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Conference quark::human_relations-v1

Title:	What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'?
Notice:	Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS
Moderator:	ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI

Created:	Fri May 09 1986
Last Modified:	Wed Jun 26 1996
Last Successful Update:	Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:	1327
Total number of notes:	28298

364.0. "I will NEVER do <that> AGAIN ! NEVER, NEVER again!" by BETA::EARLY (NEVAH .. NEVer ..say NEVER again :^) ...) Tue Jul 28 1987 17:14

    To quote: "Whomever"
    "Never, never, never ... say : NEVER AGAIN !"
    
    In how many ways have you heard this said, and then .... the person
    goes and does it again ?
    
    This is, of course, related to the "Complainer syndrome". The first
    ones to complain the longest and loudest about a <situation> they
    generally fing a way to return to that <situation>.
    
    Like, when in the service, who were the first ones in the reemlistment
    line?  The ones who complained that 'this places <draws as vacuum>';
    or "When I get divorced I'll never get married again", ...
    well, you get the idea, huh ?
    
    A frailty we find in friends, and .. they find in ....

T.R	Title	User	Personal Name	Date	Lines
364.2	Never?...Yes, Always!	SHIRE::BUJAS	DICIA	`Thu Jul 30 1987 11:26`	14
	I think that someone that says < never, never, never...again >, says that only to make sure he < she > does it again. It has something to do with reverse-personnal psychology. It's like when Clark Gable said:"Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn." Thank god he said that, or the public might have wondered whether or not he would come back. A sentence like that is usually said in a state of anger when the mind does not think rationally, but it does ingrave it in the subconcious as something not to forget. It as actually something that is very negative for the person, but it's like a vicious circle. Don't say never, or else you're guarantied to do it again. Your local psychologist, Natacha
364.3	To thine own self... Don't lie !	TIPPLE::HANSON	Caution:Prone to sudden Fun Attacks	`Thu Jul 30 1987 20:34`	26
	Oh, I don't know about that... at least not from my standpoint. It is often that I find myself saying "Never again...", and it is true, as stated in -.1 that it is usually uttered in anger and frustration, but... When I tell myself "Never again...", and I find myself in a similar situation at a later date, I try to remember the first experience and the conditions surrounding it, and consider long and hard about whether I would like (or not) to be put in that same position again. Generally, when that does happen, I recall the experience, the anger felt, and the reason for saying "Never...", and I realize that I've learned a lesson. And I usually back out of the current situation. Time heals all wounds, but a lesson learned should be a lesson remembered. (Sometime, and in a possible future note, I'll explain a little more, but I was recently put in that situation (and it was quite literally a life-and-death matter.) And I'll never, ever, ever do that again. I'm still bummin' major !) BH
364.4		MANTIS::PARE		`Wed Aug 05 1987 20:21`	1
	I'll never reply to a note like this again_;-)
364.5	I promise...	PRANCR::AIKALA	I can tell by your trembling smile	`Thu Aug 06 1987 06:49`	14
	Drink 7 Long Island Ice Tea(s) at nightclub... Order and eat Biscuits and Gravy w/two overeasy eggs, hash browns, milk, orange juice and coffee at Denny's... Expect all this to digest... Which it didn't.. See pavement in Denny's parking lot... Sherman_(ralph)_never_again_OH!_the_embarassment_and_pain