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Conference misery::feline_v1

Title:Meower Power is Valuing Differences
Notice:FELINE_V1 is moving 1/11/94 5pm PST to MISERY
Moderator:MISERY::VANZUYLEN_RO
Created:Sun Feb 09 1986
Last Modified:Tue Jan 11 1994
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:5089
Total number of notes:60366

1168.0. "Do cats get lonely??" by MYVAX::LSCHWARTZ () Tue Mar 08 1988 12:19

    I'm feeling VERY guilty!  My 14 month old kitty Toulouse is left home 
    alone a lot.  I'm not home until late in the evening most nights and on the 
    weekends I often stay at over friend's houses and he gets left alone
    over night.  He seems to keep himself busy while I'm gone. He enjoys
    redecorating the bathroom with tissues and clothes that were left 
    hanging to dry.  He also likes to look out the window and make chirping
    noises at the birds.  
    
    I really feel bad for him though.  He climbs all over me when I
    get home and won't sit anywhere but in my lap.  Thats when I feel
    the worst about leaving him home alone so much.  When I come home
    he acts like he's starved for attention.  Is it possible for cats
    to feel lonely?  Would Toulouse be happier with another cat to play
    with??  Or is he just happy to see me?
    
    Feeling sorry for kitty.............
    
    -Lauren
    
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1168.1SKETCH::BASSETTDesignTue Mar 08 1988 12:2817
    Lauren,
    
    I know exactly what you are talking about.  I live alone too and
    go thru that same guilt trip.
    
    Toulouse is proberly sleeping most of the day and when he gets up
    he rips the house apart...sounds like he is having fun.  Don't feel
    guilty.  He would proberly love to have a playmate but I don't think
    he will hold it against you if you don't bring home  a brother or
    sister for him.  When I get home Asia crawls all over me too and
    I love it.  I thought about getting another one but they are expensive
    and I love the attention I get from having an only child.  
    
    If you can afford it and your furniture can hold up - get another
    one.  I am sure you have enough love to go around.
    
    Linda
1168.2Get anotherLDP::BANGMATue Mar 08 1988 13:349
    If you can afford it -- definitely get another cat/kitten.  Two
    is really no more trouble than one and they will have lots of fun
    playing, cuddling, etc.  I can almost guarantee that you'll enjoy
    them immensely!
    
    The real concern for some people is the cost - it's up to you.
    
    Pam
    
1168.4Go for two!SKIVT::P_MARGOLISPaula BethWed Mar 09 1988 14:137
    Schnapps was the same way when I would return home from a weekend
    away.  Now that I got Tequilla, they come near the door, say hi,
    and go about their business.  Even when I am home, one cat is rarely
    seen without the other.  I'm so glad I went for the second cat!
    But if you choose to go that route, beware...The first few days
    will be very stressful on the three of you.
    
1168.5I vote for twoFSHQOA::RWAXMANWed Mar 09 1988 19:087
    If you can afford it, do get another.  I really think Chauncey enjoys
    having Nikki around even though he doesn't want me to believe it.
    I'll admit, it has been fairly expensive for me, but I took in two
    strays who needed medical attention.  Once the initial expenses
    are over, it is mostly just keeping up-to-date on shots, etc.  Besides,
    I've spent more on toys and treats than I have on the vet bills!
    
1168.6DO CATS GET LONELY? YESVIDEO::FROSTFri Mar 11 1988 13:454
    YES, I BELIEVE CATS DO GET LONELY.  I HAVE TWO KITTYS, AND THEY
    DO KEEP EACH OTHER COMPANY WHEN I AM AWAY AT WORK.  THIS ONE OF
    THE MAIN THINGS I CONSIDERED BEFORE GETTING A PET, HAVING A PLAYMATE
    FOR EACH OTHER.
1168.7one lonely kitty!FIDDLE::HTAYLORCat lovers are a special breedMon Mar 14 1988 12:1613
    I agree with .6.  I just got home from vacation.  My sister took
    care of the two cats while I was gone.  I called her on Friday and
    asked her how the cats were doing.  She said that Silver was just
    moping around the house.  She wouldn't eat and she wouldn't play.
    I was very concerned about this.  But, when I got home, I sat down
    and within 5 minutes, Silver was on my lap, purring away!!!  This
    morning I fed them, and Silver ate every last drop of food!!!  Then
    I was playing with her with the kitty tease this morning, and she
    actually played!  She was happy to see her mommy again. :-)
    
    Holly
   
    
1168.8lonely-yes,another cat-maybeGORT::MIDTTUNWed Mar 16 1988 15:2712
    I agree. I do think that cats can get lonely. My vet says that there
    have been lots of studies in the animal psychology field to back
    this up. (I didn't even know there was such a field of study!) But,
    I'm not sure that I'd automatically recommend getting another cat.
    I have a cat that's always been very needy.She is, however, very
    skittish. My vet said she'd probably do best if she were the only
    cat in the house (we have also have a HUGE male tabby cat).So, I
    think other personality traits should be evaluated before you make
    the choice about getting another cat. If the cat has a predisposition
    for being very needy, another cat may be perceived as competition
    for your affection. Or, it may very well turn out that a playmate
    will be "exactly what the doctor ordered".
1168.9Kitties Get Lonely, TooMARKER::REEDThu Mar 17 1988 20:1948
    I have been perusing this file for a while and finally got the nerve
    to answer back.  I have introduced myself and the "kids" in the
    "introduce the kids" note.
    
    I too agree that pets get lonely.  From two separate experiences
    I can give examples.  I've been a pet-sitter for years and have
    noticed that pets DEFINITELY miss their owners when they go away.
    They don't suffer as much if they can be left with someone in
    a familiar environment than if they're "shipped" off to a kennel.
    I have cared for everything from dogs/cats to sheep, goats and horses.
    It's a nice feeling too when I go back to sit, they all remember
    me.  We have a blast.
    
    A few years ago when I had to put my cat Harry (short for Harrass)
    to sleep, my roomate's cat, Scooter really missed him.  Harry used
    to pounce on Scoot when he least expected it, but when Harry wasn't
    there any more, he missed him and even went looking around the house
    for Harry.  Then last year when Scooter got killed, my new kittie
    Escho knew something was wrong with Scoot.  When I'd get home late
    from work she insisted that I give her quality play time and wouldn't
    let me sleep unless we'd played for 15 minutes or more.  She was
    listless, mopey and lonely, too.  She really looked sad and followed
    me everywhere.
    
    I "rescued" an older kitten (8 months old) sometime later.  At first
    Escho resented him, hissed at him and just downright intimitated
    him.  For about a week Brandy was just an orange blur.  Brandy also
    seemed to be afraid of EVERYTHING!
    
    NOW, the two of them are inseparable!  When I get home at night
    they both come to the door and "greet" me.  Escho tells me about
    their day and Brandy proceeds me into the kitchen.  I usually have
    company for quite a while.  I can't even go to the bathroom by myself.
    The two of them love to play tag and ROMP through the whole house.
    It sounds like two toddlers playing. They sometimes cuddle up and
    sleep together or take turns sleeping on the bed with me.
    
    I guess the decision is really up to you.  Whether or not you can
    afford to cats, whether you and your present kittie want another
    cat, etc.  I personally was not planning on keeping this cat but
    Escho and I have really gotten attached to the "Lump" and really
    couldn't be without his antics.
    
    Good luck!  Let us know what you do.
    
    Roslyn