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911.1 | | LEZAH::BOBBITT | invictus maneo | Tue Dec 26 1989 16:28 | 20 |
| I like jeans and turtlenecks and sweaters and sneaks. I think if
blouses were easier to take care of, and warmer, and a bit less
revealing of detail, I'd wear 'em more.
If I could wear ANYTHING and neither have to worry about money nor
public reaction I'd probably wear dark-colored slacks or denim pants,
soft blouses with masculine-cut vests, boots (I'd have many several
pairs to choose from), tailored jackets or suitcoats, with hats and
scarves to suit my fancy. I'm not saying I'd like to look just like a
man, but the idea of slacks and vests and suitcoats is nice, and to
tailor them to women is a very classy touch, which can be accompanied
or not by accessories as one wishes.
My inner eye (which I use when meditating or visualizing) pictures
myself in chiffon-like flowing robes which are weightless and often
seem to move more slowly than gravity would have them move. The robes
are white.
-Jody
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911.2 | My image - bright colors and skin (cheerful&honest) | TLE::D_CARROLL | Who am I to disagree? | Tue Dec 26 1989 16:30 | 41 |
| > Anyway, I was curious what inner visons others may have that would
> affect the way they dress if we could wear anything we wanted. And
> why shouldn't we dress as we please? liesl
If I could wear whatever I wanted? First, I'd shave all my hair down to about
1/2 inch and be done with it. Then I would pierce my right ear all the way
up to the top and put in small silver rings.
Clothing? In the summer, mostly nothing, perhaps light wraps. Various
jewelry and some body paint for going "out". In the fall and spring I would
dress mostly like I do no - jeans and t-shirts (although I would be less
inhibited about *which* t-shirts) and sneakers. That's me, most of the
time. Casual. Inside and out. When I am feeling extravagant "me" means
loud. *Bright* colors, sharp contrasts, dramatic black. In the winter,
more of the same, plus lots of black leather. Everything from jeans and
vests, to tight dresses and elbow length gloves.
"Me" is very flamboyant, very loud. I would wear things that would shout
my presence, and show off as much of my body as the weather would permit,
and cover as much as what would make what shows exciting. "Me" is noncon-
formist. I would wear things to match my mood, not fasion. The image I
want is *strong*...is bright and opinionated and full of personality - is
a love it or leave it image.
If I could wear whatever I wanted I would never again in my whole life
wear another pair of panty-hose. (Stockings, maybe. Thigh highs, definitely.)
My ideal mode of dress is *nothing*. I show my personality and mood with
how I decide to paint my body that day. Today, for instance, is a red day.
Today I would paint geometric patterns matching the lines and curves of
my body, contrasted with some black highlighting (racing stripes?) See the
cover of Modern Primitives for an example, except in red instead of dark
blue. On a mellow day, just me, as naked and natural as the day I was born
(except perhaps for my [hypothetical] tatoos and various rings.)
Unfortunately this is *highly* socially unacceptable.
D! (who is still irritated that she couldn't go in the hot tub at the Xmas
party simply because she didn't want to wear a bathing suit, and her mother
was afraid the other guests would absolutely keel over at the sight of a
naked female body. As if mine would be the only one they had ever seen.)
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911.3 | '20's and Victorian Clothing for ME! | GRANPA::TTAYLOR | Straight from the heart | Tue Dec 26 1989 17:37 | 26 |
| If I could wear whatever I wanted (and could afford):
I'd be a cross between ---
a 20's flapper (and in my dreams I'd be flat as a board too!)
a Valentino Vamp
Ralph Lauren outback look
and when I look at period movies with a victorian influence, I go
CRAZY over the clothing. Without the corsets, I'd love to wear
such feminine, opulent clothing.
I know what you mean about having more clothing than I need. When
I look in my closet, everything in there was once something I just
"had to have" on impulse, and the things that I wear constantly
(whereas the impulse stuff gathers moths - ha ha) are the things
that were either given to me as gifts from my mother or old
hand-me-down antique clothing from great grandma, grandma, and my
great aunts, or else the stuff that I saved for a long time to buy
and went to the store consciously intending to buy the item.
Guess I'll make a "new" New Year's Resolution -- besides quitting
smoking, I'll stop "impulse buying"!
Tammi
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911.4 | | WAHOO::LEVESQUE | Can you feel the heat? | Tue Dec 26 1989 17:47 | 16 |
| He He He-
I dress pretty much the way I want- and it's horribly unexciting for the
viewer. For me, social acceptability takes a back seat to comfort, at least
90% of the time. This is why I wear jeans and t-shirts almost exclusively.
And either my high-top b-ball sneakers or black reeboks. Designer labels are
amusing, I suppose, but I look much less at the label than I do at the quality.
I've never been a slave to fashion, and probably never will be. I always
snicker at people who just HAVE to wear the newest style, even when the new
style is just plain ugly. The best part is how out of it they look during the
next season with the same clothes... Since I'm never "in" fashion, I never worry
about being out of fashion. If you don't like the insides, the package will only
distract you for so long...
