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Conference quark::human_relations-v1

Title:What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'?
Notice:Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS
Moderator:ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI
Created:Fri May 09 1986
Last Modified:Wed Jun 26 1996
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1327
Total number of notes:28298

593.0. "nothing to do!!!" by QUARK::HR_MODERATOR () Wed Sep 28 1988 19:32

Note from moderator.  This note was originally entered by someone using
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				Steve

    I've been seeing my boyfriend forawhile months now.  We have been
    seeing each other every day.  I don't mind this, but I think he
    does.  He won't say anything to mebecause he doesn't want to hurt
    my feelings.  I know he loves my dearly, but men, especially him,
    need a little breathing room.  I am only 20 and there really isn't
    much for me to do for night life.  Most of my friends are older
    (ie. late 20's to 30's) and they are married or have boyfriends
    also and it just doen't work out.  Next month, my boyfriend and
    I are moving up to Clinton together.  It's the first time away 
    from home and I will know nobody.  What will I do when he goes out?
    Anybody have any suggestions?  I like to do a variety of things.
    I am open to anything.
    
    Also, we are having trouble finding things to do over the weekends.
    We don't have much money most of the time, so we need some places
    to go that don't cost much.  We like to go to the mountains and
    stuff like that.  We need scenic kind of places.  A little bit 
    romantic or something.
    
    Thank you in advance!!
     
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593.2How about Wachusett Reservoir?SMAUG::DESMONDWed Sep 28 1988 19:3910
    Well since you say you're moving to Clinton and you want a scenic
    place to go to, try taking Route 70 out of Clinton towards Worcester.
    I'm not sure if that's 70 South or West but it has to be on of those.
    Just outside of Clinton (or perhaps even partly in Clinton) is the
    Wachusett Reservoir which is beautiful.  There are some gorgeous
    sunsets that you can see from Route 70 and there are spots to park
    so you can walk around by the reservoir.  Wachusett is one of my
    favorite places to go although I don't get there too often anymore.
    
    						John
593.3Evening classesCSC32::DELKERWed Sep 28 1988 19:392
    You might take an evening class in something that interests you.
    
593.4Do be yourselfELESYS::JASNIEWSKIOur common crisisWed Sep 28 1988 19:407
    
    	Do whatever activities that make you - you. If you need more,
    find those that would let you be what you'd like to see in and of
    yourself.
    
    	Joe Jas
    
593.5RATTLE::MONAHANWed Sep 28 1988 19:4023
    My fiance loves it when I surprise him with something.  One of his
    favorites, and mine too, is to pack a nice picnic lunch/dinner,
    bottle of wine, and head up to the mountains with our dog.  We always
    have fun doing this.  It can be real romantic sipping wine while
    watching the sun set!
    
    Weekend activities don't have to cost much money.  The Deerfield
    fair this weekend is $5 per person.  I'm sure there will be alot
    to see.
    
    Taking walks along the beach, maybe take a ride up to Rhose Island
    and look at all of the mansions, rent some movies and cook a nice
    dinner, go to a matinee, walk around downtown Boston, rent rollerskates
    and skate downtown Boston.  You can look in your local paper for
    ideas also.
    
    As for what to do when your boyfriend goes out and you're at home,
    I think an evening class would be a nice way to learn something
    new *and* to meet new people.  Or you can volunteer time for certain
    organizations.  Again, you can find that in the local paper.  
    
    Denise
    
593.6Something to doAuthor of base noteWed Sep 28 1988 19:417
    Denise,
    Where is the Deerfield fair? Thank you for your suggestions, they
    sound pretty good.  As for a night course, I forgot to mention that
    i also work two jobs.  I tried it once before and I almost failed
    my class.  
    Thanks again, 
    Rachael
593.7Local hiking / Country Fair in MaineIAMOK::WESSELSWed Sep 28 1988 19:4114
    You might also like to visit Wachusett Meadows off of Route 62 in
    Princeton.  We took a picnic lunch there last weekend, and then
    took a hike on one of several marked trails.  The foliage is already
    bright in the low-laying areas of the Reserve - beautiful!
    The cost was only $3.00 for adults, and $2.00 for children over
    3 years.
    
    If you're up for some traveling this weekend or next, the Fryberg
    Fair is running from October 2nd to October 9th.  I've never been
    to this one, but the story Chronicle did on it last night makes
    it sound well worth the trip to lower Maine.
    
    Have fun!
    Diane
593.8Community Theater?WAYLAY::GORDONWell... There you have it!Wed Sep 28 1988 19:419
    	Community theater is also a good place to get out and meet people.
    No experience necessary in many cases, enthusiasm is usually enough.
    Also, many are willing to work around what evenings you have free,
    especially if you start out as a techie... You might want to check
    MEIS::THEATRE to see what's in your area.  [KP7/Select]
    
    						--Doug Gordon
    						  Host/Moderator
    						  of THEATRE
593.9more stuff to do.CLOSUS::WOODWARDLiving in the Wild Wild WestWed Sep 28 1988 19:4236
I lived in Clinton for 3 years.  My beau at the time lived in Waltham,
which was a bit of a drive.  Therefore, I did alot of stuff alone.
Clinton doesn't have much nightlife; I always went to Worcester to do
things.


