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Title:Soapbox. Just Soapbox.
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Created:Thu Nov 17 1994
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381.0. "Mid-Life Crises" by RIPPER::BURT (Let us reason together) Tue Apr 11 1995 06:58


Are they a good/bad/indifferent?
Are they real?
Is there an "ideal" MLC?


Chele







                                                  
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381.1CALDEC::RAHHow you play is who you are.Tue Apr 11 1995 09:3710
    
    They are probably a rite of passage, and as such they
    just happen and cannot be characterized by good or
    bad. 
    
    Most definitely real for some. Others may have so much
    crisis that the MLC is lost in the noise.
    
    Probably the only ideal one has some good resolution 
    at the other end.
381.2PATE::CLAPPTue Apr 11 1995 14:4717
    
    I think they are real, but not everyone has one.  Also, I don't think
    they happen to everyone at the same age.  They also can be either 
    good or bad dependent on how we respond to it.
    
    For me it was a good experience.  When I turned 40, it finally sank in
    that time was precious.  Guess the less you have of something the more
    precious it is.  Anyway, I began to reduce wasting time on less
    important things in life.  I also began taking better care of myself
    in the hope I'd last a bit longer, and be as active as long as I can
    be.  (Essentially, I quit smoking, began jogging, and joined a gym).
    I'm glad to say, more than 2 years later, I'm in better shape than
    I've been since a teenager, and I'm living a much fuller life.
    I'm also much happier.
    
    al
    
381.3ODIXIE::CIAROCHIOne Less DogFri Apr 14 1995 02:492
    I figger when I get ta be forty, I'll quit ridin, get fat, join a bar
    and quit wasting my time working.
381.5am I old or what?TROOA::TEMPLETONFri Apr 14 1995 04:474
    What's a mid life crises? 
    Here I am 58 and waiting
    
    joan
381.6WMOIS::GIROUARD_CFri Apr 14 1995 11:265
    -1 nope Joan, that sounds about perfect...
    
       (good suck-up, eh?) :-)
    
       Chip
381.7CONSLT::MCBRIDEReformatted to fit your screenFri Apr 14 1995 12:587
    Any midlife crises (for men anyway) should include a new vehicle
    preferrably red with, oh, let's say 400+ hp under the hood.  Automatic
    transmission is not an option.  Adorn the passenger seat anyway you see 
    fit.  Sorry Dr. Dan (if you're listening) you missed by about 185 hp.
    but give yourself extra point for the rag top.
    
    Brian
381.8WMOIS::GIROUARD_CFri Apr 14 1995 13:063
    -1 and don't forget the kick-*ss stereo!!!
    
       Chip
381.9CONSLT::MCBRIDEReformatted to fit your screenFri Apr 14 1995 13:121
    ....belting out "My Way"
381.10how to ruin a nice thoughtWAHOO::LEVESQUEluxure et suppliceFri Apr 14 1995 13:573
    >...belting out "My Way"
    
     Eew!
381.11BIGQ::SILVADiabloFri Apr 14 1995 14:215
| <<< Note 381.4 by POLAR::RICHARDSON "Special Fan Club Baloney" >>>

| Not me. I will gain 200 pounds and then loose it all with a bout of bulimia.

	Or you could just lose one of your personalities.... :-)
381.4POLAR::RICHARDSONSpecial Fan Club BaloneyFri Apr 14 1995 14:212
    Not me. I will gain 200 pounds and then lose it all with a bout of
    bulimia.
381.12BIGQ::SILVADiabloFri Apr 14 1995 14:224

	Mark, it could have been worse..... he could have said belting out,
"You light up my life"! :-)
381.13CONSLT::MCBRIDEReformatted to fit your screenFri Apr 14 1995 14:307
    Trade in the pocket protector, wingtips, and horn rims for a nice silk 
    or silkette shirt, unbuttoned a bit, and a medallion, maybe a Mr. T 
    starter set even, and some double knit Sans-a-belts, and those gradient 
    tinted sunglasses too, and lessee maybe a Kangol cap in white, and a 
    bracelet, maybe even a pinky ring.  Now that's stylin'.
    
    Brian 
381.14CSC32::M_EVANSproud counter-culture McGovernikFri Apr 14 1995 14:397
    for my dad, it was taking up downhill skiing at the young age of 50.
    
    My mom bought a convertable that same year.
    
    meg
    
    
381.15directed at .13WAHOO::LEVESQUEluxure et suppliceFri Apr 14 1995 14:401
    <shudder>
381.16CONSLT::MCBRIDEReformatted to fit your screenFri Apr 14 1995 14:447
    Skiing at 50?  Great!  Too many folks believe that you have to be under
    12 to start.  It's a great sport that can be taken up with a little bit
    of athletic ability and you can get good enough to enjoy it, quickly.  
    
