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Conference 7.286::pet_birds

Title:Captive Breeding for Conservation--and FUN!
Notice:INTROS 6.X / FOR SALE 13.X / Buying a Bird 900.*
Moderator:VIDEO::PULSIFER
Created:Mon Oct 10 1988
Last Modified:Tue Jun 03 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:942
Total number of notes:6016

710.0. "Why not have both, bird and baby!" by SALSA::DEFRANCO () Fri Jul 17 1992 19:01

    I was just reading note 13 "for sale" items and noticed someone is
    selling a parrot because a "new baby is on the way".  I don't mean to
    open up a can or worms but my stomach does flip flops everytime I
    head/read of this as a reason for selling a supposed wonderful and
    loved pet.  
    
    Wouldn't it be nice to keep the pet and bring up the child to love and
    respect pets as part of the family unit?  Animals (birds, in
    particular) are very sensitive and should not be bought and sold as
    children come and go.  
    
    I wish people would put more time into long term thought before getting
    an animal that they will have to sell in the short term.  I realize
    that life holds many unseen events and turns that sometimes force us
    into selling our pets but this one doesn't make sense to me.  
    
    Am I crazy or am I missing something?  Are there not many families out
    there that have both pets and children?
    
    Sorry to dump this on everyone, but it really bothers me!
    
    Jeanne
    
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710.1My opinionGERBIL::MAGEEFri Jul 17 1992 19:2542
    
    
    Well I think I have two primary thoughts here.
    
    1- We should be careful not to make judgements
       about why the bird is going. Obviously there
       could be other factors involved eg: medical
       reasons, bad advice, worries about time
       constraints, needing more room... the list 
       could go on and on.
    
       I know that I'll probably take a lot of flack
       on this but I do believe that people come 
       before animals. I love all of my pets but if
       I had to make a decision between making my 
       family life better or more difficult based upon
       birds my family would win! A new baby is the
       ultimate pet. It is priority- it does change
       your life.
    
       I'm sure anyone who has made a difficult decision 
       about giving up a bird has not done so without
       careful consideration.
    
     
    2- I think that birds,(& pets in general), are great 
       things for kids to grow up with. They help to teach
       kids about love, responsibility, gentleness and
       most importantly about life and death!
    
       You could talk to a kid all day about the above
       things but they need to experience them. I would
       rather have my kids experience the death of a bird
       that they loved- and go through those emotions-
       before they have to deal with grandma or papas' death.
    
       It also tends to make discussions about the 
       Birds & the Bees easier! 
    
       I could go on and on but I think you get the point.
    
    Providencial Blessings-Chet
710.2DivorceROYALT::PULSIFERUNHAMPERED BY FACTS AND INFORMATIONMon Jul 20 1992 12:1220
    I agree that in general a new baby coming should not necessitate
    getting rid of birds, but there are some good reasons.
    
    Birds Bites and is uncontrollable
    Small apartment
    realizing time is at a premium, divided between bird and baby.
    tight budget
    Stress between partners(husband/wife/so) over bird
    others......
    
    It is better to realize in a advance that the bird should be put up for
    adoption rather than to find out after the fact(baby born). If the
    owner waits until after, the bird may already be traumatized before
    going to a new home, by neglect or verbal abuse. It is also hard for
    another person to judge without being the actual owner as some ot us
    have Cuddly demanding birds and others have birds that are not attached
    to any one person and don't care who gives them food and water.
    
    Nobodies perfect, just look at the number of divorces and human
    children that are adopted, or go from foster home to foster home.
710.3Can't always be helpedLACV01::BUCHANANRead my lips - No More New Term!Mon Jul 20 1992 14:517
    Sometimes circumstances conspire against you.  In my own case, my
    obstetrian requested that I have someone else care for my birds while I
    was pregnant.   Fortunately, I was able to find someone who would 'bird
    sit' for the number of months required and that the birds were
    comfortable with; otherwise I would have been forced to get rid of them.
    
    BJ
710.4bird helps with babyWELCLU::KINGIIan KingWed Oct 07 1992 10:596
    We have had a budgie for well over a year, and have also just had a
    baby about 3.5 months ago. We never even considered getting rid of the
    bird, and he has become very useful when our little boy is having a bad
    crying spell because the budgie has this calming and hypnotic effect on
    him helping us to settle him down. They are both young and inquisitive
    and will study each other for long periods.
710.5ThanksCSOA1::DIRRMANWed Oct 07 1992 17:382
    Thanks for the input! But now that I think of it - the bird would have
    a calming effect. Great!