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    Extremely important. Always the best. No.
    

    It really doesn't make any difference if it's my mate's birthday, our
    anniversary, my daughter's birthday, my mother's birthday, my father's
    birthday ... etc ... totally inconsequential as to the event.  I have
    zilch memory for things like this ... my dear sweet darlin' suggah'
    magnolia of a secretary makes sure that flowers and/or cards are sent
    - she can forge my name quite well.   I can look at the signature and
    can't tell if I signed it or she signed it ...

    Bubba
    
    PS - also, my secretary has a wonderful boss ...;-)

    Given how my birthday celebrations usually end up (: >,) I certainly
    hope you don't let your secretary handle the whole thing.
    
    Or maybe I do, what the heck.
    
    Ray

    I hope you remember your secretary when it counts, Bubba, birthday
    or Secretary's Day or paycheck, whichever is more important to her.
    
    :-)
    
    ed

    The former wifes birthday was very close to Chirstmas, December 16. She
    would get many Chirstmas Decorations for our tree that she enjoyed very
    much. I would also take her to see things like the Nutcracker, or BSO,
    or min. out to din-din. I will never forget the time she was carring
    our daughter. She had her maternity shirt on, had a bow tied on the
    shirt around her neck, and she was bubbling over the ballons I got her.
    We had dinner, made by me, cuddled, and sometime later she got a wild
    idea of giving the ballons their freedom. We went out side, and gave
    them freedom, one by one slipped into the darkness of the night. Out of
    the city lights, into the low hanging clouds or fogg. 
    
    My birthdays were made with a steak! She was/is a vegatarian. I would
    enjoy a surf and turf dinner and would have fun teasing her as she 
    cooked the dead cow. 
    
    Eva is our daughter of three. The birthdays get better and better each
    year with her. As in sitting up late putting together a doll house,
    putting together a Hot wheel trike and such. The kids get funnier and
    funnier with passing years. I cannot wait for her 4th. I think I am
    gonna rent a clown for this one! 

    My birthday's come and gone.  I'm glad it wasn't so bad, but I wouldn't
    have called it terrific exactly.  I mean, I truly love the gift
    my ex(husband) gave me and he really was concerned 'bout giving
    me something I'd really like, but seems like all the all the other
    stuff was missing.  This is where I'm learning to distinguish what's
    really important!
    
    I remember my first birthday with him.  We weren't married then,
    but he was absolutely crazy 'bout me.  (I think he must still be
    and probably in better terms, actually).  Anyway, he made this terrific
    chocolate cake, (my favorite), and he cooked a wonderful dinner,
    looked everywhere for this black, particular hat, (that burned in
    his car earlier and one that I always wore during my high school daze),
    and this beautiful ring with a stone.  He really went the extra
    mile!  (Unfortunately, that particular evening was an absolute
    catastrophe inspite of it all) but anyway he was so romantic back
    then.
    
    Actually, the above doesn't have much to do with my question...if
    having a birthday cake means a lot to you, should you just go ahead
    and get it yourself, and if you like flowers - should you order
    them yourself?  Should you tell your mate exactly what you'd like
    for your birthday, so you won't be dissappointed?
    
    My dad never remembers anyone's birthday, let alone his own
    anniversary.  His wife was pretty upset, but he told me that they
    know he never remembers this kind of stuff.  He asked me to call
    him to let him know my sisters' birthdays, so I will.  
    
    I think my point is that it's kind of strange to treat yourself
    so well and special or to expect someone else too, when it's just
    your birthday!?  Think so!    

    First, I find it interesting that your ex is still celebrating your
    brithday...   Does this happen often??  I know there ain't no way _I_
    am going to, but just want to know if other divorced couples do this.
    Even wierder, IMO, would be 'celebrating' your 'anniversary' with your
    spouse...  I know _I_ celebrated that day, but not with her! :-)
    
    Also, as someone that has a TERRIBLE memory,
    
>    them yourself?  Should you tell your mate exactly what you'd like
>    for your birthday, so you won't be dissappointed?
    
    I'd like to be reminded, and yes, I always appreciate getting 'hints'
    about what to get (I usually get something they asked for, and then
    something romantic they didn't expect)...
    
    Oh, and I think if it was phrased that way, (hints) instead of "I 
    WANT X and nothing else will do", it'd come across better :-)
    
    Dave

.4> I hope you remember your secretary when it counts, Bubba, birthday
.4> or Secretary's Day or paycheck, whichever is more important to her.

Believe me, I do.  I know that some people (my ex and my kids) really
love to get flowers/candy/etc... on their birthday and various occasious,
and, I want to do it - it's just that my memory for dates is (really)
terrible and she helps me out ... I do show my appreciation.

Bubba

    RE.7
    To answer your question....although we are divorced, we are considering
    remarriage in the near future!  And no, we did not celebrate while
    we were apart the last 5 years.  We've only just recently reunited.
    
    But your reply just cracked me up so bad!  I guess that'd really
    be a laugh to see a divorced couple treat each other so much better
    than while a married pair.

    when my ex's friends had her arrested for her 40'th (some charity gig)
    I, big heart that I am, threw in $5 toward her bail.
    
    ed

    
    Every Sept around the 24th, I through hubby a 'suprise party'  but
    after 10yrs of being together, I'm sure it's NO suprise..but I do
    it anyway..he loves it, and we get to see all our friends/relatives.
    
    Every year I act like I'm NOT planning anything and Every year he makes
    him self scarse so I can cook and decorate...I know it sounds funny..
    but..what floats our boat,