1.  I joined the Worcester Jaycees.  They ALWAYS have something doing...
from fundraisers to volleyball.  My work with the Jaycees kept me busy
on weeknights. If you want info, mail me.

2.  On weekends, there's some beautiful countryside to explore.  I used
to go to Mt. Wachusett in Princeton for hikes.  It's beautiful on crisp
Fall days.

3.  If you have a bike, tour the area around the Watchusett Res.  Especially
pretty is the vacant church on the Sterling/W. Boylston side of the res.

4.  I lived within walking distance to the Wachusett Dam.  I spent many an
afternoon walking around the dam area.  (Be careful tho, it's not always safe.)

5. Go see the crew races on the weekends at Lake Quinsig in Worcester. 
Bring a picnic lunch.

6.  The Worcester Museum is pretty and holds concerts (mostly classical)
during the winter.  

7.  APPLE PICKING AT NASHOBA VALLEY WINERY!!! (Bolton) It can be very romantic.

8.  Take a course through Worcester Night Life.  They offer a variety of
   courses, from belly dancing to automobile repair to cooking.

9. If you cross country ski, there are alot of trails around the resevior.
   xc skiing is real big aroud there in the winter.

Best of luck to you and your loved one.  
593.10Great way to spend time.16BITS::AITELEvery little breeze....Wed Sep 28 1988 19:439
    Join a health club.  I know you said you don't have much $$$, but
    some of them aren't so expensive.  Many will accept payment monthly,
    instead of a lump sum for a year.  The one I belong to in Nashua
    is only $20 per month.
    
    Check out UFP::FLEX for recommendations on health clubs in your
    area.  People are always requesting and giving recommendations.
    
    --L
593.11or the 'Y'CSC32::DELKERWed Sep 28 1988 19:432
    re .9:  Doesn't Digital still have discount memberships for the
    	    YMCA?
593.12Not in Nashua, anywayBROKE::BNELSONIf it feels nice don't think twiceWed Sep 28 1988 20:1012
Re: .11


	I heard the same thing once, and when I went to join the Nashua Y
inquired about it.  No luck!  If they do, it must be area-specific.  I'd
go talk to someone in personnel or your local Employee Activities person
to find out.


Brian

593.13MCIS2::POLLERTHave you KICKED your computer today?Wed Sep 28 1988 21:096

If you belong to Tufts HMO you can go to the Y for $2 per visit.


Kp.
593.14Deerfield DirectionsRATTLE::MONAHANThu Sep 29 1988 11:4023
    re:  .6
    
    Rachel,
    
    To get to the Deerfield fair, you would take rt. 93 into Manchester
    and  lood for the exit for rt. 101E.  You take 101E to rt. 43, which
    should be exit 3.  That will take you into Candia.  You can follow
    that all the way into Deerfield.  The roads will be clearly marked
    for the fair - I'm told.  I just called the fairgrounds for this
    information.
    
    I'm not sure where you live.  Do you know how to get to 93 in
    Manchester?
    
    The gates will open at 8:00.  I suggest that you get there as early
    as possible.  I tried to get to the fair 2 years ago.  I sat in
    traffic for 2 1/2 hours, got fed up and turned around to go home.
     I couldn't believe the traffic!
    
    Hope you have fun if you go!
    
    Denise
    
593.15ANT::JLUDGATEBorribles Rule OkayThu Sep 29 1988 15:5916
    how about taking a course just for the fun of it?
    
    like......dancing?  you can go and learn how to do all those dances
    that you see older people doing, and show up everybody when you
    go to weddings and family functions.  usually the classes are just
    one night a week for a couple of months, an hour or so, and are
    lots of fun.  you can also make new friends in your area by doing
    this.  what the heck, it beats watching repeats on t.v.
    
    or....... get involved in a sport you can both do, maybe volleyball?
    
    bicycling is nice, especially during this season....
    
    don't mind me, i'm just mentioning things i've watched my parents
    do to compensate for empty nest syndrome..........................
    ..........................................................jonathan
593.16HANDY::MALLETTFooleTue Oct 04 1988 15:1015
593.17CADSE::GLIDEWELLWow! It's The Abyss!Sun Nov 20 1988 19:5723
> Note 593.16 by HANDY::MALLETT 
> Does anyone know if any of the local papers have similar features?
    
Sources of info for the basenoter's area:

  Worcester Magazine is a weekly 'freebie' that can be picked up at
  local grocery stores and libraries.  It includes a two week 
  calendar of local events and a list of local groups that are
  open to new members or sponsoring upcoming events.

  The Montachusett Review is a weekly (either free or .25)
  available at the same places and covers the same type of info.
  Their listings are not identical so it's worth grabbing both.

  Local public libraries often maintain a taped phone message
  and a physical bulletin board that lists local activies.

  If the welcome wagon doesn't find you, you can find them, if
  they exist, through the local chamber of commerce. They have
  info on local organizations open to new residents.

  The basenoter also lives close to Fort Devens ... which hosts
  lots of clubs and events open to civilians.       Meigs