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Conference quark::mennotes-v1

Title:Topics Pertaining to Men
Notice:Archived V1 - Current file is QUARK::MENNOTES
Moderator:QUARK::LIONEL
Created:Fri Nov 07 1986
Last Modified:Tue Jan 26 1993
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:867
Total number of notes:32923

57.0. "When is too long?" by HEFTY::SC8 (Me, Who?) Sat Jan 10 1987 23:36

    I put this in womannotes, but I would like to see the mens side
    of it too.
    
    When you are in a relationship, and the man is clearly interested
    in you, but can't (won't???) make a desicion to make a further
    committment, how long do you stay in the committment???
    
    If he says he loves you, but just CAN'T decide to make the relationship
    a permanent one, because it scares him, what is a next step?
    
    How long is too much "time" to decide, when do you decide to end
    the relationship, or to give it more time?
    
    SLB
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57.1From a guy scared of a "I love you" relationship..DELNI::FOLEYRebel without a clueSun Jan 11 1987 01:5710
    
    
    	Do you know WHY he's scared? If it's a valid reason then give
    him a little longer.. If it sounds like a BS answer then start looking
    elsewhere.
    
    	Personally, I wouldn't tell someone I loved them if I wasn't
    	able to make a commitment of some sorts...
    
    							mike
57.2well,KALKIN::BUTENHOFApproachable SystemsSun Jan 11 1987 16:359
        I really doubt that there's any universal answer for a problem
        like that: it depends on the two people involved and on the
        situation.  The person who's bothered by the situation just
        has to make her/his own judgement, tell the other about it,
        and stick to the decision.  That's always more or less what
        Ann Landers and Dear Abby say, so I must be close to right
        :-) :-)
        
        	/dave