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Conference quark::human_relations-v1

Title:What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'?
Notice:Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS
Moderator:ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI
Created:Fri May 09 1986
Last Modified:Wed Jun 26 1996
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1327
Total number of notes:28298

152.0. "Excuses" by <Deleted> () Wed Nov 19 1986 10:23

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152.1This is not an excuse, is it?CEDSWS::REDDENlearning for profitWed Nov 19 1986 11:542
    Gee - I'm not sure I understand your question well enough to try
    to answer it. ;^)  ;^)   ;^)
152.2er, ah, um, the devil made me do it.SPIDER::PAREWed Nov 19 1986 13:296
    Sometimes excuses are a way of communicating.  (or was that an
     excuse  :-).  People who do not (in some way) feel threatened
     do not have to make excuses you know...
                                          or was that another excuse?
    								:-)
     Gee, this question is too confusing for me too.
152.3who me??WATNEY::SPARROWVivian SparrowWed Nov 19 1986 13:3612
    I had a manager once who expected excuses so he could call
    you a lier.  then I got a manager who Hated excuses.  He would
    carry on about not taking responsibility for your own actions
    and if nothing was "really" wrong, there would be no need for
    an excuse in the first place.  
    if I messed things up, he'd ask me who, what and how something
    happened the way it did.  got to where I'd say, "I did it".
    Nothing else.  Blew him away not hearing any whys or wherefores.
    Cracked me up.  Don't know what the actual question is for this
    note, just thought I'd throw that in.
    
    chirp
152.5It seems pretty simple nowCEDSWS::REDDENlearning for profitWed Nov 19 1986 20:138
    RE: .4  Bob_the_hiker on the difference in excuses and reasons
    
>Then, other than perception, what is the difference between
>"making excuses" and "providing reasons" ?

   Any reason can be converted to an excuse by the rejection of the
   person who is listening.  That hiker is a pretty smart fellow.
    
152.6Excuse, white lie, tact - different?BIZET::COCHRANESend lawyers, guns and money.Fri Nov 21 1986 13:496
    Hey!  Wait a minute!  What's the difference between an
    excuse and a "white lie?"  I always thought that an excuse was a
    socially acceptable way to avoid hurting someone's feelings - tact
    by another name.
    
    Mary-Michael