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Conference quark::mennotes-v1

Title:Topics Pertaining to Men
Notice:Archived V1 - Current file is QUARK::MENNOTES
Moderator:QUARK::LIONEL
Created:Fri Nov 07 1986
Last Modified:Tue Jan 26 1993
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:867
Total number of notes:32923

189.0. "microsexual encounters" by CEODEV::FAULKNER (tickets, going going gone....) Thu Nov 19 1987 14:34

    I have noticed some very unusual trends.
    Relationships that start up in micro seconds.
    People meeting and calling each other SO within days of meeting.
    Marriage proposals offered in weeks.
    Entire relationships shot to pieces in days.
    And in particular one conference where it is clearly obvious that
    people without "SO's" have zero status.
    
    
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189.6EnoughCALLME::MR_TOPAZFri Nov 20 1987 11:136
       re .5:
       
       Do you have anything to say about the topic, or is this the
       standard get-on-Faulkner's-case reply?
       
       --Mr Topaz
189.7CEODEV::FAULKNERtickets, going going gone....Fri Nov 20 1987 12:004
    re.6 in re.5
    Don, oops Mr. Topaz sorry. She can't reply. Thats her personality.
    She can copy a note.
    Leave her alone she thinks it's a gift.
189.8enough?FPOVAX::RAINEYFri Nov 20 1987 14:027
    re .6 and .7
    
    I just started noting and I must admit that I'm confused
    a little about what Kerry meant too.
    
    Chris
    
189.9In Good CompanyFDCV03::ROSSFri Nov 20 1987 14:236
    RE: .8
    
    That's O.K., most of the time Kerry is confused as to what
    he means, too.
    
      Alan
189.10A question to all...PLANET::WATKINSDon't mind me-low brain cell countFri Nov 20 1987 15:1815
    I think I'm confused, too.  I have only been in the "noting business"
    for about 6 or 7 months, and consider myself a pretty active noter.
    I have noticed that whenever Kerry has *anything* to say, everyone
    jumps all over him.  I just figured that he must have done *something*
    somewhere down the line for everyone to be so set against him.
    
    My question:  So Kerry, what *did* you do to make everyone give
    you a hard time all the time?
    
    BTW- I personally thought his basenote was valid.  Maybe lacking
    in specifics, but I never knew everyone to be so easily confused.
    Is it sarcasm?  Does he goad other people?  What's the story, people?
    Why is Kerry "the one everyone loves to hate?"
    
    Stacie
189.11COLORS::MODICAFri Nov 20 1987 15:341
    I don't really think it fair to discuss a noter like this.
189.12CEODEV::FAULKNERtickets, going going gone....Fri Nov 20 1987 16:075
    re.11 I agree. So discuss the .0 topic.
	
    re. 10 I was the ringleader for the great train robbery.
    re.8,9 what thinks you make me am confused?
    
189.13Good topic - stop bashingQUARK::LIONELWe all live in a yellow subroutineFri Nov 20 1987 16:148
    I think Kerry brought up a very interesting topic, though one perhaps
    more suitable for HUMAN_RELATIONS than MENNOTES, but be that as
    it may...
    
    Negative remarks about any noter, including Mr. Faulkner, are not
    appropriate in this conference.  Please cease making them.
    
    				Steve (co-moderator)
189.14CEODEV::FAULKNERtickets, going going gone....Fri Nov 20 1987 16:194
    Steve,
    		I chose MENNOTES because I am interested in the male
    		point of view of the topic, since I am one of those.
    knf
189.15They used to call it the four "F"s back whenSTING::BARBERSkyking Tactical ServicesFri Nov 20 1987 17:197
    
    Its like every thing else in todays world. Fast cars, fast food
    ECT. Instant gratification and being ahead of the the yuppy pack.
    Problem is, like all the other fads it grows old quick and fades
    away to leave nothing but the next fad to go on to.
    
189.16o-k, ya, sure, fine, rightVLSBOS::COSTASat Nov 21 1987 02:265
    
    
    
    	Yeah, what he said!
    
189.17I hear them coming...COMET::BERRYnope, that ain't Star Trek.Sun Nov 22 1987 11:324
    
    Ok...
    
    We'll put the tar and feathers back for now....  8^)
189.18We're talking total catastrophe here :)APEHUB::STHILAIREyou may say I'm a dreamerMon Nov 23 1987 14:062
    Re .0, Don't forget, dogs and cats living together!
    
189.19CuriousAPEHUB::STHILAIREyou may say I'm a dreamerMon Nov 23 1987 14:264
    Re .15, What are the "4 - F's"?
    
    Lorna
    
189.204 F'sAKOV04::WILLIAMSMon Nov 23 1987 15:247
    			F ind 'em
    
    			F eel 'em
    
    			F *ck 'em
    
    			F orget 'em
189.21APEHUB::STHILAIREyou may say I'm a dreamerMon Nov 23 1987 17:003
    Re .20, oh yeah, those 4 F's.  I remember those.
    
