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Conference turris::womannotes-v1

Title:ARCHIVE-- Topics of Interest to Women, Volume 1 --ARCHIVE
Notice:V1 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open.
Moderator:REGENT::BROOMHEAD
Created:Thu Jan 30 1986
Last Modified:Fri Jun 30 1995
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:873
Total number of notes:22329

629.0. "Who's Happiest?" by GUCCI::MHILL (Life's a mystery, but I have a clue.) Wed Dec 30 1987 19:51

    I also entered this topic in MENNOTES.  Since I know WOMANNOTES
    to be a more lively file, I thought this would be a good place to
    ask.
                                                        
    Survys indicate that the happiest and longist lived groups of people
     are:
                                                        
    1.  Single Women and                 
    2.  Married Men                      
                                         
    Why?  My opnion as to why married men are happier than single men
    is that we (I'm one) are taken care of and made to feel important.
    After all isn't this what mom did - tell us how brave and strong
    we were?  Why are single women happier than married women? - They
    don't have to take care of someone who dosen't contribute to their
    sence of self worth.  
    
    I would like to hear others' opnions without getting into nitpiks over
    logic.  I know we are talking generalities and not *all* but *most*.
    There are always expections.
    
    Cheers, Marty
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629.1Agreement. How un-lively. :-)REGENT::BROOMHEADDon't panic -- yet.Wed Dec 30 1987 20:123
    Your take on it is my take on it.
    
    							Ann B.
629.2with that in mind....HEFTY::CHARBONNDWhat a pitcher!Thu Dec 31 1987 10:143
    Single male seeks single female, object : to shorten your life
    expectancy and make you miserable. AKA marriage.
    Isn't honesty refreshing :-)
629.3another possible hype report?SALEM::AMARTINVanna & me are a numberMon Jan 04 1988 02:194
    RE: 0    BULLS**T!
    RE: 2  It depends on the woman.  My wife is wonderful and incedently
    she is my business partner/bestest freind.  so nyea (see tongue
    sticking out) :-)
629.4Re BULLS**TGUCCI::MHILLLife's a mystery, but I have a clue.Mon Jan 04 1988 12:058
    RE .3
    
    Like I said in .0, there are always exceptions.
    
    p.s. I would never consider speaking for my wife.  At least I try
    not to.
    
    Cheers, Marty
629.5Live longer but happier?BIGMAC::JAROSSMon Jan 04 1988 15:4119
    My older single women friends may live longer (some are very active
    and well into their 70s) but I'm not convinced that they're happier.
    These women had strong careers when their friends were raising kids
    and they have the respectful title of "Aunt" but many of them would
    liked to have had the opportunity we now have of working and having
    a family.
    
    I don't doubt your statistics on men at all. I occasionally tell
    my husband that all he really wants is a maid who f%^*s! 
    
    On a tangent, does anyone have a copy of the poem that appeared
    in the very first issue of Ms. Magazine entitled "I need a wife"
    -- it was written by a woman and was basically a laundry list of
    all the things she needed a wife to do. It still holds true . .
    . especially now that we're working mothers and don't have the time.
    No wonder we're destined for shorter lives -- we're burning out!
    
    M
    
629.6I *DO* need a wife, and I know who I would choose!GLINKA::GREENEMon Jan 04 1988 22:1515
    re .5 and women needing wives
    
    Over the holidays I had dinner with a college roommate from years
    ago...one of those friends where *nothing* ever changes regardless
    of how much time passes between contacts [this is the bonding
    referred to in another note...].
    
    She is still raising a family (children age 10-20), and has never
    worked outside the home, although she works plenty hard IN the home
    as they have a severely handicapped child, age 17 with mental age
    less than 1.  I don't know how she does it;  she can't understand
    how I did it!
    
    But we both agreed that I would have been far better off if she
    had been there the past 20 years to "keep order in my life"...
629.7dissentCLT::BP2Thu Jan 07 1988 16:1714
    How the heck do you measure happiness?
    
    Aside from that minor problem of different expectations interfering
    with benchmarking "happiness quotients", I'd say women who remain
    single are much less likely to have children. That alone might account
    for it. No, women don't die too often in childbirth, but it is a
    strain on the body. I find it hard to believe that the statistics on working
    women would have become significant yet because the working population
    is a relatively new phenomenon, and the women are not yet dying
    off (jolly thought for all you moms!) So who knows? In this type
    of study, there are so many variables that numbers are almost useless.
    
    dov
              
629.8VolunteeringCLT::BP2Thu Jan 07 1988 16:2410
    re .5 (women need wives)
    
    My eventual career goal is to work for myself, at home, specifically
    so I can stay home and be a house husband, particularly when the
    kid(s) is (are?) young. I have always thought men unfortunate for
    missing out on this bond with their children.
    
    Any takers? ;-)
    
    dov
629.9RIGHT STUFFSSDEVO::HILLIGRASSFri Jan 08 1988 17:252
    right on, thats the RIGHT STUFF !!!