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I know my morale has affected my productivity.
I just do my work one day at a time.
Seeing a counselor has helped.
Leaning on friends, talking when I need to.
Writing/jotting in a journal has helped me wrangle some sense and
patterns and try to look at them objectively.
The one thing that's REALLY important to get is:
the circumstances at DEC, financially, in the world, war, politics,
famine, AIDS, etc - THEY AREN'T ABOUT YOU. It's UTTERLY impersonal.
That may make you feel helpless, but it may also help you remove a
tremendous burden from your shoulders - if you couldn't have caused it,
you can't fix it - and you shouldn't be held responsible for fixing it.
This is me projecting, so if the above doesn't fit, don't try to make
it fit.
Are there any creative aspects of your life (art, sculpture, painting,
music, dancing, reading, writing, getting together with friends) that
give you a strong sense of simple pleasure and self-worth? Make sure
these things make it into your schedule.
-Jody
-Jody
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| I feel as you do whenever I have no control over the situation. It's
hard, but sometimes you just have to accept that it happens and worrying
can't resolve or achieve anything. I think that what's different for you
this time, is in the following para:
>Besides work, I'm finding myself overwhelmed with family
>situations/problems. I try not to worry about "everyone", but sometimes
>it's just too much. I know I can't fix certain things but I am there
>for support. Sometimes I need the support too regarding how I'm
>feeling. I'm finding that I'm not getting it from my family or my
>friends.
Even the strongest of us need support. Sometimes people who aren't in the
same situation as you (redundancies etc), simply do not know how to
empathise. They don't know how you feel or how to relate to your needs.
Then there are those in the proverbial same boat, who won't give you the
support, because they're trying not to be reminded of things.
Is it any wonder that you're feeling so down?
>Does this make sense? Does anyone else have these same feelings? Maybe
>I'm off the wall and making a big deal out of nothing, but this is
>driving me crazy.
You're not alone, you're not crazy and don't let it drive you there. It's
hard to suggest things to someone else to try and alleviate the stress,
we've all got our own safety valves. Hang in there.
regards,
Joyce
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| Grab a lawn chair, maybe a sweater, go out side about 10 minutes
before the sun goes down, listen to the neighborhood kids make their
last yells before going in for the night, listen for the geese
circling around while scouting out their nest for the night, watch
a few jets go overhead and wonder where they are going, stare at
the first couple of stars you can see and think about how long it
took for their light to reach your eyes, let your mind wander and
wonder about all the good things that could happen to you next week
or next month.
In some ways this is a good relaxing thing to do. In other ways,
it helps to realize that the world can go on without you for about
a half hour. Your mileage *will* vary...
Glenn
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| >You'll realize the world can go on without you for about a half hour.
IF you do the things you suggest, you'll come to understand that the
world will go on without you regardless. There for, getting worked
up over the things affecting you is really only slef damaging, and no
one else will understand or be able to do anything about it. So
why let it 'dig in under the skin'? The world is a wonderful place
to stop what you're doing and take a look around, even for a minute.
And it's amazing what you can see and do in that one minute.
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