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    I am going to learn how to take control of the depression which so
    often has taken control of me. I will fight back.

    I am continuing the hour walks I've been taking 4-5 days a week (of
    course the dogs wouldn't let me quit anyway :*))

    I will concentrate on the good parts of my life and learn to see the
    positives in my life. I will not give up the hope of finding
    happiness. There will be someone out there to love me.

    I'll get past strumming and learn how to finger-pick on my dulcimer.
    (no matter how awful it sounds at first :*))

    I will make a difference in this world. liesl

	 I'm going to learn to love myself, instead of hating myself.

	 I'm going to lose the last 20 lbs and the last 10% body fat
	 (if possible).

	 I'm going to get my finances in order.

	 I'm going to look into a new job for once this project is
	 over  (preferably AI!)


	 kath

	 

    In re: Note 909.1 by TINCUP::KOLBE 
    
>    I am going to learn how to take control of the depression which so
>    often has taken control of me. I will fight back.
    
    
    I know almost nothing about you, but I want to make sure you realize
    that most depression (except situational, temporary episodes) is
    biochemically based, rather than psychological/moral in nature.
    "Fighting back" will not work, and therapy won't help much.
    Usually medication is necessary, but it can also be wonderfully
    effective. Depression has become one of the best understood and most
    easily treatable mental illnesses.

    Unfortunately, many physicians and even some psychiatrists do not
    understand depression, do not diagnose and treat clinical
    depression properly, and are somehow averse to psychopharmacology.
    I know this from painful personal experience. Yet untreated depression
    can be agony for the patient and others in their life, and can too
    easily lead to suicide and other avoidable disasters.

    Get help! It can be hard to start, but extremely rewarding. The problem
    is absolutely as "NO FAULT" as anything in the world, although it
    doesn't seem that way when you're in its grips. As an added bonus, you
    get much faster, surer results than with "talk therapy" (though that
    can be a very good thing too, when needed), and DEC will pick up almost
    the entire cost.  DO IT.
    
    	- Bruce

    I'm going to listen to myself.  I've never sat still long enough to do
    that.  I think I was afraid I wouldn't have anything interesting to
    say.  Now I'm not so sure....
    
    I'm going to keep working on my skills and my hobbies, always honing,
    always learning, always growing....
    
    I think this would be a good year to flourish, perhaps...
    
    -Jody

    Quit smoking (my only vice).
    
    Tammi
    

    Take care of *me*!

    justme....jacqui

    I resolve not to make any New Year resolutions this year.
    
    Bruce

    I resolve to start drawing and oil painting again.
    
    I resolve to buy hardly any jewelry this year. :-)
    
    Lorna
    

    To be more forgiving of myself and others.

    No DIETS!  Rather, moderation in most things, most of the time.
    
    To learn to quilt.
    
    To knit more of my own designs and use up some of the yarn in the closet.

    
    	- to decorate my home with more of my own artwork
    	- to relocate my home to the great northwest
    	- to further minimize my use of styrofoam, plastic, and so many 
    	  other chemical wastes that are burying our Earth
    	- to be more forgiving of others
    	- to never ignore that little voice inside
    	- to love
    
    	Carla
    

    - Clean house; my physical one I live in and my life's "house"
    - Do research, lay ground work and go for the career I've really wanted
      for the past 10years+
    - Eat healthier
    - Laugh more
    - Try new and different things
    
    P.
    

    No New Years resolutions.

	I came across this a few years back and put it aside; I review it 
	from time-to-time (hoping for a certain level of osmosis...).  

	Thought I'd share it.

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	     RESOLUTION '86

	Having learned what makes a person emotionally mature, it is my
	New Year's resolution to practice becoming such a person.  Here
	are some specifics:
	    1. To accept criticism gratefully, considering it an 
		  opportunity to improve.
	    2. To avoid indulging in self-pity, understanding that
		  the laws of compensation operate in life.
	    3. To expect no special consideration from anyone.
	    4. To control my temper.
	    5. To meet emergencies with poise.
	    6. To stay balanced and not have my feelings' so easily hurt.
	    7. To accept responsibility for my own acts without trying 
		  to alibi.
	    8. To outgrow the "all or nothing" stage and learn to 
		  appreciate the value of the middle ground.
	    9. To tolerate reasonable delays with patience, accepting
		  the fact that the world is not being run for my personal
		  convenience.
	   10. To be a good loser, enduring defeat and disappointment 
		  without whining or complaining.
	   11. To stop worrying unduly about things I can't help.
	   12. To lose the need to boast or show off.
	   13. To be honestly glad when others enjoy success or good
		  fortune.
	   14. To avoid being a chronic faultfinder; to look for, and find,
		  good points before faults.
	   15. To be open-minded enough to listen thoughtfully to the 
		  opinions of others.
	   16. To realize that I am not going to be able to carry out all
		  these good intentions perfectly, but that I can give them
		  all a try -- one day at a time.


						Anonymous

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	This one was shared with me by a friend a few years back.  Like the
	verse in .13, I tucked it away and review from time-to-time.

	Though not a "resolution" per se, thought I'd share it also.

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			A PRAYER FOR THE MIDDLE AGED

	Lord, thou knowest better than I know myself that I am growing
	older and will someday be old.  Keep me from the fatal habit of
	thinking I must say something on every subject on every occasion.
	Release me from craving to straighten out everybody's affairs.  
	Make me thoughtful but not moody; helpful but not bossy.  With my
	vast store of wisdom, it seems a pity not to use it all, but Thou
	knowest, Lord, that I want a few friends at the end.

	Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details; give me wings
	to get to the point.  Seal my lips on my aches and pains.  They are
	increasing, and love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter as the
	years go by.  I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of
	others' pains, but help me to endure them with patience.  I dare not
	ask for improved memory, but for growing humility and a lessening
	cocksuredness when my memory seems to clash with the memories of 
	others.  Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be
	mistaken.

	Keep me reasonably sweet; I do not want to be a saint - some of them
	are so hard to live with - but a sour old person is one of the crown-
	ing works of the devil.  Give me the ability to see good things in
	unexpected places and talents in unexpected people.  Give me the
	grace to tell them so.  Amen.


						- Source Unknown

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    re .13
    
    Thank you for that list.  I needed to see it today.  
    
    Alison

    I resolve to be in closer touch with a friend and her family.  
      They helped shape me as I grew up and are going through some
      difficult times. 
    
    I resolve to finish filling out GEEP and university application forms!
    
    Pam

    To live a low maintenance basic lifestyle... (saying borrowed from 2 good
    friends :-)...)
    
    To finish my Graduate degree, and to get accepted for my PhD.
    
    To not get emotionally involved with any male all year long.
    
    To enjoy my kids more.
    
    To learn how to live "alone" more.