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Conference quark::human_relations

Title:What's all this fuss about "sax and violins"?
Notice:Please read all replies to note 1
Moderator:QUARK::LIONEL
Created:Thu Jan 21 1993
Last Modified:Fri May 09 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:133
Total number of notes:1901

132.0. "Intrusive neighbors" by QUARK::MODERATOR () Wed Apr 23 1997 18:06

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    Please help us!  I need some tactful advice on how to handle this
    situation. We have new neighbors in the house in back of us.  Although
    they are both very nice people.....we can't go in our back yard without
    them coming over! It's getting to be a real pain the you know what!
    
    A little background....I'll call them Pat and Glen.....Pat is home now
    with a new little one and a 4 year old.  I have a son that's almost 3. 
    Pat thinks it's just wonderful that her son has a little friend in the
    neighborhood and constantly opens up my back gate and welcomes herself
    into my yard.  Please don't get me wrong....I think it's great that the
    kids can get together and play...sometimes......not every single time
    we are out in our yard!  We both work full time...often after work or
    on the weekend we'll all go out in the yard and do yardwork/play with
    my son for an hour or 2 at a time.  Last night was the last straw...my
    parents are here visiting and she pulled in her  driveway and marched
    herself and the 2 kids right into my yard knowing full well that we had
    company!  (yes I consider my parents company!)  She didn't stay long
    but I still consider this an intrusion of my privacy - I wouldn't think
    of doing this to any of my neighbors or friends!  
    
    I can't stand it anymore....I want to be able to go in my own yard
    without having to socialize with her every single time I'm out there! 
    How would you handle this?
    
    Thanks!
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132.1Lock the gate!WMOIS::SULLIVAN_JKThu Apr 24 1997 15:093
    Try putting a lock on your gate.
    
      Ken
132.2just tell themASDG::CALLFri Apr 25 1997 15:336
    I agree..it's kind of like locking the barn door after the horse has
    gotten out...it might cause you to explain you're feelings. Since
    you'll need to do that anyway...you might just tell them how you feel
    and set some boundrys. Some people don't know when they cross that line
    so you just have to tell them. You don't want to do it in a way that
    alienates them. You still want to have a cival relationship with them.