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Conference turris::womannotes-v3

Title:Topics of Interest to Women
Notice:V3 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open.
Moderator:REGENT::BROOMHEAD
Created:Thu Jan 30 1986
Last Modified:Fri Jun 30 1995
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1078
Total number of notes:52352

229.0. ""Touchstones"" by YUPPY::DAVIESA (Grail seeker) Wed Jul 04 1990 08:28

    
    Do you have "guidelines" you live your life by - as in phrases, quotes,
    proverbs, "words of wisdom" from relatives or whatever that you use as
    "touchstones"?
    
    Please share!
                  
    'gail
    
     
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229.1YUPPY::DAVIESAGrail seekerWed Jul 04 1990 08:3214
    
    To start off....
    
    "Over time, you only regret the things you *didn't* do"
    
    "If it feels good (mentally, physically and spiritually), do it!"
    
    "Carpe Diem!"
    
    "Love thyself, that you may love thy neighbour also"
    
    
    
    
229.2CSSE32::M_DAVISMarge Davis HallyburtonWed Jul 04 1990 10:465
    Gotta keep raisin' the bar....
    
    (as in high jump)
    
    mdh
229.3My PixUSCTR2::DONOVANcutsie phrase or words of wisdomThu Jul 05 1990 07:088
    * God wouldn't put upon me anything that I can't handle.
    
    * The Serenity Prayer
    
    * No one's a perfect mother.
    
    Kate
      
229.4Ummm...SUPER::REGNELLSmile!--Payback is a MOTHER!Thu Jul 05 1990 12:395
    
    
    "There is no substitute for excellance, not even success."
    
    Melinda
229.5LEZAH::BOBBITTthe universe warps in upon itselfThu Jul 05 1990 13:1215
    Mine come more in the form of mottoes....
    
    "Reveresco" - I flourish ever green
    "Festina Lente" - hasten slowly
    "Carpe Diem" - seize the day
    "Invictus Maneo" - I remain unvanquished
    "E Tenebris Lux" - From darkness - light
    "Cadarn ar Cyfrwys" - Strong and subtle
    "Aspera me Juvant" - difficulties delight me
    
    "Hang tough"
    
    
    -Jody
    
229.6my guideline....FSDEV2::CDOMENICOThu Jul 05 1990 13:128
    There is an old indian proverb that I follow.  I don't know the exact
    words but ........
    
    Never judge a man unless you walk in his moccasins.
    
    
    
    
229.7Learn something new every daySTAR::BECK$LINK/SHAR SWORD.OBJ/EXE=PLOWSHR.EXEThu Jul 05 1990 13:381
    And here I thought that "Carpe Diem" had something to do with fish worship.
229.8CADSYS::PSMITHfoop-shootin', flip city!Thu Jul 05 1990 13:589
    "Follow your bliss"
    
    "Do the right thing"
      (The 'right thing' is hard to define, but basically the action that
      you are SURE is Right, not one you feel pushed into doing.)
    
    Pam
    
    ... more cynically, "Time wounds all heels!"  :-)
229.9don't let them wear you downSITBUL::HICKSThu Jul 05 1990 13:592
    I like:   Illigitimi Noncarborundum
    
229.10NUTMEG::GODINSummertime an' the livin' is easyThu Jul 05 1990 14:1713
    To remind myself I don't always have to be in the driver's seat:
    
                             Go with the flow.
    
    
    
    When I find myself rushing through my todays so I can reach tomorrow
    sooner:
    
                   Life is the journey, not the destination.
    
    
    Karen
229.11LEZAH::BOBBITTthe universe warps in upon itselfThu Jul 05 1990 14:186
    Oh, and I got this one from the Lassie/Lad/etc dog books by Terhune...
    
    "But a collie down is not a collie beaten!"
    
    -Jody
    
229.12SSGVAX::KATZFlounder, don't be such a guppyThu Jul 05 1990 15:534
    When tempted to assume the worst:
    
    "Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by
    stupidity."
229.13SCARGO::CONNELLI was confused.Thu Jul 05 1990 16:3810
    Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong: Murphy's Law.
    
    Murphy was an optimist.
    
    Stupid rules were meant to be broken.
    
