| Personally I wouldn't depend on obscure medical reasons to compleatly
explain behavioural criterea, it can give you a false sense of
confidence and cause you to accept past mistakes.
I have never heard of this affliction, but I am sure I could claim I
had it myself also.
I wonder though if what you have really been doing is historically
bottling up your feelings, frustrations, anger and emotions rather than
simply expressing them spontateouly if necessary, learning to laugh and
to cry and to get things out of your system.
Keeping things bottled up inside of you does cause a loss of attention,
you usually got so many things running around your head you are to busy
thinking about them to listen to what others are saying. It also
motivates you in ways others don't understand, you rationalise things
you don't fully understand and sooner or latter start to live in your
own little world.
Certainly dietary aspects affect all of this, substances like
Cigarettes, coffee and Drink contain stress forming substances, just
as red meat and sugar do, and high levels of stress have a strong
influence on your attention span and your temper.
As they say a healthy body leads to a healthy mind, but try to accept
your faults, if that is what is necessary rather than denying them,
ceretainly I am sure your wife would prefer you to say you are sorry
than to claim there was a medical reason for it all.
Am I lecturing ? - sorry ! - time I was off.
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| Attention Defict Disorder is not all that "obscure" a diagnosis. My
niece was diagnosed as having it at the age of 15 (or so). She also
has epilpsey so it would appear that her neurological system is just
plain messed up. As the basenoter states, this is a physiological, not
psychological disorder. When my neice gets into very stressful situations
she reacts by going into extreme depressions and has been suicidal.
ADD is something which, unless accompanied by hyperactivity, is often
missed. Today there is a greater awareness of it but I suspect that
most adults who have it were never diagnosed.
I don't see the basenoter using this afficlition to completely explain
his past behaviors. I give him credit for recognizing his inability to
controland/or explain certain behaviors, seeking an explanation and
committing to do what is needed to control the problem in the future.
Polly
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RE:1162.1
> Personally I wouldn't depend on obscure medical reasons to completely
> explain behavioral criteria, it can give you a false sense of
> confidence and cause you to accept past mistakes.
I didn't just "depend" on medical reasons. I had several doctors all
through the examination process that lasted well over a month. As for
a false sense of confidence you are wrong there also. I realize that
throughout my life this problem led me to develop certain behavioral
patterns that need to be corrected and I am in counseling to learn
what I can and need to change. As for accepting past mistakes I think
it is necessary that everyone accept their past mistakes and learn from
them otherwise by denying them you will tend to make the same mistakes
in the future.
> I have never heard of this affliction, but I am sure I could claim I
> had it myself also.
You can't "claim" that you have this affliction unless you are medically
diagnosed with it. Since you have never heard of it then that tells me
you are not a Medical Doctor. Furthermore this problem doesn't come and
go, it is a problem that you have forever.
> I wonder though if what you have really been doing is historically
> bottling up your feelings, frustrations, anger and emotions rather than
> simply expressing them spontateouly if necessary, learning to laugh and
> to cry and to get things out of your system.
One of the tell tale signs of ADD is that you tend to were your emotions
on your sleeve. I have never "bottled up" my feelings. My problem is that
I can't express or deal with the emotion at the time of the occurrence
and as a consequence I will erupt in a rage because my brain isn't able
to process the inputs.
> Keeping things bottled up inside of you does cause a loss of attention,
> you usually got so many things running around your head you are to busy
> thinking about them to listen to what others are saying. It also
> motivates you in ways others don't understand, you rationalize things
> you don't fully understand and sooner or latter start to live in your
> own little world.
I do not suffer from a loss of attention in fact I have just the opposite
problem. I am very attentive and learn very quickly. My attention span
is very diverse. I can listen to and understand multiple conversations.
My motivation is above normal and always need something to do. My rational
is very logical and I have no problem communicating with my peers. As for
living in my own world, I have a plethora of friends and we do all the
normal stuff like fishing, camping, bar-b-ques, and Saturday night Jam
sessions.
> Certainly dietary aspects affect all of this, substances like
> Cigarettes, coffee and Drink contain stress forming substances, just
> as red meat and sugar do, and high levels of stress have a strong
> influence on your attention span and your temper.
I am in complete agreement with this. Since I have stopped drinking any
and all caffinated products, I have noticed an increase in my appetite
and a reduction of cigarette smoking. I have never been partial to the
sweets or confectionery foods but agree that if I did the withdrawls
would have been twice as bad. I was drinking 13 to 15 cups of coffee
throughout the day and when I stopped I had to endure some of the most
excruciating headaches imaginable. Also, since I stopped drinking coffee
and what not, I have found my sleeping habits are more blissful.
> As they say a healthy body leads to a healthy mind, but try to accept
> your faults, if that is what is necessary rather than denying them,
> certainly I am sure your wife would prefer you to say you are sorry
> than to claim there was a medical reason for it all.
I am not denying any of my faults. Rather, I am learning to manage them
so that they don't come back to haunt me later. As for my wife, I have
said I'm sorry and she has accepted it. She understands and unlike you
had heard of ADD. She is thankful that I have done something about it
and is very hopeful of my future.
> Am I lecturing ? - sorry ! - time I was off.
Yes, you are lecturing. But I encourage you to find out more about Adult
Attention Deficit Disorder. You seem to me to be very intelligent and
very cynical. Please don't let your cynicism or devotion to Self-Help
methods limit your understanding of something you don't know about.
It is OK to investigate unknowns and reach out for help from others who
might just have an answer or point you in the direction of one who can.
Regards,
MF
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