    Brian
    
    
381.17CSLALL::HENDERSONFriend will you be ready?Fri Apr 14 1995 14:4921


 I worked at a company years ago where our branch manager went through a
 MLC..when I started there he was a real nerdy type guy..crew cut, white
 shirt (back when colored shirts were the thing) station wagon, etc.  Then
 all of a sudden his hair got long, he grew a beard and bought a Porsche 911
 (yowza!) and started associating with us peons.  One evening after an 
 after work wateringhole gathering he had to take his secretary to the airport
 as she was going to Hawaii..next day we had a phonecall from him and he was
 also in Hawaii..decided what the heck, bought a ticket and off he went..his
 wife left him, then the reconciled..last I heard of him was at a company 
 picnic..I'd left the company by then, but had been invited to a company picnic
 by my ex boss.  The guy was driving a boat full of liquored up folks (he
 was also rather inebriated) around the lake and the boat flipped seriously
 injuring several people.  Not sure what happened after that, but I know
 the company went out of business :-/



 Jim
381.18PATE::CLAPPFri Apr 14 1995 15:399
    re:     <<< Note 381.14 by CSC32::M_EVANS "proud counter-culture
    McGovernik" >>>
    
    >for my dad, it was taking up downhill skiing at the young age of 50.
    
    >My mom bought a convertable that same year.
    
    I run my first marathon Monday (at 42)
    
381.19NETCAD::WOODFORDI&lt;--TheInfoWentDataWay--&gt;IFri Apr 14 1995 15:5411
    
    
    I've decided that I'm not going to have
    a mid-life crisis.  I've learned to 
    recognize the difference between problems
    and life's little inconveniences.
    
    
    
    Terrie
    
381.20SMURF::BINDERFather, Son, and Holy SpigotFri Apr 14 1995 15:567
    .19
    
    > I've decided that I'm not going to have
    > a mid-life crisis.
    
    BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!  That's like deciding that you're not going to get hit
    by a bus - but forgetting to tell the bus.
381.21NETCAD::WOODFORDI&lt;--TheInfoWentDataWay--&gt;IFri Apr 14 1995 15:5811
    
    
    :*)  Very funny Binder.
    
    No really, I think that mid-life crisis is a state of
    mind, and the highway that goes that way is not on my
    map.
    
    
    Terrie
    
381.22SUBPAC::SADINOne if by LAN, two if by CFri Apr 14 1995 16:078
    
    	re: .21

    	this from the woman who told me she's going to have endless
    anniversaries of her 29th b-day.....:)



381.23SMURF::BINDERFather, Son, and Holy SpigotFri Apr 14 1995 16:107
    .21
    
    Seriously, Terrie, if you're going to have a midlife crisis, you'll
    have one whether you want to, or plan to, or decide to, or not.  I was
    positive I wasn't going to have one - secure in myself and in my place
    in life and in my age and prospects, the whole bit.  And I found after
    I'd had my midlife crise that that was what it was.
381.24CSLALL::HENDERSONFriend will you be ready?Fri Apr 14 1995 16:1113

 .23



 Agree with that..by the time I realized I had one, I was divorced and in
 a relationship I should never have been in..




Jim
381.25SOLVIT::KRAWIECKIBe vewy caweful of yapping zebwasFri Apr 14 1995 16:269
    
    re: .23
    
    So Dick...
    
    How many horsepower did it have???
    
     :) :)
    
381.26WAHOO::LEVESQUEluxure et suppliceFri Apr 14 1995 16:342
    Given that he drives a CRX, one supposes his midlife crisis may have
    taken on a different form.
381.27MPGS::MARKEYThe bottom end of Liquid SanctuaryFri Apr 14 1995 16:508
    Mid-life crisis, it seems to me, are something like puberty. Maybe
    not as severe, but certainly not something one "chooses". They
    are a part of the physical and emotional process of aging, nothing
    more, nothing less. Not quite like waking up one day and
    discovering you have fuzz on your wee wee, but close...

    -b
381.28USAT05::BENSONEternal WeltanschauungFri Apr 14 1995 16:5215
    
    I believe that male mid-life crisis exists.  It seems to be unique to
    our modern culture where self is god and the prevailing attitude is
    that this life is all there is.  *It is* despairing to see oneself age
    and to realize that youth is gone forever (has been gone for some time
    by the time of middle-age), that outrageous fortune is not
    forthcoming, that the wife too is showing her experience, and that my
    earthly life is half over actuarially.  Death looms and the secular man
    can hide no longer behind a false confidence.  So, like many of us when
    faced with an inescapable decision, he gropes one more time, but with
    pinache, throwing it all to the wind in the hope that he actually can
    suppress the truth.  It doesn't last long and then he's really
    old...and sorry but not often repentent.
    
    jeff
381.29POWDML::LAUERLittle Chamber of Fuzzy FacesFri Apr 14 1995 17:475
    
    .18
    
    Tell us what you look like, and we'll all cheer you on from the
    sidelines or our tv sets, whichever we choose 8^).
381.30PATE::CLAPPFri Apr 14 1995 18:139
    
    re: 381.29
    
    Thanks, 
    
    I'll be the one in the blue shorts :<{)
    
    al
    
381.31POWDML::LAUERLittle Chamber of Fuzzy FacesFri Apr 14 1995 18:252
    
    <-- good thing I've got a colour telly 8^).
381.32POBOX::BATTISLand shark,pool sharkFri Apr 14 1995 19:552
    
    hi mz_debra!!! Happy Easter to you
381.33POWDML::LAUERLittle Chamber of Fuzzy FacesFri Apr 14 1995 20:202
    
    Hi Mark!  Happy bunnyday.
381.34SUBPAC::SADINOne if by LAN, two if by CFri Apr 14 1995 20:376
    
    
    	I have a sudden urge to go out and buy a GSXR-1100....
    
    
    
381.35RDGE44::ALEUC8Mon Apr 17 1995 09:175
    .28
    
    i have a sudden urge to regurgitate
    
    ric