| I just read the book Tough Love. It's a self*help manual for parents
troubled by teenage behavior.
"Tough Love" is a solution for families that are being torn apart by
unacceptable adolescent behavior. These young people may skip school,
runaway from home, abuse alcohol, dope, get in troubhle with the law,
make all their own choices, get involved with others only on their own
terms, or act as if they are the only ones who should make decisions
about their lives, regardless of their limited information and life
experience. "Tough Love" means making them aware of the reality of
their choices by accepting the consequences of their own actions. It
means that we allow them to experience the results of their behavior no
matter how much we want to protect them. It means they pay fines for
acts they have committed. Soft love is part of the problem that keeps
out teenagers and us from experiencing the real consequences of
unacceptable behavior.
"Tough Love" talks about changing our behavior, how to get support,
(our own peers with the same problem), looking at Illusions, fears,
guilt, excuses. It talks about getting tested, meeting challenges, and
solutions. Some of these solutions are as "Tough" for us as they are
for the kids.
So you have to stop being a sucker, softee, and a pushover. Stop
feeling guilty. Learn to recognize and use you valuable resources and
above all to use your personal Power.
If you would like I can try to find out how you can get a copy.
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