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| 198.1 | | VLS9::COSTA | | Wed Dec 16 1987 02:08 | 7 |
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As far as I know, women gossip.
Men play cards, watch football and consume large amounts of
beer while women gossip.
Dave
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| 198.2 | Mudslinging... | FSLENG::HEFFERN | | Wed Dec 16 1987 04:01 | 12 |
| Oh boy! Are you nuts to enter that ! (re.2) I know for a FACT women
do not have a a monopoly on gossip (nor men on football or cards,
or beer).
I think men love to sling dirt as well as any woman. They just
pretend not to hear when the women gossip, and repeat it when
possible.
Surely you just forgot to smile at the end, right? :-)
cj
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| 198.3 | | STOKES::WHARTON | | Wed Dec 16 1987 16:12 | 9 |
| re .2
In fact, men and women gossip just as much.
Some men don't even pretend not to hear when the women _gossip_,
they are sometimes active participants. They just don't like to
call it gossip, they like to refer to gossip as "interesting
conversation." :-) :-) :-)
-karen
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| 198.4 | | AXEL::FOLEY | Rebel without a Shrew | Thu Dec 17 1987 02:39 | 6 |
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We don't call it "interesting conversation", we call
it "Guy talk" :-)
mike
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| 198.5 | THAT'S THE TICKET | DIXIE1::DSCOTT | | Thu Dec 17 1987 14:40 | 9 |
| That guy talk is really something. It's kind of a vicarious trill
to tell stories and create an environment in which 'one up-manship'
is the rule. You never really know if the story is true, kind of
a liars club.
Yeah, my wife Morgan Fairchild (with whom I've slept) and I lie
together all the time. That' the ticket.
dana
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| 198.6 | real or gossip? | SALEM::MELANSON | | Thu Dec 17 1987 15:28 | 13 |
| Hi - re:0
I assume we are talking about the nonsense junk men share about
their masculinity, "what he'd do if he had this one or that" or
are we talking the more damaging stuff of people sharing their
experience of one person with another.
I find most men come from a place of thier fantacies rather than
their real experiences. This is I find true for the most part,
but some men (exceptions to the rule) do show thier immaturity
and talk about their experiences in a braging sort of sense.
As for gossip I would never divulge who or what my experiences are,
as I know it can come back at me in many ways.
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| 198.7 | more to .6 | SALEM::MELANSON | | Thu Dec 17 1987 15:32 | 5 |
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important addition to .6 its more important than what comes back
to me, is being considerate to the other. Sorry - I did not want
to seem self centered, just wnat you all to know that gossip can
be damaging to both.
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| 198.8 | Uh Yeh, thats me on the trapeze with the hood on! | HYDRA::LYMAN | Village Idiot | Thu Dec 17 1987 17:41 | 9 |
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Yeh, I suppose back in the old days when I was young and immature
I used to hang around with guys and brag and lie about our exploits
with women and stuff also. Its amazing how silly and unsophisticated
adolescents can be. Nowadays we just exchange videos.
Jake
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| 198.9 | | VLS9::COSTA | | Thu Dec 17 1987 22:06 | 12 |
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yup forgot my ettiquette. 8-] here it is 8-]
I guess I'm against the word gossip as related to the male species
and prefer desciptives like what Mike said. 8-]
I didn't mean that men don't ramble, but when I'm talking with
the guys we sure ain't gossipin. 8-]
Hope that's a bit clearer.
Dave
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| 198.10 | oh yea?... well.... | SALEM::AMARTIN | Vanna & me are a number | Fri Dec 18 1987 04:02 | 1 |
| See personal name. :-)
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| 198.11 | WHAT ABOUT THE OLD BOYS NETWORK?? | ODIXIE::DSCOTT | | Fri Dec 18 1987 12:20 | 28 |
| The stuff that causes problems, gossip for gossip sake, is over
that you tend to stop about 18 or so. The other damaging stuff
is the hearsay evidence that can cause very real problems. For
instance....
Here you are, a team of people working on a project together and
one of your members either forgets to do something. Or they show
up late, or not at all, for a very important meeting. Someone in
the team begins to speculate out loud what the problem is, either
they know a little of what is going on or they THINK the know.
The next thing that happens the *word* is out. That member of the
team that did not pull their weight that one time has now acquired
a scarlet letter.
Has that ever happened to you? This is not just a male-only issue
but I am always surprised when it happens. Think about this also
in terms of the "OLD BOYS NETWORK".
The Old Boys Network has worked against me before in previous lives.
At one point during my five year stay at Data General, the politics
of the situtation were such that ever move that was made towards
a better position was blocked...always at the last minute...after
I had been told I was right for the job. It turns out that a person
that I had indrectly pissed off several years previously was in a position
to alter my career path. All based upon hearsay, gossip and *THE
NETWORK*.
Dana
necessarily a male ony
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