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Conference quark::mennotes-v1

Title:Topics Pertaining to Men
Notice:Archived V1 - Current file is QUARK::MENNOTES
Moderator:QUARK::LIONEL
Created:Fri Nov 07 1986
Last Modified:Tue Jan 26 1993
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:867
Total number of notes:32923

370.0. "Wife in Change?!??!" by HPSMEG::ASTON () Thu Aug 31 1989 11:25

    
    
    	Question of the day:
    
    	 My wife has entered "the change", at times she is fine, other
    	times I think she wants a part in Friday the 13th.
    
    	Anybody else going through this? How do you cope with it? How
    	many times should I sit through Friday the 13th?
    
    	
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370.1try a little tlc and see a doctorWMOIS::B_REINKEIf you are a dreamer, come in..Thu Aug 31 1989 12:476
    Has she been to a good doctor? A complete physical, a chance
    to talk about what she is experiencing, and possibly some hormone
    supliments could do wonders for her problems. The more patient
    and supportive you can be the easier it will be as well.
    
    Bonnie
370.2A physical, allergy check, vitamins should helpDELTAQ::WARDStop and taste the pizza.Thu Aug 31 1989 14:2612
My wife and I went through a rough time when she was about 30 or 31.
She'd have sudden mood changes, getting very hard to live with at times, then,
the next day, would be as nice as could be.

The bottom line was that she needed to stay off sugar!  When she avoided sugar
and started taking a good balance of vitamins, she stabilized very well.

She's been off the vitamins for a while, and is starting to do chocolate &
sugar again...and the problem is returning, so we're watching it carefully to 
make sure she doesn't overdo it.

Randy
370.3This Too Shall Pass!WMOIS::A_STYVESMon Sep 18 1989 16:036
    Just hang in there for her.  Remember that this is not any easy
    time for her either.  She has to live with it 24 hours a day.
    Be there for her when she need you but give her time to be by
    herself when she needs that.  Chances are, you have been through
    rough times in the past and this is just another chance to work
    a problem through together.  Things WILL get better.
370.4Try some "quiet time."FTMUDG::REINBOLDSun Sep 24 1989 02:4618
    I don't know whether this would help in your/her case at all.  I'm not
    at that point yet, but I do have my moments.  I've noticed that if I
    just spend some time alone - reading, sleeping, driving, exploring,
    shopping, whatever - when I get moody or irritable, the mood will pass.
    (Or even spending time with my daughter, or going to work.)  That way,
    I can avoid damaging our relationship when I feel not quite happy with
    everything.  I've even learned how to not say anything I shouldn't when
    we're together!  So when
    something does come up that we need to talk about, we can deal with it,
    instead of just having one more issue heaped on a pile of griping.
    And our self-esteem remains intact.  Maybe she can find something she
    enjoys doing apart from you when she gets moody, to relieve the stress
    the moods put on the relationship.
    
    Actually, reading notes is pretty therapeutic, as well.
    Hang in there, she probably needs your support.  Good luck!
    
    Paula                                                      
370.5CSSE32::LESLIEMon Sep 25 1989 09:466
370.6It's probably normalSRATGA::SCARBERRY_CITue Jul 09 1991 16:2520
    I'm not quite 30 yet, but I go thru some terrible mood changes.
     I really hate it.  I know when I'm mad or just plain irritable
    and don't care for myself when I'm like that.  I usually try to
    make myself feel better so that I don't take it out on my family.
     I'll take a shower and do my hair, put on a face.  Wear something
    that makes me feel attractive.  Even if I'm just going to stay home,
    this remedy usually makes a big difference.  When I feel ugly, I
    feel like the rest of world is looking at me and thinking I'm ugly
    too.  So, if I feel like I look nice, I'm usually much more pleasant
    to be around with.
    
    Sometimes, I just go through wierd moods and want my whole life
    changed.  Hate my job, my house, my life.  That's when, I try to
    get a grip on myself.  I'll try to get control of the situation
    in some kind of way.  And then sometimes I go with my impulses.
     Hopefully, they'll be fun and not to harmful.  These modes don't
    last too long.    
    
    I don't mind when my family tells me I'm a moody *itch neither.
     At least I feel noticed.  Isn't that funny?