Conference quark::human_relations-v1

    
    I had "Sunrise Sunset" played at mine instead of "Daddy's Little
    Girl".  
    
    Kath
    
    

    This was recently discussed in USSCSL::ASKENET - I'll see if I can
    dig up the note number.
    				Steve

    re: .0

    This is a suggestion from my fiance, Vicki.
    
    Sit down with your father and ask what his favorite song is, or
    one that he would like.  Compare notes on ideas that you might 
    have and come up with one that you both agree on.  This way,
    it will be that much more personal because you've both had
    the input into the song that you and your dad will dance to.
    
    Good luck and let us know what you've decided.
    
    					Regards,
    
    					Vicki and Darrell
    

    How does "You Are the Sunshine of My Life" sound!  
    
    

    WHEW! - believe it or not, that whole idea really hit home. 
    
    I have a 10 year old daughter that I've been singing that song to
    every night (or so it seems) for the past 8 years (maybe more) -
    she also gets the customary glass of water, of course!  
    
    But along the way, I think I've made up a hundred or so different
    verses to the song when the real ones got boring, mostly just to
    get her to laugh once more and for me to see how clever I can be
    on the spot.  But I know that when she decides to marry, and if
    that song comes along at the reception, both of us will be bawling
    like a couple of babies
    
    mark

    Anything beats cutting the cake to "The farmer in the dell"....
    

    re: 343.8
    
    I guess you have a point, but *I* want it to be a special song.
    
    I want the words to have some sort of meaning...I don't know,
    maybe I'm wrong, maybe I'm putting to much into it.
    

    Pardon my ignorance -- in my family, we'd be dancing polkas . . . and I
    don't think I've ever been to a wedding where this was done . . . 
    
    What is the point of this father-daughter dance -- To signify that
    you're moving from your father's house to your husband's? To symbolize
    your adult status? To show your father you love him?  Does the groom
    also dance alone with his mother?  What song do they traditionally
    dance to?

    Thanks for the explanation.
    
    --bonnie

    Ah, found it at last.  See also note 671 in USSCSL::ASKENET.  (Press
    KP7 or SELECT to add it to your notebook.)
    
    					Steve

    I danced with my father (world's worst dancer....he couldn't tell
    a waltz from a polka), and Paul danced with his grandmother.  It
    was great - the photographer (a friend of ours) even got a picture
    with both couples in it.  I think it is just a way of indicating
    your love for your dad (and for your grandmother, in Paul's case
    - she's a neat "little old lady", too).  Certainly it wasn't my
    folks "giving me away" since they had moved 1500 miles away from
    my home ten years earlier (and Paul's family all live at least a
    couple of hours driving time from here, in various directions).
    
    I don't recall what waltz the band played, though.  We hired a
    folk-dancing band, so there was very little singing, but music our
    friends could dance to.

    re: 343.10
    
    That's not a dumb question...
    
    I think the point of the dance is...I really don't know what
    the point of the dance is!!  I guess to show the special father-
    daughter relationship.
    
    Yes, the groom usually dances with his mother (at the same time
    I think).  Popular songs for this dance are "Daddy's Little Girl"
    and "Sunrise, Sunset".
    
    I'm kind of looking for a song that means, yes, I'm all grown up
    now and starting a life of my own, but that the father-daughter
    relationship will always be there.
    
    Am I making *any* sense?
    

    I think you might like this one song. I'm not very sure of it's
    title. Possibly it's called "Turn Around" . The lyrics tell of
    a father watching his daughter grow up through the years. It mentions
    things like her first date, when she gets proposed to, when she
    has children of her own etc. It's a waltz beat so it would be perfect
    in as a wedding type dance. I'll check on the name tonight and get
    back to you. 
    						Rz

    re: 343.14
    
    Wow, that sounds perfect!  Thanks!  Could you by any chance mail
    me a copy of the lyrics (if you know them).  Who sings it?
    
    Thanks a lot for your help!
    

    Thanks for the answer about the song and the dance.  I wasn't quite
    sure how it fit in, but now it makes perfect sense. 
    
    A wedding is a sentimental occasion, that's for sure, even if it
    doesn't happen to have dancing, and I think it's great to do something
    to symbolize that even though you now share your life with someone
    else, the people who loved you and raised you are still part of
    your life.  
    
