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Conference quark::human_relations

Title:What's all this fuss about "sax and violins"?
Notice:Please read all replies to note 1
Moderator:QUARK::LIONEL
Created:Thu Jan 21 1993
Last Modified:Fri May 09 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:133
Total number of notes:1901

133.0. "I like/hate you 'cause you're like me." by FOUNDR::CRAIG () Thu May 08 1997 14:16

1. Two people who have the same personality traits will get along fine in a 
   relationship.

2. Two people who have the same personality traits will drive each other
   nuts in a relationship.

Which of the above statements is correct?

To start things off, I believe #1 is correct if, in a "gross" sense, each 
person is sane and likes him/herself.
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133.1A mixture of both?TNPUBS::J_GOLDSTEINRun over on the Info HighwayThu May 08 1997 16:5117
    I think it's a mixture of both. I think it depends on how the
    individuals feel about the shared trait.
    
    For example, I tend to be less than neat. It's something I'm working on
    changing because it's not a trait of which I'm particularly fond. If I
    had to live with another less than neat person, I might find it
    irritating because it keeps reminding me of a trait I want to change.
    (I don't equate not liking a personality trait with not liking myself,
    just not liking one particular thing that I do).
    
    On the other hand, if there's a something in my behaviour that I really
    like and it's mirrored in my companion, it could be really great. 
    
    just my thoughts on the matter...
    
    joan
     
133.2QUARK::LIONELFree advice is worth every centFri May 09 1997 00:284
    I don't think you can generalize about this, and even so, no two people
    have exactly the same personality traits across the board...
    
    				Steve