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Conference yukon::christian_v7

Title:The CHRISTIAN Notesfile
Notice:Jesus reigns! - Intros: note 4; Praise: note 165
Moderator:ICTHUS::YUILLEON
Created:Tue Feb 16 1993
Last Modified:Fri May 02 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:962
Total number of notes:42902

489.0. "Dealing with Survivor's Guilt" by ICTHUS::YUILLE (Thou God seest me) Wed Jun 01 1994 08:17

					Posted on request, by Andrew (co-mod)

   At least for now, I've asked that this be posted without my name.
   Partly because I'm still working through it, partly because the other
   people who may have been involved are still here, and partly because I
   believe that I may not be the only one dealing with this.
   
   Survivor's Guilt
   
   Everybody who is still here, even those people who have been "tapped"
   recently, has had to deal with it.  We've all seen friends, peers, and
   probably even team members get let go over the past couple of years.
   Its been tough, sometimes, to deal with the fact that people around us
   are no longer employed here and we still are.  
   
   Here's the short chronology ...
   
   o About 1.5 wks ago, I was told, unofficially, that my job was at
     risk.  (I later found out that our group were scheduled to lose
     about 33%).  I immediately started looking for a job internally and
     talking with anybody I knew who was employed somewhere else to see
     about openings.
   
   o A couple of days after that, I was told that the list was being
     looked at, and that there was a slim chance that I was going to be
     OK.
   
   o I received info once or twice again that hope was not lost, and that
     there was still a chance that I was going to be removed from the
     list.
   
   o Last Friday afternoon, I received notice that the final review was
     complete, and that I was indeed off the list.  I was going to be
     allowed to keep my job here.

   So... here we are.  My manager has been doing exit interviews with
   people in the group for most of the morning, and isn't done yet.  The
   fellow in the next office is leaving this week - we've been working
   together for more than a few years now.
   
   And here I sit.... still employed... new, somewhat urgent projects to
   jump into... feeling strange about all this.
   
   I know that all things work for a greater good that I most likely
   won't understand right away ... I know that God is ultimately in
   charge and there must be a reason for this... but I still feel strange
   about it.  Why me and not the other one?  Was there someone else who
   was recently placed on the list to take my place?  Am I wrong to be
   feeling more than a little distrust towards my organization right now?
   
   I've felt bad before about losing colleagues ... but this time its
   different.  This time it hit a little closer to home, and, well, its
   strange...
   
   Any thoughts...
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489.1CNTROL::JENNISONDo you hear the people sing ?Wed Jun 01 1994 12:3315
	Interesting - I was just having similar thoughts as was reading
	of more confirmed departures.

	I've been thanking God for my job, then realized that even
	for those leaving us, God is *still* in control.  It does
	feel strange to be staying and saying good-bye to dear
	friends, yet I doubt these friends would feel better if
	we, too, lost our jobs.  

	He is our Jehovah Jireh, Our Provider, and I pray and believe
	that he will continue to provide for our brothers and sisters.
	His ways are not our ways, but are indeed greater!

	Karen
489.2CSLALL::HENDERSONBe thereWed Jun 01 1994 14:279


 I find it hard to even note with so many leaving :-(




 Jim
489.3TOKNOW::METCALFEEschew Obfuscatory MonikersWed Jun 01 1994 14:5632
  First, recognise that the process of selection this time around has little
rhyme or reason.  Why someone gets it and someone doesn't is more and more
a chance thing than a considered decision.  (Oh, there are still some
business decisions made, but by an large, it is just easier to lay off 
some people than it is to lay off others.  That's the fact of human 
decision making processes when all other things are pretty well equal.)
Also, there is nothing you did right or wrong to stay, and your friends
did nothing right or wrong to get tapped.  It isn't your fault.
  Second, from a perspective a bit higher up from where you sit, the "all 
things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the 
called according to his purpose" does apply.  For the person who is no
longer employed by Digital, there is likely much good that will be "working
together," which I do not expect to be singularly faceted; there will be many
goods which may not translate into a "higher paying job elsewhere."  It may,
but God may call otherwise, and elsewhere.
  Third, Digital is not through with its layoffs (downsizing) and I suggest 
that your continued avocation be to check your contacts, looking for 
opportunities.  Survival this round can be a curse if you are at risk
this time and do not prepare for the next round.  It can be a blessing as
time to prepare for the next round (or the next).  The F may be taken our
of TFSO (financial), meaning that the time you have between jobs will
likely be significantly less funded than it is for those who are axed this
time (as little as it is compared to previous layoffs).
  Lastly, and always, God is good - whatever our circumstances on this temporal 
mound of dirt.  He cares, and especially cares about our relationship with 
Him.  And He will provide that which is needed, though He may redefine what
we understand as a need.  Don't ever be lured into the advice of Job's
wife to "curse God and die."  (Some advice!)  Instead, seek His face and
act, continuing to listen and watch for His direction.  He is faithful
and just and will lead.

Mark
489.4RICKS::PSHERWOODWed Jun 01 1994 15:025
    Amen, MM.
    
    My prayer and hope is that y'all don't have to go through this, tho I
    am in some ways, glad to go, but in others, its kinda sad.
    
489.5BIGQ::SILVAMemories.....Wed Jun 01 1994 15:169


	I asked for it, but did not get it. People who did not have other
places they could go right away were offered it. I don't understand this
company sometimes.


Glen
489.6Bad VibesYIELD::BARBIERIWed Jun 01 1994 15:168
      Yeah, nice replies.
    
      I don't know why its hit me when it has (not that I was immune
      to it previously), but the 'mood' here is absolutely appaling.
    
      It just flat out hurts being here.
    
                                                  Tony
489.7some encouraging versesRICKS::PSHERWOODWed Jun 01 1994 15:1750
    The verses from the "Encouragement" disc of Scripture Memory Songs:
    (All NIV)
    PSA 10:17 You hear, O LORD, the desire of the afflicted; you encourage
    them, and you listen to their cry,
    PSA 34:18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who
    are crushed in spirit.
    PSA 34:19 A righteous man may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers
    him from them all;
    PSA 42:11 Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me?
    Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.
    PSA 59:16 But I will sing of your strength, in the morning I will sing
    of your love; for you are my fortress, my refuge in times of trouble.
    PSA 59:17 O my Strength, I sing praise to you; you, O God, are my
    fortress, my loving God.
    PSA 91:1 He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the
    shadow of the Almighty.
    PSA 91:2 I will say of the LORD, "He is my refuge and my fortress, my
    God, in whom I trust."
    LAM 3:19 I remember my affliction and my wandering, the bitterness and
    the gall.
    LAM 3:20 I well remember them, and my soul is downcast within me.
    LAM 3:21 Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope:
    LAM 3:22 Because of the LORD'S great love we are not consumed, for his
    compassions never fail.
    LAM 3:23 They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
    MAT 11:28 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will
    give you rest.
    MAT 11:29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and
    humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
    MAT 11:30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
    1CO 15:51 Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we
    will all be changed--
    1CO 15:52 in a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet.
    For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and
    we will be changed.
    PHI 4:12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have
    plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every
    situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in
    want.
    PHI 4:13 I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
    2TH 1:11 With this in mind, we constantly pray for you, that our God
    may count you worthy of his calling, and that by his power he may
    fulfill every good purpose of yours and every act prompted by your
    faith.
    2TI 4:7 I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have
    kept the faith.
    2TI 4:8 Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which
    the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day--and not
    only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing.
    
489.8JULIET::MORALES_NASweet Spirit's Gentle BreezeWed Jun 01 1994 15:315
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    Good job there Phil! :-) :-)