The Doctah
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911.5 | | DZIGN::STHILAIRE | Keep on rockin in the free world | Tue Dec 26 1989 17:49 | 26 |
| If I could wear anything I wanted without regard to fashion and
tradition, I would like to wear evening gowns on a daily basis,
to work, shopping, going out to eat, whatever, whenever I felt like
it. Most of these would tend toward Victorian in style. I would
like to be able to wear the dresses they sell for high school proms
to work, as a 40 yr. old secretary, and have nobody bat an eyelash.
Of course, I would wear tons of Victorian jewelry with it, and
my hair would be waste length (if it would grow that long) and a
couple of shades blonder than it is now.
I would also like to be able to wear antique clothing from the
Victorian era (long skirts, high necked blouses) and beaded evening
dresses from the 1920's.
Of course, I would always want the option of changing into my jeans
and a concert t-shirt or a sweater whenever I felt like it! (something
the Victorian ladies couldn't do)
This past Saturday I bought a blue velvet evening coat from the
1920's, in an antique clothing store. This definitely reflects
the inner me, more than the outer me, because I have no idea when
I'll ever get to wear it! Yet I felt I couldn't live without it
(hanging in my closet)!
Lorna
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911.6 | the mirror *does* reflect me | SA1794::CHARBONND | Mail SPMFG1::CHARBONND | Tue Dec 26 1989 18:00 | 12 |
| Since my attitude to clothing is indifference to looks
combined with a passion for function, I tend towards
work clothes and top quality outdoor gear. (I spend
more on hi-tech thermal underwear than dress clothes.
Heck, I don't *own* a suit, and my one blazer hasn't
fit since 20 pounds ago ;-) )
Of course, I'll never make Executive Row, but I'm comfy.
And jeans are never 'out'.
Dana
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911.7 | Anyone need a vest pattern? | REGENT::BROOMHEAD | Don't panic -- yet. | Tue Dec 26 1989 19:40 | 18 |
| Lorna,
Yup, for looks, few things can equal the Victorian evening gown
(especially with moderate corsetting), but finding that @#$%&*
loop in the skirt so you can take even one step is a pain and a
half. You do mean post-hoops and post-bustle, right?
I like pants with pockets I can shove my hands in, broadcloth
shirt, maybe a vest, and comfortable shoes. A fedora that fit
would be nice. (Anyone know of a shop that sells hats for boys?)
Or maybe an oversized, sloppy t-shirt -- but with long sleeves --
over a full circle, knee length skirt, and lined moccasins. Or
that jumpsuit that Andre Norton described in _The_Time_Traders_,
with padded soles, in dark green. Or the Belden gown from James
Schmitz's _A_Tale_of_Two_Clocks_.
Ann B.
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911.8 | Watch the sunburn! | GIDDAY::WALES | David from Down-under | Tue Dec 26 1989 19:47 | 11 |
| G'Day,
I'm with D!, pretty much nothing most of the time around the house.
It would be nice to be able to do the same anywhere but I don't think
we are ever likely to see that. And just think, with these days of
increasing UV (Ozone holes etc) how much fun it would be putting on the
sunscreen before your morning walk, jog, run etc :-).
David.
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911.9 | | LOWLIF::HUXTABLE | Who enters the dance must dance. | Tue Dec 26 1989 20:39 | 17 |
| I must say I've never really thought about it...I've always
tended towards tailored clothing, which looks neat and
well-groomed and...boring. :) I also have a strong need to
blend in with my surroundings, so this makes some sense. Of
course, to offset that, I like bright colors...and hats! With
feathers! I've got hats to go with suits, with dresses, with
jeans...I guess if I could wear what I really wanted, it
would probably be about as much of a mix as what I wear now.
re .2: But D!, I *do* wear thigh-high stockings. Every day
(work day, that is), with my dress-for-success suits. ;)
They're *lots* more comfortable than panty-hose -- I haven't
bought a pair of panty-hose in almost ten years. Even though
I dress not to shock other people on the outside, I wear what
I want to under it!
-- Linda
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911.10 | Casual maximus | ROLL::GASSAWAY | Insert clever personal name here | Tue Dec 26 1989 20:54 | 17 |
|
At home: nothing
Outside: White t-shirt XXXXXL (Froot of Loom 3/$5 or whatever)
Black pants, or my lived in jeans
And most important, Chuck's on my feet
Dress-up: Black loose Turtle neckish top w/long sleeves
Long thin black skirt (Mid-calf)
Medium black heels
Worst thing I could ever imagine wearing:
Something strapless
Something yellow
Miniskirts
Lisa
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911.11 | my public self and my real self.. | WMOIS::B_REINKE | if you are a dreamer, come in.. | Tue Dec 26 1989 20:57 | 18 |
|
What would I like to project from my inner image?
Loose skirts that are functional, maybe divided skirts, and loose
lousy tops all over with flowers, and my hair long and curly and
with flowers in it...and sandals on my feet.. or long dresses with
full sleeves, and shawls and wreathes, but everyone laughs at
me when I dress that way..but that is the way I feel most comfortable.
