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Conference quark::human_relations-v1

Title:What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'?
Notice:Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS
Moderator:ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI
Created:Fri May 09 1986
Last Modified:Wed Jun 26 1996
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1327
Total number of notes:28298

581.0. "Get Out of That Rut" by AWARD2::HARMON () Mon Sep 19 1988 15:04

    I was going through some old files and came upon the following.
    
    
    	Oscar Wilde said,
    	"Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative."
    	So stop getting up at 6:05.
    	Get up at 5:06.
    	Walk a mile at dawn.
    	Find a new way to drive to work.
    	Switch chores with your spouse next Saturday.
    	Buy a wok.
    	Study wildflowers.
    	Stay up alone all night.
    	Read to the blind.
    	Start counting brown-eyed blondes or blonds
    	Subscribe to an out-of-town paper.
    	Canoe at midnight.
    	Don't write to your congressman, take a whole scout
    	troop to see him.
    	Learn to speak Italian.
    	Teach some kid the thing you do best.
    	Listen to two hours of uninterrupted Mozart.
    	Take up aerobic dancing.
    	Leap out of that rut.
    	Savor life.
    	Remember, we only pass this way once.
    
    Reprinted without permission.  A message as published in the Wall
    Street Journal by United Technologies Corp, Hartford CT.
    
                 
    When I found this it prompted me to "review" life and to try to
    not get in a rut.....maybe I'll start getting involved with sign
    language again.
    
    P.
    
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581.1AWARD2::HARMONMon Sep 19 1988 15:2347
    I also came across a reply that a member of the group had written.
    
    I GOT OUT OF THAT RUT....NOW WHAT????
    
    When I stumbled sleeply out of bed at 5:06, it was so dark I tripped
    over my shoes and sprained my ankle.  This made the mile walk at
    dawn a very painful experience.  I drove a new way to work, got
    lost 4 times, ran out of gas 3 miles from a service station, ran
    over a nail and blew a tire - of course, the spare was flat so I
    had to walk 18 miles to work.  Arrived at work 2-1/2 hours late
    for a meeting with my boss to discuss my yearly review - he decided
    to postpone it for 12 months.  I switched chores with my wife last
    Saturday - it so happened that this was the very Saturday she had
    planned to wash and wax the floors, clean the refrigerator, rearrange
    the furniture, clean all of the windows inside and out, do the grocery
    shopping for the next two weeks and a multitude of small chores
    that had been accumulating for the last six months.  My plans were
    to watch a ball game on TV.. I bought a wok and tried cooking an
    oriental dinner...had a grease fire...the estimate for new kitchen
    curtains, wallpaper and linoleum cam to $2,645.00. How could I go
    wrong studying wildflowers...picked goldenrod and my hay ffever
    has been terrible ever since.  Tried staying up alone all night...I
    was fine until 4:00am when I decided to go for a walk around the
    back yard to help stay awake. Startled a skunk and I don't know
    how I'm going to get rid of the stink on the side of the house.
    I ahve a terrible rash from the four baths I had to take.  Tried
    reading to the blind...no one told me they were also deaf.  I counted
    368 blondes...my divorce will be final next August.  I subscribed
    to an out of town newspaper - from the town where I bought a summer
    cabin - the front page  picture was a good shot of the firemen trying
    to put out the fire in my dream house that was caused by the alarm
    system I just installed.  I spent two weeks in the hospital from
    canoeing at midnight..it was just too dark to see those falls. 
    I took a scout troop to see our congressman.  It was nice trip but
    he was in Florida.  The airfare only cost $2,965.00, but to repair
    the airplane seats that the kids played pillow fight with was quite
    expensive.  I learned a little Italian...my face still hurts from
    the slap when I tried to say "hello" to my neighbors wife.  I spent
    last night in jail and my trial will be in 3 weeks from trying to
    teach the neighbors kid what I do best.  I must say that the two
    hours of Mozart wasn't too bad...the music was so soothing I fell
    asleep with a cigarette.  Fortunately, the fire wasn't all that
    bad, only destroyed four rooms.  My breakdown came while I was at
    dancing class.  When I get out of this sanitarium, I will always
    be thankful of one thing...."we only pass this way once"!!
    
    
581.2yRATTLE::MONAHANMon Sep 19 1988 17:386
    re:  .1
    
    You must be a very depressed person.
    
    Cheer up and GET YOURSELF OUT OF THAT RUT!!!
    
581.3AWARD2::HARMONMon Sep 19 1988 17:547
    .2
    
    This was written by a former co-worker of mine years ago.  I think
    he meant it to be a satire on the original article.  I don't remember
    him as being particularly depressed....just an odd sense of humor.
    
