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Conference quark::human_relations-v1

Title:What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'?
Notice:Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS
Moderator:ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI
Created:Fri May 09 1986
Last Modified:Wed Jun 26 1996
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1327
Total number of notes:28298

122.0. "Perk me up ideas/suggestions" by FDCV03::EDWARDS () Tue Oct 28 1986 19:27

    
         I enjoyed what Ray had to say and I feel bad that he's in the 
    pits currently because he has a lot of good ideas!  For me, it depends
    on the root of why I'm feeling low as to the type of medicine I
    apply.  For instance, if it's a short or temporary problem, I try
    to invent ways to cheer myself up.  For instance, I may play certain
    music while cooking or writing a letter.  Or I may run a hot bath
    and phone a good friend for company.  I have a few favorite books
    on friendship and lifestyle issues that often help.  Sometimes going 
    out for a nice meal can perk up your spirits, as well.  It is very
    individualistic as I believe Ray pointed out.
    
         Sometimes I start with one of the above and notice that it doesn't
    do the trick.  Then I have to use methods that are more soothing
    and one of those may be a day trip to the ocean.  Or I may spend
    some time with my nieces - surprisingly enough they have a way of
    simplifying adult problems really quickly.  I also enjoy planning
    a special event with one of my friends - it gives me a temporary
    lift until I get to see them.  Of course I've made plans with the
    most appropriate friend for the problem at hand.  (Ever notice that
    some of your friends are good for certain ailments? - I have)
    
         And then there's the times I have no one to go to and/or the 
    above methods fail to soothe me.  In these time I have learned to be
    my own best friend.  This is when I face my humanity and failings
    and decide that it's "okay" to feel the way I do.  I end up going
    on with my life in spite of my feelings or my fears or my problems.
    These low periods are difficult for me to share with anyone because
    I don't particularly want people to see me that way.  I also don't
    expect them to be able to comfort me.  I believe there are some
    issues that we must face alone that even the best approaches/people
    can't cure.
    
         I'd be interested in others' ideas on the matter ... Christy  
                 
                                                  
    
    
    
    
    of myself.  
    ourselves.
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
        

    
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122.2BIZET::MAHONEYTue Oct 28 1986 19:4316

   I do not mean to turn this into the religion.note file but
   I usually talk to God.  Some how knowing God is there to 
   listen and help makes things a little better for me. I talk
   to God asking for help and advice and God usually gives it to
   me in someway.  Whether it is a friend who suddenly stops
   by or just the quietness of the moment.  The answer is there
   I just have to listen.

   Sometimes it is to go out into the world shopping or seeing a movie.
   Other times staying home and reading a good book or listening
   to music.  It changes but the cure is usually there if you
   just open your heart and listen.

  Brian
122.3Let's get physical!NOVA::BNELSONThe Stars My DestinationTue Oct 28 1986 20:0624

	I think that a lot of times when I really need a friend there is some
amount of stress.  Working under the assumption that no one is around to talk
to, I generally need some way to relieve this stress.  What I tend to enjoy is
some sort of physical activity.  Going for a nice long bike ride does a couple
things:  by exerting myself, I find that the stress goes away ( or at least
isn't as bad ); also, I often find some solutions to my problem simply because
I'm not concentrating on it full time.  ( I find that I'm more likely to find
solutions when I'm _not_ thinking about something -- weird! )


	Reading and listening to music are two of my favorite "quiet" pasttimes,
but they generally don't help alot if there's any amount of stress involved.  I
need *activity*!


	But, we're all different so the ways in which we approach things most
likely will be different too.  You've just got to find something which works for
you.


Brian

122.4Eat something ummmmmmm good!MMO01::PNELSONLonging for TopekaTue Oct 28 1986 22:001
    
122.5Not Alone...NFL::GIRARDWed Oct 29 1986 21:365
    
    There are some who can do it by themselves,
    There are others who need more,
    But when it happens to someone as nice as .0,
    I know it is I who must do more!
122.6Here's my panacea..HENRY8::BULLOCKJane, no heavy breathers, pleaseThu Jan 15 1987 17:2012
    I just saw this note and couldn't resist--even tho it's months later..
    
    When I feel that way, NOTHING does it like an old movie!  Usually
    a scary one is best, or one of those Fred Astaire extravaganzas.
    I get into my bathrobe, get a cup of coffee, turn the movie on,
    and thumb my nose at the outside world!  Usually when the movie's
    over I get up and do something--or, if it's a *really* bad day,
    I'll sit in for another movie...and another coffee...and make some
    spaghetti.
    
    Jane
    Sucker for Old Movies--Anytime