    
189.22not really exit26::read,just borrowingEXIT26::READTue Nov 24 1987 08:153
    seems to me you get the fourth "f" whether there'sa third "f" or
    not  :-)
    
189.23RANCHO::HOLTTue Nov 24 1987 15:0917
    
    regarding KNFs thesis:
    
    Of course single unattached men are treated with
    less respect. The fact that they aren't nicely
    suited up with someone sends up a big signal that
    either the man has a problem relating to Fs, smells
    too badly for any to go near, is a crude and low
    fellow, or is just too wierd for most American women
    to fathom. Then, of course, there is the problem of
    determining just how decent a particular single man 
    is. Absent of a clerical collar, how is anyone to know
    that Joe Blow isn't a closet homicidal maniac?
    
    This isn't as much a problem back East as it is here, 
    reason being that there are so many young male flakes
    that all single men get a bad rap. C'est la vie.
189.25SPMFG1::CHARBONNDI took my hands off the wheelWed Nov 25 1987 17:297
    Re .23  Ye gods and godesses I find myself in agreement with
    RANCHO::HOLT !   I'm single and sometimes wonder all those
    things about *myself* . Am I the victim of stereotyping ? :-)
    Don't believe "any SO better than no SO". Last experience
    was hard-knock post-grad course. Will wait for/look for
    Ms. Right (or at least Ms. Close). Meanwhile, Southern Comfort
    is cold comfort at best. 
189.26stovetop delightsXCELR8::POLLITZFri Nov 27 1987 03:151
    re .25   Careful, Ms. Close may be Glenn a la 'Fatal Attraction'.
189.27stovetop delights indeed !CIMNET::VERRIERMon Nov 30 1987 14:373
    re. 26	Really...god knows there are enough loonies out there
    		these days...but, you fail to mention, there may also
    		be a few Mr. Closes' (a la 'Fatal Attraction) :-)
189.28screeching halt, s'il vous plaitSPMFG1::CHARBONNDI took my hands off the wheelTue Dec 01 1987 19:484
    RE .26,.27 Serves me right foir taking long weekends, no I didn't
    mean Ms. Close the actron (:-)), should have said Ms. Near_enough.
    
    Dana_;-)
189.29CIMNET::VERRIERWed Dec 02 1987 11:587
    Oh, I understand now...:-) !!!  Ms or Mr. Near_enough sounds
    better.  Some people can be happy with Mr. or  Ms. near
    enough, whereas other people are constantly looking over
    their shoulder for something or someone better.  To each
    his own I guess :-)
    
    Kim
189.30how close is nearXCELR8::POLLITZWed Dec 02 1987 16:484
    RE .29   Sounds better?!  What if her name is Holly?? 
    
                                                    adidas time,
                                                                russ
189.31Not nearly close enoughCIMNET::VERRIERWed Dec 02 1987 19:584
    RE .30	Okay Russ, you got me there...I dont have a
    		comback for that one...I owe ya :-)
    
    			-Kim
189.32WAGON::DONHAMBorn again! And again, and again...Fri Dec 11 1987 15:2622
    
    I've noticed a number of (non-DEC) "rapid relationships," in the
    past three years. They tend to be passionate to the end, which is
    usually crash-and-burn. I've been in two myself, and the feeling
    seems to be that we both know from the start that intimacy will
    be a part of the relationship, so why wait? Waiting seems like treading
    water (in these cases).
    
    My current relationship is progressing at a slower pace, but the
    feelings of immediacy are still present. This time, though, they're
    tempered with a sense of permanence which allows us to love with
    leisure.
    
    I think that these hurry-up encounters have a role to play in "growing
    up" (at whatever age) and in learning to recognize and admit our
    feelings. As one ex-lover said to me, "Sex is a great way to break
    the ice." Comes a time, though, and I think I've passed it, that
    this sort of relationship gets too overwhelming; you've learned
    to savor your emotions.
    
    Perry
    
189.33SPMFG1::CHARBONNDWhat a pitcher!Mon Dec 14 1987 10:128
    re .32 I think that "sense of permanence" is what a lot of people
    really are looking for. The trouble is, if you look too hard you
    see it when it isn't really there, or really mutual. A variation
    of infatuation. The best thing about slower relationships is the
    chance to find if you both share long-term goals or not, and if
    not, the dis-entangling is less painful. 
    
    
189.34Families + 'Relationships'XCELR8::POLLITZFri Dec 18 1987 20:535
    re .33  What might the Sexual 'Revolution in the late 60's 
            and '70's been about? The knowledge that shared pleasure
            is best for both sexes? Freedom to explore love with one's
            special SO less the shame, fears or guilt that likely hurt
            previous generations. I thought that was it.
189.35Please fill in the blankNWACES::FROLICHBobWed Apr 12 1989 14:048
    RE: note 189.0
    
    I think I'm slow.......what's an "SO"?
    
    Thanks.
    
    Bob
    
189.36Not in your WebstersDEMON::FORTENIn Trinidad; Magic is High ScienceWed Apr 12 1989 16:0211
    RE. .35
    
    
           "Significant Other" the same as "my better half" or "mate" or
    commonly known as girlfriends or boyfriends or wives and husdbands
    and....
    
    Well you get the idea. :-)
    
    
    Scott