    
581.5thanksLOOKUP::COMERFORDMon Sep 19 1988 18:503
    re:.1
           Thanks for the laugh, nothing like a good laugh to get me
    out of a rut and realize I must enjoy life a bit more.
581.6CNTROL::HENRIKSONMon Sep 19 1988 20:157
    re:.1

"My plans were"...

I thought sure it would be... "to go out drinking with the guys." ;^)

Pete
581.7Live life as you go along...MPGS::PELTIERTue Sep 20 1988 15:3438
    Getting into a rut can be a serious emotional drain.  I broke off an
    engagement because I felt my fiance and I were in an extreme rut! 
    Everything was so routine, and we didn't try anything new.  
    
    I came across an article in Reader's Digest that changed my attitude
    towards life.  I am a constant planner, always worrying that my life is
    going to become boring and fall into a rut.  This following article
    really helped me evaluate things....
    
                            Where Joy Abounds
    
    condensed from "The Stations" by Robert J. Hastings
    (reprinted without permission)
    
    	"Tucked away in our subconscious is an idyllic vision.  We see
    ourselves on a long train trip spanning the continent.  Through the
    windows we drink in the passing scene of cars on nearby highways, of
    children waving at us from a crossin, of cattle grazing on a hillside,
    of smoke pouring from a power plant, of row upon row of corn and wheat,
    of mountains and valleys, of city skylines and village halls.
    	But uppermost in our minds is our destination.   On a certain day
    at a certain hour we will pull into the station.  Then wonderfull
    dreams will come true, and the pieces of our lives will fit together
    like a jigsaw puzzle.  How restlessly we pace the aisles, damning the
    loitering minutes - waiting, waiting...
    	'When I reach the station, that will be it,' we tell ourselves. 
    'When I'm 18.'  'When I buy a Mercedes!'  'When I put the last kid
    through college.'  'When I've paid off the mortgage!'  'When I get that
    big promotion.'  'When I retire, I shall live happily ever after!'
    	Sooner or later we realize there is no station, no place to arrive
    at once and for all.  The true joy of life is the trip.  The station is
    only a dream that constantly outdistances us.
    	'Relish the moment' is a good motte, especially when coupled with
    Psalm118:24: 'This is the day which the Lord hath made; we willl
    rejoice and be glad in it.'
    	So, stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles.  Instead, climb
    more mountains, eat more ice cream, go barefoot more often, swim more
    rivers, laugh more.  LIVE life as you go along.
581.8Enjoy life--1 Day at a TimeLEDS::CARDILLOThu Sep 22 1988 15:5127
    Re .7
    
    >The true joy of life is the trip.  
    
    I totally agree with you.  I just started an Insight Meditation
    course and the primary message of the first session was just that.
    It takes a lot of the pressure off always having to plan for the
    future.  My goal is to learn to live one day at a time and to be
    aware of what's happening as opposed to just existing.
    
    >I broke off an engagement because I felt my fiance and I were in
    an extreme rut!
    
    I broke out of a troubled marriage because my husband had a very negative
    attitude towards everything.  We both went to counseling with a
    woman who taught positive thinking.  I ended up taking her course.
     It changed my life.  My husband couldn't be bothered.  He's still
    stuck in negativity and thinking how unlucky he is and how everything
    always happens to him.  The trouble with that kind of thinking is
    that you tend to bring on unfortunate things.  Of course, there
    is probably some satisfaction in being able to say, I told you that
    would happen! 
    
    I'll leave you with some food for thought, also from my meditation
    instructor:
    
    "You don't have to be perfect to be perfect!"
581.9LOOSEN UP AND LIVE!CURIE::DECARTERETMore, more, give me MORE!Thu Sep 22 1988 16:4925
    I too, can't agree enough to the importanance of learning to enjoy life.
    
    A reading that inspired me a while ago (author unknown) goes as
    follows:
    
    			LOOSEN UP AND LIVE!
    		    Change is the Stuff of Life
                    
    "The Times they are a changin'."  In fact, they are changing so
    quickly that we feel hard pressed to keep up.  As they saying goes,
    "Just about the time I have the means to make both ends meet, someone
    comes along and moves one of the ends!"  Our experience has been
    one of being tossed about by the winds of change, pawns of chance.
    
    At the heart of the matter is an essential shift in consciousness
    from being victims of circumstance to being catalysts for change.
    Identifying and making this shift propels us into an experience
    that is both boyant and exuberant.  No longer trying to make our
    dreamworld into reality, we awaken to a sense of who we are and
    what we are here to do.  Loosening our grip on how we think things
    should be, we begin to explore the possibilities right under our
    noses.  We lear to relax; to trust the process and begin to see
    that the unique contribution we have to bring is change, the very
    stuff of life.