    Never put off until tomorrow, what you can pawn off on someone else
    sometime between today and next week.
    
    :-) Phil
229.14Some of My FavoritesHENRYY::HASLAM_BACreativity UnlimitedThu Jul 05 1990 21:458
    "Sooner or later, every individual must decide whether to be a shadow
    of the past or an outline of the future."
    
    "The past should be a guide post, not a hitching post."
    
    "This above all, to thine own self be true."
    
    -Barb
229.15NOATAK::BLAZEKblinding eyes that shineThu Jul 05 1990 22:005
Words of wisdom from Rocky Horror:  "Don't dream it, be it."

Carla

229.16DUGGAN::TARBETThu Jul 05 1990 22:111
    Primum non nocere.
229.17aphorismsCUPCSG::RUSSELLThu Jul 05 1990 22:2214
    "A lot of things can happen in a year.  The horse may die, the king may
     die, I may die.  And then again -- the horse may talk."
    
            For the complete proverb, see womannotes-v2
    
    
    "You cannot understand someone until you have have walked a mile in
    their shoes; you cannot judge them until you have walked a lifetime."
    
    
    "It's never too late to have a happy childhood."
    
       
        Margaret
229.18DECWET::JWHITEthe company of intelligent womenThu Jul 05 1990 22:234
    
    one is down
    
    
229.19REGENT::WOODWARDCan't touch thisFri Jul 06 1990 12:061
    Patience is a virtue.
229.20SSVAX2::KATZFlounder, don't be such a guppyFri Jul 06 1990 12:245
    
    
    Only God and the Czar know...and the Czar is far away.
    
    May God keep him there.
229.22try it this way...PARITY::DDAVISLong-cool woman in a black dressFri Jul 06 1990 12:453
    
    
    	When they give you lined paper, write the other way.
229.23WJOUSM::STRATTONWe didn't start the fire...Fri Jul 06 1990 13:269
    
    
      Children are like wet cement.  Whatever falls on them makes an
      impression.
    
                - Haim Ginott
    
    
    Roberta
229.26RCA::PURMALSimple isn't always easyFri Jul 06 1990 14:117
    "If you don't like the news, go out and make some of your own"
    
    "Fear is inversely proportional to faith"
    
    "The only place I need to fit in is in me"
    
    Tony
229.27it it the same from the outside in?TRACKS::PARENTthe unfinishedFri Jul 06 1990 14:3818
    
        
    Rust wins because it works toward the core.
    	
    Love what's inside, the rest changes.
    	
    If all else fails, ask!
    	
    Insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different
    result.
    
    To change the world look in the mirror, change that person first.    
    
    The past is exactly that, past.
    	
    My history will be the future past.
    
    
229.28RCA::PURMALSimple isn't always easyFri Jul 06 1990 14:403
    Change isn't painful, resistance to change is painful
    
    Tony
229.29HEFTY::CHARBONNDthe angels won't have itFri Jul 06 1990 15:021
    Lack of money is the root of all evil.
229.30NETMAN::HUTCHINSDid someone say ICE CREAM?Fri Jul 06 1990 15:0322
    Do it now!
    
    You always have a choice
    
    Shoot the ducks while they fly by
    
    You can only drive *one* car at a time
    
    Is it worth the aggravation...
    
    You don't have to make a decision *right now*
    
    What goes around, comes around
    
    Looks like there's light at the end of the tunnel, instead of another
    train!
    
    I only read minds on February 30...
    
    
    Judi
    
229.31YGREN::JOHNSTONbean sidheFri Jul 06 1990 16:003
"My choice may have been mistaken ... my _choosing_ was not"

   Annie
229.32BOOKS::GERDECymbal crash 2X only.Fri Jul 06 1990 16:202
    It's much easier to behave yourself into a new way of thinking
    than it is to think yourself into a new way of behaving.
229.33Only 10%?COMET::BOWERMANFri Jul 06 1990 16:548
    My father-in-laws favorite therefore my husband's favorite
    
    You only need to be 10% smarter than(insert any inanamate object that
    is not functioning properly or not moving where you think it should).
    
