| Title: | What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'? |
| Notice: | Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS |
| Moderator: | ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI |
| Created: | Fri May 09 1986 |
| Last Modified: | Wed Jun 26 1996 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 1327 |
| Total number of notes: | 28298 |
| T.R | Title | User | Personal Name | Date | Lines |
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| 272.1 | ....Who Needs Enemies | PIGGY::JFORTIN | Fri Apr 10 1987 20:10 | 9 | |
First of all I have got to say this SOME FRIEND
Second call her and tell her you have no time to be playing taxi,
tell her you need the time before your vacation to make sure your
things are stored properly and are put in a place where they
will be out of everybody's way.
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| 272.2 | VIDEO::OSMAN | type video::user$7:[osman]eric.six | Fri Apr 10 1987 20:41 | 9 | |
I think the way you put it in .0 is perfect. Just tell her like
it is.
She'll understand. She might pretend she doesn't but she will.
Then tell her to give you a call when she's ready to be a real
friend.
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| 272.3 | I vote for the leg breaking! | KIRIN::S_HILLIGRASS | Fri Apr 10 1987 22:33 | 1 | |
| 272.4 | FOLES::FOLEY | Rebel without a clue | Sat Apr 11 1987 03:29 | 6 | |
Give her up. It's not worth the abuse. (And that is exactly
what you are getting!)
mike
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| 272.5 | some peoples kids....honestly | FANTUM::MARCOTTE | Sat Apr 11 1987 15:46 | 4 | |
RE: .0
Socrates said it best..."DUMP HER"
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| 272.6 | ACOMA::JBADER | una voce poco fa | Sun Apr 12 1987 17:42 | 5 | |
That is *NO* friend.
Hope your vacation is a nice one anyhow.
-sunny-
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| 272.7 | leg breakin is too good ! | CEODEV::FAULKNER | personality plus | Mon Apr 13 1987 12:44 | 2 |
puh
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| 272.8 | Don't be too Hard! | RTOADA::LANE | A macaw on each sholder! | Mon Apr 13 1987 12:49 | 29 |
talk, as simple as that, talk.
Go and pick her up from wherever it was, and when she is in the car,
talk. Ask her why she treated you the way she did, ask her what
she hoped to gain, maybe she had a reason, maybe she's hung up about
something...
If she has no reason, and can't see that you were pissed off, or
inconvienienced, or both, then say,
"Well, Ok, let me know when you want to be a friend" at least you
tried.
Maybe she has a real problem and needs some help...ask her, if you
get nowhere, say so and forget it, but be polite!
I am suprised in a notes file that suggestions are made that peoples
legs get broken over a pultry $150!!!!! ...
whats a friendship worth for gods sake!!!
Ask yoursel (honestly) haven't you ever let someone dowm for a
silly (to them at least) reason, haven't you been glad when that
person said,
"Forget it, lets still be friends", 'cause I have!
Andy.
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| 272.10 | Try Honesty. | TSG::MCGOVERN | Mon Apr 13 1987 20:17 | 14 | |
I'm with .8 (I think it was .8.) First, violence is never justified.
Second, if this is (or has been a friend), communication is the
key. Tell her how you feel: not "You make me mad", but "I'm very
angre about..." (or sad, or hurt, or whatever.) If this person can't
handle honest conversations when things get rough in a friendship
or continues this kind of self-centered behavior, I think it's time
to reasess what your friendship is all about. ABOVE ALL BE HONEST
AND OPEN. That way, if it all goes to Hell, you lnow you did your
best.
Good Luck.
MM
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| 272.12 | Good Friend? Good Question! | MPGS::BARKER | Tue Apr 14 1987 06:52 | 13 | |
Let this so-called friend alone for awhile. Enjoy your vacation...
After you return, Let her know about how you felt about the situation
and if it becomes more of a problem than its worth. Drop it!..,
but learn buy it. Some people don't miss there good thing until
its gone.
Ya..I've been there!
Dakota
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| 272.13 | Don't Worry..Be Happy! | CURIE::MARCOMTAG | Tue Dec 27 1988 14:35 | 1 | |
With freinds like that.....who needs enemies? | |||||