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I'm more attracted to Chris because, _on a subconscious level_,
I pick up on distinct and specific qualities that are also shared by
my mother. Having not ever resolved the impact of these personality
traits of my mother during my relationship with her, my subconscious
sees any relationship with Chris as an opportunity to re-enact
certain scenarios...in the hopes of releasing long frozen emotions,
and resolving past experiences.
It doesnt make any sense to my conscious; the check list didnt
check, yet, the attraction is definite...illogical...emotional.
This is only one theory.
Joe
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I have NO ideas. I think a type appears that you tend to "imprint"
(not sure how, but I know I am attracted to a certain type of person).
When someone falls into my "type" and enters my range of
acquaintances/friends, I know in an instant there's chemistry.
Many's the time I've been attracted to someone, or they've been
attracted to me, when it was not mutual. Sometimes I even wished it
were mutual, but the facts didn't bear that out.
-Jody
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| Maybe Chris is "safe"... no chance for serious emotional involvement,
no committment, no (dare I say it?) possibilty of eventual marriage.
Pat could be seen (conciously or sub conciously) as a threat to
freedom, someone to tie you down and take your money...
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| Chemistry is very important IMHO. Allthe woman I have had
chemistry with in my life I find I still have it. It seems to me to be
something more than just 'sexual' attraction. It's a subconscious
comfort level with that person, a natural trust, a magnetic attraction
that defies logic.
When your single and open to a relationship you may try to be
logical and all grown up about who would be a good mate for you but if
someone comes along with the right chemistry they blow away the
competition. Their is a danger in committing to someone who fits all
the criteria but who doesn't provide the chemistry. Later if someone
does come along with the chemistry, they will far outshine that logical
choice.
George
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| When I meet someone I INSTANTLY know if I like that person or not, it
may turn out to be totally different to me but still I like that person
and respect his or her personality. To be atracted to a person is just
human nature but from that to really love that person takes a lot more
than be atracted to his/her. I cannot explain what love is because it
it measured very differently by different people... for me means a
lifelong committment (for others a lot less) so I won't get into depth
on that. I believe in chemistry and more so, in my instint to identify
real feelings from not so real within a person... it has served me well
so far. I committed only once and my instint did not failed me... I
have a very happy 27 yr marriage to prove it, (which in these times it is
not small deal) IMHO...
Chemistry works? I guess it does.
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| I've developed my own theories on this, it's kind of interesting
actually. People live for diversity. Something different. New,
Unusual, A different view point.... so on.
When we meet the 'ideal' person, they tend to conform to us. They
'FIT' The better the fit the less the diversity. The less the
diversity, the greater the boredom. Finding someone with SOME
interests, dreams, desires, is great because it gives you both a common
ground to work from. But you also need the differences. The uncommon
grounds. These provide the interest. You develope a love for the
person, you learn about there interests that are different from yours,
some of them, you will find, will aid in developing you, changing you,
creating new interests and avenues for you to explore and look at.
We need to change and develope, after all, we are always doing it,
physically, mentally, and even spiritually. Our outlooks today are
different from those we had yesterday, and willl be different from
those we have tomorrow. Finding someone who can have different
intersts and desires that can be blended with yours even though they
are different, makes for 'good chemestry'. Finding someone who dreams
and desires are the same as you have who blends in so well with your
own that there is only a little or now difference takes away the
potential for growth and change, and creates "bad chemestry."
I don't beleive that 'opposites' attract, but rather that disimular
simularities attract. These create highs and lows in the relationship
and without the lows, you just can't appreciate the highs.
It works for me....
Skip
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