| Hi and welcome. First of all, thanks for sharing with us in this
forum. I know this must be very hard for you.
In my family, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer, and had several
operations. Because it is hereditary, I need tests every year myself.
My mom has them about 4 times a year. There is a definite state
of mind that you get into about things like this. I can't stress
it enough--YOU NEED YOUR FAMILY'S SUPPORT AND LOVE! You say that
your family has "enough" to worry about without your problems--that's
only your perception. You are part of the family, and they need
you to share with them as much as you need their support. Yes,
the problem will still be yours, but you will be amazed at how much
that love can help you.
Please let your family and friends know. They care about you, and
I'm sure would want to help in any way they can. Even just having
someone close to you listen to you helps--it's ok to let them know
you are depressed or scared or whatever.
I've done it both ways--I did the "strong, silent" routine (and
fell apart a year later); and I let it all hang out with my family.
Believe me, the last way is the better way---for me, anyway. You
get the feelings out quicker, and can LOOK at them; this makes
it much easier to come to terms with them. Just knowing that your
family knows will be a great source of strength for you.
Please keep in touch. You are in my prayers.
Jane
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| I too want to echo that you need to let you family know! My mom
was just diagnosed as having cancer of the uterus. She had to go
in for a complete hysterectomy, and thank God, everything was caught,
however... she had decided on her own, without consulting me, that I
had enough to worry about in my life right now, that I didn't need
the extra worries about what the doctor had diagnosed, and the upcoming
surgery he had planned. I WAS LIVID when I found out. I thank
my sister for having enough sense to tell me. My phone bill last
month was close to $200.00 with just calling her {many times} daily to
see how she was doing, how things were progressing, how she was
doing emotionally, how my dad was holding up, etc... You do need
to let your fammily know... they love you, and they need you, just
as you need them right now..
Just my 3 cents worth...
GLK
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