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Conference quark::human_relations-v1

Title:What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'?
Notice:Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS
Moderator:ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI
Created:Fri May 09 1986
Last Modified:Wed Jun 26 1996
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1327
Total number of notes:28298

31.0. "DIGITAL Super-people..." by <Deleted> () Sun Aug 03 1986 06:22

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31.1I came back, and I'm glad I did!MRSVAX::DMCLUREVaxnote your way to ubiquityTue Aug 05 1986 05:2126
	Due to my new job and a week-end at Martha's Vineyard with my
    wife and some friends, I've been temporarily "out of touch" with the
    Vaxnotes scene and should be able to offer some kind of new outlook to
    this whole phenomenon called noting...the problem is that I haven't
    written anything in over five days and I feel like I forgot how!

	As far as "burn-out" goes, I got so sun-burned this week-end
    that I'd take VDT's anyday.  I am currently making a move towards
    batch note reads late at night though, because (as my date-stamp
    will indicate) I have a tendancy to stay up pretty late doing this
    stuff.  Also, because I feel a need to branch out a little further
    (towards ubiquity), I am hoping to be able to follow a few more
    conferences this way - especially some work-related notes since I'm
    now in "sponge-mode" at my new job and I currently crave technical
    expertise on almost anything.

	I hope by doing this, I'll be able to follow the techy conferences
    by reading them in the morning (with my cup-o-tea), and reserving the
    late-night hours for some good-old HR noting (live).  Tonight is the
    pilot test for my new batch read file which will clog the works while
    it dumps all the week-end's noting into various files from among
    approximately 50 different conferences.  If it don't crash the network,
    then I'll be able to respond to some of them when I get done reading
    them (next year).

						-DAV0
31.3Support at home is the keyLOGIC::COCHRANEGee, this could be fun.Tue Aug 05 1986 14:4137
    It doesn't always work.
    
    I love my job.  I work with a great group of people, and my
    manager has allowed me to persue my career as agressively as
    I was inclined to for over two years now.  So, what wound up
    taking place was a period of rapid advancement and intense 
    training.  During the middle of this, I got married.  My husband
    does not share my enthusiam for my work.  Now, I'm not a work-a-holic
    either.  I work my forty hours, and whatever extra it takes.  And
    most weeks, it's forty hours.  Occasionally, however, there's a
    VMS upgrade or a disk crash, and I wind up at work until the wee
    hours of the morning.  As a cluster manager, I figure that's my
    responsibility.  My husband feels that if I work late at night,
    I'm putting my job first.  I feel that if I'm not there when I'm
    needed, I'm letting down a group of people who have been very good
    to me in the time I've been with DEC.  This is what we in the business
    call "between the rock and the hard place."  My husband has some
    rather, shall we say, traditional views of what a wife should be
    doing.  Managing VAXes isn't on the list.  Cooking, cleaning and
    caring for the home are.  Yes, yes I know I should have looked
    at this before the wedding, but I felt , "how can my husband possibly
    knock my success?"  He could, and did.  So, I suppose the point
    of all this mess is that we DECies aren't always super-people.
    BTW, the divorce rate in the group that I'm in is *very* high,
    and they're mostly software engineering people.  However, the strong
    marriages in the group are *very* strong.  Maybe that says something,
    I don't know.  I think a supporting spouse is a VERY important part
    of your success both at home and at work.  And if that's not there,
    it creates tension, and things wind up in the situation that I'm
    in now (which by now you all know about).
    
    But here's hoping for better days....
    
    Mary-Michael
    
    
    
31.4<.. experience is the spice of life ..>RDVAX::KENNEDYLarry K - CRA - HLO2-3, DTN 225-4243Tue Aug 05 1986 21:4721
    Your question struck a cord with this occasional Read Only Noter,
    and near burnout experiences may help. Past:
    1. from college, four years heart & soul with an upstart company
    that folded
    2. for family's sake, next six years with a major consumer products
    company (great benefits! and office overlooking the harbor)
    3. out of sheer boredom and grad-school references came to DEC for
    change -- four years with a group in Mfg with most of the time
    traveling
    4. just started a new cycle -- came to Eng. and am finding workaholism
    necessary for the learning process
    
    Outcome: my wife, a teacher, has learned that I'm never going to
    Father Knows Best walking in the door every night but rather must
    follow this quest for change & challenge; I've learned that the
    family is so important to me that the cycles must slow down and
    I must manage time.
    Rationalization: we've got a wonderful Company here that provides
    the opportunity to do entrepreneurial things on grand scales, but
    will only succeed with well-tuned people. You've got to manage it.
    (my $.02)                                        -- Larry