Conference misery::feline_v1

    Nancy, my thoughts are with you.
    
    E.T.

    Nancy,
    
    I cried when I read your note.  We all know that the day does come when
    a beloved pet passes on - but when it happens we somehow are not quite
    ready for it.
    
    Anna/Zildjian/Spunks
    

    Nancy, I'm sorry for Aime as well.  I know I've written this a million
    times in this file, but it has been difficult to get over
    Shelby's death too.  Shelby died back in June and I had collected
    all of my pictures of him to make a photo album in his memory. 
    Every time I try to put it together I break down.  Having other
    cats certainly helps me to "forget" but he died so suddenly and
    that is what stays with me.  We were not prepared for his passing
    in any way.
    
    It seems that the way the vet handled Aime's death has a lot of
    bearing on the way you feel.  That would upset me too; it certainly
    was very callous of him not to inform you right away.  Aime knows
    you loved her and she loved you back.  She was very lucky to share
    her life with such a kind and caring person.
    
    Thinking of you,
    
    --Roberta
    
    
    

    
    Nancy,
    
    We feel for you in your loss, time will help, but please know that
    we understand how you feel.
    
    Feline so sad,
    
    Sue & Panther & Spot & Jerry
    

    Sorry to hear your news.
    
    Loads of hugs from all of us in Reading, UK.
    
    Lisa ( P&P)
    
    

    What a tearful note...
    
    Our hearts are with you, Paula, Schnapps, Tequila and Rici.
    
    

    Aimi probably sensed you were there.  She knew how much you loved her.
    
    And I also know how much it hurts to lose one wether it is something we
    knew about or was sudden.  It takes a *while*.
    
    Sandi (mom to THUNDER, LIGHTNING, STORM & DEJAVU too) (and Keisha's mom
    too.  Keisha left us in the fall)
    
    

    . so sorry
    Kate and Pookie and Happy
    

    Nancy I'm so sorry for your loss.  I thought of my Oliver when I
    read your note and imagined what it would be like to loss him. 
    We love them so much that it is such an awful hurt.  
    
    Take care. 
    
    Flo

    Dear Friends,
    
    Your hugs and understanding help tremendously.  Communicating with
    people who share my love of cats somehow makes it easier to endure.
    
    As a follow-up I did talk with the vet last week about him not calling
    me sooner about her death.  I thought I did a good job communicating
    to him how I felt honestly.  He said he knew I was upset over the
    fact that it took so long to notify me and he said he had no excuse
    other than he just didn't know what to say to me.
    
    We talked quite a long while (1+ hour) and even though it didn't
    change what happened, we both have a better understanding between
    us now than before.
    
    I, too, have tried to collect photos for an album of Aime and I
    still can't do it.  I've finally put the pictures I've had out of
    her away for the time being.  It's just too hard right now to look
    at them.
    
    Nancy

    I am so very sorry.
    
    Mary-Michael

    I'm so sorry for your loss - my thoughts are with you.
    
    
    Giudi in SF (Pippin, Gino & Stitch Too)

    I am so sorry about Aime's passing.  I know how much it hurts.
    
    I lost Jesse James in February, and I still get very upset when
    I think of him.  I did go to see him while he was in the hospital,
    and he suffered a seizure when he saw me.  The seizure did stop
    though, and that was when I knew that he wouldn't be with us much
    longer.  I called my mom and told her to come and say goodbye. 
    Jesse had lived with my mom for the previous two years.  Well, seeing
    my mom was too much for Jesse.  He suffered a stroke when he saw
    her, and the vet had to inject him to end his suffering.  It was
    very sad.  My mom felt responsible, even though it wasn't her fault.
    
    I think that in some severe cases, it is difficult for a very sick
    cat to see it's owner.  In that sense, your vet may have been right.
    Try to forgive him if you can.  And try to think of all the good
    times you shared with Aime.  That is what I try to do, think of
    all the great times with Jesse.  
    
    Jo

      Nancy,  this is the right place to pour your heart out to.  It was 
    exactly one year ago today, that I lost my beloved Ruby.  I was just
    out putting flowers on the grave this morning.  Yes, it is extremely
    painful, but time, as with all else will help put things in some kind
    of a perspective.
     The birdbath idea is wonderful!  I'm sure Amie would have loved that
    very much.  All my cats are buried on the crest of the hill overlooking
    our gardens and fields.  That 's the way they all would have wanted it.
    Your other kitties will be there to help you through it.  They have
    that magic.
                    kittie hugs from Denise and the gang of 7

    Nancy,
    
    I know what you're going through right now.  I just lost my cat a month
    ago.  I cried through your note as my Kitty was just as loved.  We
    purchased our X-mas tree this past Saturday and what a terrible
    experience- as I saw his stocking, and he loved to lay under the tree, 
    and watch us decorate, play with the wrappings, etc.  I miss Kitty
    so much!!!
    