    Said to 20mth old as he tries to put upright a childs chair while
    standing on its(the chairs) back.
    
229.34FSHQA1::AWASKOMFri Jul 06 1990 17:093
    It came to pass.....
    
    
229.35DASXPS::HENDERSONAsk the time baby I don't knowFri Jul 06 1990 18:2113


Ain't no time to hate..


If it ain't broke, don't fix it.





Jim
229.36SUPER::EVANSOne-wheel drivin'Fri Jul 06 1990 20:247
    Love many, trust few.
    Always paddle your own canoe.
    
    
    Don't force it - get a bigger hammer.
    
    
229.37TINCUP::KOLBEThe dilettante debutanteFri Jul 06 1990 21:401
        Not making a decision is a decision
229.38III:310DECWET::JWHITEthe company of intelligent womenSun Jul 08 1990 18:549
    
    it don't mean a thing if it ain't got dat swing
    
    and on a slightly more serious note:
    
    'Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an
    evil.'
    
    
229.39See P_NBSS::VANFLEETI refuse to live down to expectationsMon Jul 09 1990 03:5118
    
    There are always choices...
    
    Be here now...
    
    If I get stuck on level A of my development, the only sin I could
    possibly commit is in not participating fully in my stuckness.
    
    This too shall pass...
    
    Time wounds all heels...
    
    I like my friends...I guess women always make me feel worthwhile...
    
    Change your thinking, change your life...
    
    
    Nanci
229.40...WORDY::BELLUSCIMon Jul 09 1990 12:356
    Lad of Athens, faithful be
    To Thyself,
    And Mystery --
    All the rest is Perjury --
    
    - Dickinson
229.41paths and choicesTLE::D_CARROLLAssume nothingMon Jul 09 1990 14:5020
I follow much of my life by a set of rules I have developped for myself...

"If you like who and where you are, then there can be no reason to regret
your choices, for they led you to this place."

(Corollary to the above: "Always like where and who you are for it is your 
choices that brought you there.  If you don't like your place, you must
make choices.")

"Try anything twice...once to see if you like it, and again to see if you
had a bad batch the first time."

"I want to look back on my life when I am 90 years old and say 'I'm so glad
I did that' about so many things I loose count."

And, the quote the immortal Getty Lee...

"I will choose all by myself, I will choose free will."

D!
229.43one to live byCSCOAC::JACKSON_TMon Jul 09 1990 16:3712
    
    
    For me it is....
    
    
    When You Educate A Woman, You Educate A Nation
    
    				W. Kwamena-Pow
    
    	TJ
    Sweet Ga. Peach
    
229.44See personal name ;-)REGENT::BROOMHEADDon't panic -- yet.Mon Jul 09 1990 17:0318
    The least harm done, and that harm which is done, done to the
    smallest number of people.  (My own, completing the square formed
    by Hillel, Jesus and K. Marx.)
    
    Why are we doing this?            }
                                      } Go back to first principles as needed.
    Why are we doing this *this* way? }
    
    I've had about as much fun as I can stand.
    
    Oh, no!  Not another learning experience.  (But learn anyhow.)
    
    Ninety percent of *everything* is crap! -- Theodore Sturgeon
    
    When you need serenity, ask for it.  It will come, even if only for
    a few seconds.
    
    						Ann B.
229.46thanks for the reminder, jody!DECWET::JWHITEthe company of intelligent womenMon Jul 09 1990 18:533
    
    no bit too cheap
    
229.47TINCUP::KOLBEThe dilettante debutanteMon Jul 09 1990 18:547
    There's a whole lotta things that I've never done, I ain't never had
    too much fun - Commander Cody and the Lost Planet Airmen.

    Between two evils I always choose the one I haven't tried before.
    - Mae West

    I've been rich and I've been poor; rich is better. - Sophie Tucker
229.48CSSE32::M_DAVISMarge Davis HallyburtonTue Jul 10 1990 15:576
    "Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in our own
    sunshine."
    
    May 16th on an old calendar.
    
    mdh
229.49FSHQA1::AWASKOMTue Jul 10 1990 17:135
    Remembered another one -- Consistency is a bugaboo of little minds.
    
    Came in handy today.
    
