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| 146.1 | It's theirs. | TERZA::ZANE | for who you are | Wed Aug 07 1991 12:11 | 14 |
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I got totally disgusted with this. I finally gave up and have left it to
the responsibility of my children. If they want to have the item at my
house, they have to remember to bring it. The only exception is for
bicycles, books, and board games. They have bikes at my house and at
their father's house. Books and board games that I have given them stay
at my house. All the other stuff is completely theirs and they can
choose to keep things at their father's house or my house. If they
forget it there, they have to remember to bring it the next time they
come.
Terza
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| 146.2 | A LITTLE WISDOM | POBOX::WILLIAMS_L | | Wed Aug 07 1991 15:17 | 13 |
| Sounds like I could have written this reply. I used to bring my ex
into the picture as the heavy and finally I realized that the children
were leaving things at my home that she had paid for, finally I had a
talk with the children and told them that I buy things only one and
they were responsible for their toys and if they wanted them thay had
to keep up with them and bring them back when they took them home.
Of course they did not believe me but I stayed my ground and stopped
being accountable for things which were not mine. Now they are older
and more responsible, and they always accept their responsibility.
I a;so stopped cpmpeting with the ex and that stopped the need to buy
so many things; I found out that the kids really wanted to spend time
with me not to play with things..(smile)
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| 146.3 | Some stays, some goes | KAHALA::JOHNSON_L | Leslie Ann Johnson | Wed Aug 07 1991 17:58 | 8 |
| We keep some things at our house, and send others back. The children
are 6 & 8, and help decide what gets left here and what will go with them.
They really seem to be ok about doing this, and agree readily to leave
something here so it will be here the next time they come. Of course,
we shuttle the children via an airplane, so how much luggage one can take
limits how many toys, books, etc. can be brought back & forth.
Leslie
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| 146.4 | It works both ways | SUPER::MATTHEWS | | Wed Aug 07 1991 18:17 | 7 |
| We have the opposite problem. My husband's ex lives in a little apartment,
and we live in a house, so she just assumes we are supposed to act as a
storage depot for all the big outgrown toys! So we count our blessings &
figure there are worse things to get upset about, even if it does feel like
we're living at Child World sometimes.
Val
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| 146.5 | We keep the good stuff. | CSC32::LECOMPTE | MARANATHA! | Thu Aug 08 1991 09:03 | 10 |
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We, for the most part, keep things that we buy for the kids with
us. That way when they are here they have their own stuff. And it
is more like home. Our son that lives with us all of the time has
his own toys and such and is usually gracious enough to share them.
We do tend sometimes to use the 'ex' as a dumping ground for the toys
that we don't want around here (ie: McD's toys, loud toys, toys with
many pieces that we don't want to pick up).
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| 146.6 | Some sound advice | TROOA::AKERMANIS | | Thu Aug 08 1991 19:05 | 8 |
| Thanks for the replies, from your experiences and methods, I have decided much
of what I do now is OK. Books, games, kites and fishing rods stay. The rest
of the stuff is up to my son.
When I happen to buy things, most of it is for joint participation and
enjoyment.
John
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