    I am so glad that I have another cat to help me through it?
    
    Much sympathy...  
    Sonia
              

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	I'm so sorry to hear about your cat.  I can understand completely since
	I just lost one of my cats a 2 weeks ago.  Christmas will certainly
	be lonely without those little guys.

	Karen

    Nancy,
    
         As many others have expressed, I sat here shedding tears as well. 
    It is so hard to lose a friend; Especially one who gives love so
    freely.  That has always been something I've loved  so much about
    being owned by a cat.  I mourn your loss with you.
    
    Denise

    Nancy,
      You're right.  There's no difference in the grief over losing
    a human or a pet.  They are all spirits and personalities with whom
    we share our lives.  I think that pets offer a special gift -
    unconditional love - and they teach us to love that way too.
    
    I'll add Aime's name to the Silver lining memorial list for this
    quarter and the money given in her memory will help make the lives
    of other animals a little bit better.
    
      Our thoughts are with you,
       Nancy DC, Jack, Bumpy-tail, Xiao-mao, Isis, Dundee, Flame & 
            Jesse James II

    
    	Nancy, we feel for you as well, and share your loss.  May your
    pain ease, and may fond memories of Aime bring you happiness in
    the future.
    
    Bob, Smoke, Nightmare, Sneakers, Nova, & Ruffles (the wonder cat)
    
    

    Nancy,
    I share in your grief and hope that time will alleviate it for
    you and that one day you will be able to think of Aime without
    tears in your eyes, but remembering the good moments you shared.
    I lost my gray tabby "Patate" end of June. I still cry from time
    to time, but I also am now able to think of the time we spent 
    together and sometimes have to smile when I remember some of the
    rather crazy things she used to do.
    Thinking of you.
    Martha
    

    Nancy, we too, extend our sympathies at your loss. The holiday season
    seems to make it harder.
    
    Chuck, Jane, Doobie, Peaches and Cassandra
    

    Our deepest Sympathies,
    
    Carol & the gang: Jonathan, Joshua, Nicquita & Tamu
    

	The candle that burns brightest seems to burn out fastest...

We are blessed with their gentle humor for too short a time, but I would
not live my life any other way.  I share your sense of loss and, having
traveled this road myself, I know you will, in time, find the memories
to be full of laughter and companionship. 

				Take care,

				    D

    My sympathies too.
    
    Shayne (New Zealand)

    We are so sorry to hear about Aime.
    
    Our deepest sympathies-
    
    michele and nippa
    

Nancy,

I'm so sorry about your loss.  Sometimes I wonder if it isn't acutally harder
to lose a furry companion than a person.  I still miss Coco and I cried for
Aime, too.  I found some consolation in this card I sent to my uncle after he
suffered a loss:

	When you are sorrowful--look again into your heart,
	and you shall see that in truth you are weeping
	for that which has been your delight.

	May the delightful memories fill your sorrowful heart with joy.

With sympathy,
ann, mocha and bandit

    
    
    	Catnippy and I understand how you feel. We are very sorry.
    
    					kim and "the nipper"
    

    Nancy,
    
    We, too, are sorry to her about Aime.  As many have said, time eases
    the pain but the memories live on forever.
    
    All of our prayers go out to you.
    
    Barbara (Melody, Missy and Brittany)

    nancy,
    
    we also send our condolences for your loss.   when i lost my cissy 2.5
    years ago, i don't think i could have suffered any worse had she been a
    human child.  the sun just rose and set in her.  i didn't think i would
    make it.  but now i have my stella and stanley.  i still cry when i
    think of cissy, but i remember how she lived and all that she did for
    me.  that makes me smile...
    
    take care.
    
    diane, stella & stanley
    

    
    Our thoughts are with you also.  Even though my be-loved Cho-Cho-San
    passed on about 7 years ago, I still think of her all the time.  
    
    I can honestly say that time will heal the wounds you're feeling now.
    
    Barbara, Ebony & Ivory