    I remember the song from .14.  It's a lovely song and sounds like
    it would be perfect.  
    
    The best of wishes to you and your spouse-to-be.
    
    --bonnie

    I'm also not sure of the title (possibly could be "Where Are You
    Going"), but I do have a few of the words rattling around in
    my brain:
    
       "Where are you going my little one, little one,
        Where are you going my baby, my own,
        Turn around, turn around, you're three, you're four,
        ..................................................
        ..................................................
        Turn around, you're a young wife, with kids of your own".
    
    
    As I said, I don't have all the words - and the few that I've
    remembered may not be exactly right.
    
    I do know, however, that each time I hear that song, whether
    on the radio or wherever, more than a few tears come into my
    eyes.
    
    
        Alan                            
    

    Re:17 God you sing awlful!   |-}
                          REK

    .14-I remember that song and it IS very touching!
    (wasn't it also the song for a Kodak commercial?)
    Anyway, if I get to vote, I say go with the sug-
    gestion in .14!
    
    My 'special' song for my 7 year old son is "You and
    Me Against The World"....cause not matter who else
    might let me down, Jamey and I ALWAYS have each other!
    
    

    RE: 19
    
    I think the KODAK commercial used "Do You Remember the Times
    of Your Life", which then became a full-fledged song performed
    by Paul Anka.
    
    If we keep this up, perhaps the whole ceremony and reception
    can be done against a backdrop of popular songs and advertising 
    jingles.    
    
    After the guests have had a bunch of chopped liver and pickled herring,
    the old Alka Seltzer ad tune "No Matter What Shape Your Tummy Is
    In" might be appropriate. (No, I'm not kidding....that was the name
    of the instrumental that accompanied the camera closups of various
    tummies. Because of its popularity in the commercial, it was released
    as a "single").
    
    I think we should pass, though, on the lyrics to Carly Simon's first
    record, "That's the Way I Always Heard It Should Be". Definitely
    would put a damper on the first day of a marriage.
    
         Alan
    
    
    But for those of you who may remember Carl

    Re: . 20
    
    Please disregard the last phrase "But for those of you who remember
     
    Carl". One of these days I'll *really* learn how to use the editor.
    

    "Turn Around" was one of KODAK's jingles, long before "Times of
    your Life"; I liked "Turn Around" much better, as it happens.
    
    The suggestions in .20, while (I hope) facetious, might indeed make
    for a humorous touch during the reception - unless enough of your
    guests are too young to remember the "stomach" song. My experience
    of wedding receptions indicates that it would be a very appropriate
    number.
    
    If you *really* want a "daddy" song, try "Oh My Papa," one of Eddie
    Fisher's greatest hits. Might be hard to dance to, but heck, those
    bands can play anything in polka time, can't they? (Oops, just
    remembered the lyrics; lots of "he *was* so wonderful." Guess this
    isn't appropriate when Papa is still with us.)

    Was there any music in "Father of the Bride"?

    -b

	  
	  One song to most definitely avoid at any wedding reception is
by Willie Nelson, "Of all the grils I've loved before...(who have trav-
eled in and out of my world or door or something..". I don't know what 
the correct title is, but it isn't an appropriate song for a wedding re-
ception. I've heard it played more than once.. believe it or not. Who wants 
to hear about all the "girls" he's loved before? Certainly not the bride 
or her family.. The only woman that matters from now on is the one he just 
married! 

							-TC

	Tina Turner's "What's Love Got To Do With It?" probably
wouldn't go over to well, either...

	I think "Turn Around" would be great but you may have to
follow it with the theme from "Get Out Your Handkerchiefs"...

    How come nobody's suggested the music used for the bride/father
    dance in "The Godfather"? Lots of family feeling there, and it's
    a lovely melody, too!
    
    -b

    How about "Beat on the Brat" by the Ramones?
    
    (only kidding!)

    
    "Until the 12th of Never"
    "Memories"                 
    
              
    

    
    re.26
    
    yeah, and the night I was there they really did beat on a brat!
    
    but for earlier years (and now too) its Joni Mitchell, Jefferson
    Airplane, judy collins, stones, rod stewart, queen, kinks, grateful
    dead, I could go on and on .........they all bring back something...
    
    kimberly