness. Perhaps the
    base noter was a little harsh, but I still feel it was justified.
    But..... Maybe I should now, as was suggested to me, lighten up.
    *
       )
    *
    
    	I want to take this time to personally thank all of you for
    all you have done here (In Felines). Seldom have I found such caring,
    loving, understanding, and compassionate people. If it were not
    for several of you, I hate to think about where I would be. Many
    have helped in ways that should make them proud. You are a great
    bunch of people, and I thank you..............
                                                               
                                                                    curt
    
    
    
    	Keep up the good work...............   ;]
2775.13CRUISE::NDCNancy Diettrich-Cunniff-I wanted it allFri Sep 08 1989 11:115
    re: .12 - well said Curt!  And it is always difficult to express
    feelings of hurt, anger and frustration without having it sound
    like you're blaming the readers or expect them to "fix it".
      Nancy DC
    
2775.14Brava Feliners!!EGYPT::BELLIVEAUMon Sep 11 1989 23:5715
    Such a caring and giving group here in feline!!!  I acknowledge
    responders to the base note here for being compassionate and
    understanding.
    
      My sister just got married, and she and her new hubster
    want to adopt a dog.  I decided to check out the notes files for her.
      I looked in the adoption note in the canine notes files and I  was
    turned off by the name-calling going on for a guy who wanted
    to give away a dog he adopted.  I guess sometimes people lose
    perspective and forget to be compassionate about humans.  Fortunately
    my "roomates" always forgive my faults!!  (;^)
    
    Linda Bee (with help from Pasha, Sybil, Jeremy and Birdy)
    
         
2775.15CRUISE::NDCNancy Diettrich-Cunniff-I wanted it allTue Sep 12 1989 11:5410
    Thanks for your nice note!!
    
    I think you should have your sister check around at the local
    shelters for dogs.  There will be many many deserving puppies
    (of all ages) there.  You could also check your local paper and
    "Digital this week" or whatever your local DEC paper.  OUrs has
    a classified section that always lists a cat or dog for adoption.
    
      Where is your sister located?
       Nancy DC
2775.16One bad apple....NETMAN::BLANEYVOID that entry...Thu Sep 14 1989 19:2216
    This is just an aside to -.2.  I understand your dismay at the notes
    that often appear in Canine, as I am an avid reader of that file as
    well.  Sometimes people get EXTREMELY emotional about animals because
    they know that they cannot argue for themselves.  Please do not judge
    the entire CANINE file or its readers on the "discussion" which
    occurred within that note.  There are many devoted people in that file,
    and I am sure that many would be very willing to assist you in finding
    the right dog.
    
    I also have to agree, however, that the type of responses in this file
    as opposed to the CANINE file, are very different.  Let's just say that
    FELINE is not as "intense" as CANINE.
    
    Don't give up looking.
    Laurel