    Alison
229.50here's an example:REGENT::BROOMHEADDon't panic -- yet.Tue Jul 10 1990 19:304
    That's "A foolish consistancy is the hobgoblin of petty minds."
    penned by Waldo Emerson (who hated the name "Ralph").
    
    							Ann B.
229.51GEMVAX::KOTTLERTue Jul 10 1990 19:445
    
    Then there's "honi soit qui mal y pense," which I always take to mean
    "I honestly think I'm going to be sick"... ;-)
    
    Dorian
229.52Don't worry about it ;-)HOO78C::VISSERSDutch ComfortTue Jul 10 1990 20:003
    Shame on anyone who thinks evil of that, Dorian ;-)
    
    Ad
229.53.52 - merci!GEMVAX::KOTTLERWed Jul 11 1990 12:091
    
229.54joySTAR::BARTHWed Jul 11 1990 16:142
    "The struggle which is not joyous is the wrong struggle"
    				- Germaine Greer
229.55GODIVA::benceThe hum of bees...Wed Jul 11 1990 17:238

	Misery IS optional.

	Better the victim of comedy than tragedy.


						clb
229.56misery IS optionalISTG::KLEINBERGERI think we have a concealed weaponThu Jul 12 1990 01:393
    Re.55
    
    hey... that was my personal name during my divorce proceedings...
229.57ethics and wisdom separate us from other crittersODIXIE::CARNELLDTN 385-2901 David Carnell @ALFThu Jul 12 1990 20:123
    
    Attain the realization of wisdom, and do what's ethically right.
    
229.58paraphrase10529::JWHITEthe company of intelligent womenTue Aug 07 1990 20:534
    
    don't analyse...love.
    	-francis poulenc
    
229.59FACVAX::MCDONOUGHSWed Aug 22 1990 13:571
    Better is the enemy of Good.
229.60Not cynical, realistic.SNOBRD::CONLIFFECthulhu Barata NiktoWed Aug 22 1990 14:025
I don't know whether this should go here or in the "quotable people" note:

	"You can make no mistakes and still lose -- that's life."

			(Jean-Luc Picard, in Star Trek:The Next Generation)
229.61dichotomiesDECWET::JWHITEthe company of intelligent womenThu Sep 06 1990 17:3413
    
    anything worth saying is worth saying twice
    					-dale carnegie (?)
    
    say something once, why say it again?
    					-talking heads
    
    the only way to win is not to play
    					-the film 'war games'
    
    you gotta play to win
    					-pennsylvania state lottery
    
229.62BOLT::MINOWCheap, fast, good; choose twoThu Sep 06 1990 18:467
re: .61:

Don't forget

	Anything not worth doing is not worth doing well.
					-- Gordon Bell (ex Digital vp).

229.64Feeling the Fear...YUPPY::DAVIESAArtemis'n'me...Mon Sep 24 1990 12:072
    
    I can handle it.
229.65HEFTY::CHARBONNDFree Berkshire!Mon Sep 24 1990 12:164
    "Only that day dawns to which we are awake. There is more day to
    dawn. The sun is but a morning star."
    
    Henry David Thoreau
229.66My personal wisdomTHEBUS::MALINGLife is a balancing actTue Sep 25 1990 16:3516
    Listen to others, but decide for yourself.
    
    There's a lot to be said for listening.
    
    Ears have walls.
    
    A mind can only be opened from the inside.
    
    The most damaging lies are the ones we tell ourselves.
    
    To thine own self be truthful.
    
    If you're afraid of making mistakes, then you're making a mistake.
    
    If you want to make love, you have to take your clothes off.
    
229.67On a poster of a tiger I have: "I'm a 'Pussy Cat' but don't mess with me"...CUBE3::MACKEY...however measured or far away...Tue Sep 25 1990 19:1013
Mine for a long time:

		Step to the music you hear
				(Thoreau - paraphrased)

See personal name for the rest of the thought.

Also:
	"Go placidly amid the noise and the haste
	 And remember what peace there may be in silence"
							Desiderata

Kevin
229.68gandhi, i thinkDECWET::JWHITEthe company of intelligent womenTue Sep 25 1990 19:193
    
    there are many things worth dying for, none worth killing for
    
229.69LEZAH::BOBBITTwater, wind, and stoneFri Sep 28 1990 12:278
    Particularly these days...
    
