Conference turris::womannotes-v2

    
    I'm still very attached to one of my ex-boyfriends.....
    
    1) Yes, I still feel possesive. If I hear about his latest lady
       I still think smugly "He could have been happier with me...."
    
    2) I miss his humour, his enormous energy and creativity, his
       great warm self-confidence and his smiling eyes.
       I miss the wonderful lovemaking, and the way I felt the morning
       after - full of energy, at peace with the world, and full of
       ideas. He made me want to write, paint, draw, make things....
       his energy was so infectious.
    
    3) c)
       I guess that I'd also blush, shake, and feel like a total jelly.
       But I'd try and behave like Grace Kelly until I could get out
       of the room he was in...
    
    4) I'm looking for someone exactly like him except for one detail....
       I'd like him to want me too.... 8-}
                                       
    'gail
    

    Everyone else pales in comparison to my ex.  Unfortunately, no two
    people are alike, therefore, I would search forever to find someone
    that even comes CLOSE to him and the way he made me feel.
    
    I'll never get over my ex, ever.  He passed away two weeks ago of
    brain cancer.  He had left me in February to go back to the family
    (far away) and spend his last days with them.
    
    Fortunately, I'm over it enough to join the dating game once again,
    and as usual, it's got me thoroughly confused and I absolutely HATE
    it.  It was so *easy* with Rick.  He was the joy and love of my
    life.
    
    Tammi
    

 Tammi-

 My condolences. Losing a loved one is tough.

 The Doctah

    
    1.  Sometimes...when he first told me that he had found someone else
    	I told him I was happy for him but deep inside I was saying
    	"What does she have that I didn't??"
    
    2.  I miss his warmth and understanding, his kindness, his
    	intelligence.  His beautiful eyes and the way they would look
    	at me just right that would make me melt.  The strength but
    	gentleness of his arms when he held me.
    
    3.  C.  We are still very close friends.  A rule I make for myself.
    	I try and stay on good terms with my ex's and he is no exception.
    	I still love him and always will.  But I control my feelings for
    	him when I'm around him.
    
    4.  I am now engaged to a wonderful man.  He has some of the endearing
    	qualities that my ex did but not all.  He also has a few that my
    	ex didn't.  My ex was married to his job.  My fiance isn't.  I
    	am number one....and that makes me feel good.  I still miss my
    	ex from time to time and wish it could have worked out for us.
    	But life doesn't always go the way we wish it would.
    
    	JJ
    
    	

I'll always have a place for Pat in my heart...When I see him around town, 
or talk to him on the phone, there's always that little ache inside of me.

I hurt for days, even months after we broke up....I even went thru a near
breakdown because of it, combined with all the other things that were
going wrong in my life.

It wasn't until I finally sat down one day and told myself that, if it 
wasn't right for him, it couldn't have been right for us.  He's a loner...
no matter how much he still loves me, and I am...we would never be happy 
in a permanent relationship.....

And i respect him even more for not "playing at" a relationship, but coming
and out and telling me exactly what he felt.

/kath

    I don't know if I feel possessive - he hasn't really gotten involved
    with any other women as of yet (not for lack of interest, though...)
    
    What do I miss about him?  His warmth, his childish-playful side,
    I miss the mind-boggling physical-relationship side, I miss his
    wit and his puns and his stunning intellect.  What do I not
    miss about him - his irresponsibility and lack of attention (it
    got pretty bad at the end).
    
    If I saw him today I'd be glad to spend time with him, and do on
    occasion.  I am VERY careful to keep my emotional distance because
    I was really too dependent on him and I am afraid that it might
    happen again (my rational mind probably wouldn't let it, but that
    doesn't keep my emotions from fearing it might happen)...
    
    As for potential relationship partners?  I'm not really looking
    now, but if I was, it would fit into a similar template only as
    far as intelligence, fascinating eyes, vital life spirit, shared 
    mutual interest, and high self esteem.

    -Jody
        

    Slow as usual, but yes this is a hot topic to me.
    
    Yes , he still means something...
I was about to emigrate for this guy. He st
    ill writes my mother about  
   the new girlfriends.. oooh I could  have lived in San Franscisco   
    for this guy... And I loved him...                                
    I'm married now,  very proper. He's great but he's not like him...

    I still get the anticipation when I am in a place where he might show
    up.  The awareness that doesn't allow me to fully concentrate on my
    surroundings.  And that wonderful rush when he does show up and we
    exchange pleasentries.
    
    But I can leave and go on with my life.  

    After a drawn-out breakup of a long-term relationship with my ex in 
    NYC, I moved back to the Boston area where after a while I met and then 
    married my husband, who UNBELIEVABLY has the exact same birthdate (day, 
    month, AND year) as my ex!!  If I didn't believe in fate before, I sure
    do now!
    
    I miss my ex in a way, but I think that's always the case after a
    long-term relationship.  He tried to come see me several times, but my
    husband wouldn't have it.  When I get sporadic notes from him
    informing me of his activities, I get a smug satisfaction out of
    knowing that he still hasn't found anyone who measures up to me.  But
    this I attribute to just plain ego.
    
    My philosophy is that you have to go with your life and find someone
    who meets your needs better - be it loving more deeply, more caring
    person, less work-obsessed, or ready to marry - and leave the ex where
    he belongs - in the PAST.  I wish I knew better years ago when I was
    still in that destructive relationship, but I guess we do get older and
    wiser.  But if someone had given me the same advice then, I probably
    wouldn't have listened.
    
    Courage!
    
    -Stella