    "It never rains, but it pours"
    
    "Feast or famine"
    
    -Jody
    
229.70Words to live bySTAR::RDAVISMan, what a roomfulla stereotypes.Fri Sep 28 1990 16:0316
    "OH SOMEBODY HERE ASIDES ME IS GOING TO RUE THIS HERE PARTICULAR DAY!"
    	- Joanna Russ, quoting a bear in "Pogo"
    
    "Of course you're a bore, but in that you're not charmless"
    	- The Velvet Underground
    
    "You've actually EATEN the King of Rock-and-Roll!"
    	- Lester Bangs
    
    "P.U., Mr. Science, what stinks?"
    "Ha ha ha!  This is just battery acid, Jimmy.  We'll drop this orange 
    into it... Now we'll stir it around with this screwdriver..."
    "Why are you doing that, Mr. Science?"
    "What do you mean, `why?', Jimmy?"
    	- M. K. Brown
    
229.71money talks another dialectCOMET::POSHUSTASolar CatSun Sep 30 1990 02:458
    
    
    	Never (ever) under estimate the POWER of CASH!  
    
    	My cube maxim.  
    
    					Kelly
    
229.72life is uncertain. Eat dessert first!BTOVT::THIGPEN_SI donwanna wearatieWed Oct 03 1990 15:191
    
229.73BLUMON::WAYLAY::GORDONThe owls are not what they seem...Wed Oct 03 1990 15:211
	I am a product of all the people I've ever known.
229.74egoism in a nutshellHEFTY::CHARBONNDscorn to trade my placeWed Oct 03 1990 15:331
    I am still me in spite of all the people I've ever known.
229.75Goo goo goo joobCSC32::M_VALENZANote instead of sleeping.Wed Oct 03 1990 15:363
    I am me and you are me and you are he and we are all together.
    
    	-- The Beatles
229.76and the good stuff only in moderationSKYLRK::OLSONPartner in the Almaden Train Wreck!Wed Oct 03 1990 15:561
    Life's too short to drink bad wine.
229.77hey, this is getting to be fun :-)HEFTY::CHARBONNDscorn to trade my placeWed Oct 03 1990 16:021
    Moderation in all things. Including moderation.
229.78WJOUSM::STRATTONWe didn't start the fire...Wed Oct 03 1990 16:383
    Believe that you have it, and you have it.
    
                                               --Latin Proverb
229.79Your treat :-)BSS::VANFLEETTreat yourself to happinessWed Oct 03 1990 16:446
    ....see p_n
    
        -Ken Keyes
    
    
    Nanci
229.80...WORDY::BELLUSCICider house rulesWed Oct 03 1990 18:103
    The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom.  (I hope)
    
      -- Blake
229.81Speaking of roads...CSC32::M_VALENZANote instead of sleeping.Wed Oct 03 1990 18:211
    The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
229.82NAVIER::SAISIWed Oct 03 1990 18:542
    	"Opinions are like a$$holes, everyone has one."
    					-anon
229.83extra insulation and shock absorbtion :-)SA1794::CHARBONNDscorn to trade my placeThu Oct 04 1990 09:341
    "I'm not fat, I'm built for excesses of enthusiasm."
229.84RUBY::BOYAJIANDanger! Do Not Reverse Polarity!Thu Oct 04 1990 10:2710
    "Good is better than evil because it's nicer."
    
    				--- Mammy Yokum
    
    "The two most common things in the Universe are hydrogen and
     stupidity."
    
    				--- Harlan Ellison
    
    --- jerry
229.85GOLF::KINGRPREPARE to die earth scum!!!!!!!!!!!Thu Oct 04 1990 11:089
>    	"Opinions are like a$$holes, everyone has one."
>    					-anon
    
    
      Just to add another line to this...
    
    But some are bigger than others.............
    
    anon
229.86BTOVT::THIGPEN_SI donwanna wearatieThu Oct 04 1990 11:476
    sparked by .84:
    >"The two most common things in the Universe are hydrogen and
      stupidity."  -- Harlan Ellison
    
    "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain."
    				-- Issac Asimov
229.87Isaac was quoting NietzscheREGENT::BROOMHEADDon't panic -- yet.Thu Oct 04 1990 11:580
229.88BTOVT::THIGPEN_SI donwanna wearatieThu Oct 04 1990 12:114
    Asimov quoting Nietzsche -- thanks, I always wondered, and since I'm
    not a huge fan of Asimov's anymore (except for that book), I am glad to
    be corrected away from giving him more credit than he is due.  (He
    gives himself enough, imo)
229.89Gegen Dummheit kaempfen die Goetter selbst umsonst!MOMCAT::TARBETand don't fool time a-dawdlingThu Oct 04 1990 12:261
    Nietzsche?  I thought that was von Goethe.
229.90Come on, give us a translation.CSC32::M_VALENZANote instead of sleeping.Thu Oct 04 1990 12:514
    There she goes again, showing off her knowledge of foreign languages.
    ;-)

    -- Mike
229.91RUBY::BOYAJIANDanger! Do Not Reverse Polarity!Thu Oct 04 1990 12:569
229.92CSC32::M_VALENZANote with fluoxetine hydrochloride.Thu Oct 04 1990 13:073
    Yes, and the gods are contending in vain against my stupidity.  :-)
    
    -- Mike
229.93HEFTY::CHARBONNDDELETE the SimpsonsThu Oct 18 1990 13:144
    "Take what you want and pay for it."  Iberian proverb
    
    and thanks to BOOKS::GERBE for .32 which has become Touchstone
    # 1 these days
229.94eggsDECWET::JWHITEjoy shared is joy doubledTue Nov 06 1990 15:174
    
    "i believe god made me for a purpose...but he also made me *fast*"
    	-eric liddel in 'chariots of fire'
    
229.95Since Ann has become a minor celeb today...BLUMON::WAYLAY::GORDONThe gifted and the damned...Fri Nov 16 1990 17:048
	This is a personal philosophy.

	"Never argue with Ann Broomhead unless you've done your research
and are damn sure of your topic, because you you can be sure that Ann will."

					--Doug
					  humble member of the Ann Broomhead
					  fan club.
229.96WMOIS::M_KOWALEWICZan itch for simian companionshipMon Nov 19 1990 13:4612
	        Sanskrit Proverb 

	Look to this day, for it is life,
	The very life of life.
	In its brief course lies all
	The realities and verities of existance,
	The bliss of growth, the splendor of action, the glory of power -
	For yesterday is but a dream and tomorrow is only a vision.
	But today, well lived, makes every yesterday a dream of happiness
	And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
	Look well, therefore, to this day.

229.97henry krutosikDECWET::JWHITEthe company of intelligent womenWed Nov 21 1990 15:506
    
    my brother's violin teacher told me: 'don't make enemies'.
    
    he was referring to the music business, but it's a good rule 
    for real life.
    
229.98NOATAK::BLAZEKhold up silently my handsTue Dec 18 1990 15:266
    
    We are the doorways of life and we must choose what comes in and what
    goes out.
    
    - Marge Piercy
    
229.99Good ThoughtHENRYY::HASLAM_BACreativity UnlimitedFri Dec 21 1990 18:254
    "It takes as much energy to live a miserable life as it does to
    live a good one.  It's up to us which one we choose."
    
    -Dr. Denis Waitley
229.100in light of the current Iraq situationLEZAH::BOBBITTtrial by stoneFri Dec 21 1990 18:494
    "Children ask the world of us"
    
    					(source unknown)
    
229.101SA1794::CHARBONNDThu Jun 13 1991 09:302
    "If you can't take the heat and the pressure you'll never be a
    diamond."
229.102SNOBRD::CONLIFFEout-of-the-closet ThespianTue Aug 27 1991 16:123
A critic knows the price of everything, and the value of nothing.

(Can't you tell we've got a show opening in a couple of weeks (-:  )
229.103Couldn't resist...SMURF::CALIPH::binderSine tituloTue Aug 27 1991 17:135
Re: .102

Sounds like a potentially costly, but worthess, statement to me...  :-)

-d