Second to that, jeans and TTY shirts, and jackets and either boots
or sneakers...in the winter a leather jacket..
I don't understand fashion and proper dress for work - the only look
I've achieved success at is the librarian/teacher look.
sigh
Bonnie
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911.12 | HATS | WFOV11::LITEROVICH | | Wed Dec 27 1989 12:48 | 14 |
| Re .2
I never buy pantyhose, always thigh-high stockings or stockings with
my garter. Yes most of the people I have told this to were shocked
(I tend to be rather conservative in my dress).
Re .7
After years of frustration looking for a hat in the women's departments
I tried the men's. I find that a man's small fits me perfectly.
Why don't women's hats come in small - medium - large like men's?
I bought a great fedora at Eddie Bauer's last winter.
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911.13 | | FSHQA1::AWASKOM | | Wed Dec 27 1989 13:10 | 4 |
| For me, high-necked ruffled blouses and mid-calf swirly skirts -
kind of modified Victorian. Barefoot.
Alison
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911.14 | my opinion | DZIGN::STHILAIRE | Keep on rockin in the free world | Wed Dec 27 1989 13:37 | 16 |
| Re The Great Panty Hose vs Garter Belt & Stockings Debate: I am
always so amazed when I hear women saying that they find garter
belts and stockings more comfortable than panty hose! I feel just
the opposite. When I was in high school in the early-mid-60's pany
hose hadn't been invented yet, and I *hated* wearing those horrible
garter belts we had then. They were made of white girdle material
and had white rubber knobs on them to attach the stockings to.
The knobs would always pop off and then the stocking would fall
half down on one side of my leg, and make the knees bag out even
more than they already did on skinny legs. Yuck!!! They were awful.
When I first wore panty hose I thought they were the most wonderful
invention of my lifetime so far, and I still think the only item
to outdo panyhose is stick on sanitary napkins. :-)
Lorna
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911.15 | Slinky, sexy, exposing | TLE::D_CARROLL | Who am I to disagree? | Wed Dec 27 1989 13:49 | 26 |
| As I said, "me" mostly means no clothes at all. *However* I forgot to mention
that for special occasions/dress-up, when the weather wasn't warm enough, or
body paint not exciting enough for nothing, I would wear those sexy, slinky,
backless, strapless, whateverless bright red/bright blue/shiny black dresses
you only see in movies. Oh I love those! And I haven't the guts nor the
body to wear them, but that is what I wear when dressing up in my mind's eye.
Actually, this summer I bought a backless dress for the first time...in
fact, it is almost frontless too (covers very little belly region, just where
the triangle from the skirt meets the triangle from the top, tip-to-tip.)
I've only worn it in public once, but boy, what a reception it got. (A guy
I had only met once or twice came up to me and said "Diana, speaking as
someone who has been fantasizing about you from afar since I first heard your
laugh in 1985, that dress makes it hard to stay in the same room with you!"
:-) Currently, I only hve the guts to wear that (and the leather miniskirt
with the zippers up the sides) at Player's Parties, but...
(Has anyone tried thosep paste-on bras? They don't do much for women as large
as me, but they are better than nothing under backlesses dresses. I just wish
they made them in sizes larger than B [which they claim is D]).
Oh, and another thing I forgot...when wearing clothes...big, loose, flowing
skirts, the kind you can sit cross legged in withuot "worrying". Damn hard
to find those!
D!
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911.16 | the 'I hate to shop' inner vision :^) | SCARY::M_DAVIS | Marge Davis Hallyburton | Wed Dec 27 1989 14:41 | 14 |
| My dream wardrobe tends toward the practical: well-tailored clothing
that fits and lasts through several seasons, good material, buttons
that stay on, zippers that last, hems and linings that don't sag,
split, or fall.
I prefer traditional styles that span the current fashion, comfort wins
out over trendiness.
The bottom line is that I detest shopping and would pay almost any
amount of money to find clothing that lasts and continues to look good.
Marge
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911.17 | I'd like to change my hair.... | MARLIN::RYAN | | Wed Dec 27 1989 15:10 | 9 |
| I dress in jeans and sweaters which is what I realy like to dress
in. If I wasn't worried about being disowned by my friends and
family, however, I would perm and die my hair like the lead
singer of "the Cure", except I would shave about 1" above
both ears. And maybe, just for fun, wear really bad make up.
(Sigh..there's a punk rocker in me screaming to get out....)
Dee
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911.18 | | SA1794::CHARBONND | Mail SPMFG1::CHARBONND | Wed Dec 27 1989 15:13 | 2 |
| re .16 Marge, try Orvis of Manchester, Vermont. Sort of
an upscale LL Bean's.
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911.19 | | SCARY::M_DAVIS | Marge Davis Hallyburton | Wed Dec 27 1989 15:14 | 5 |
| Thanks, I get the Orvis catalog. Buy their bedding now; will check out
their clothes.
grins,
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911.20 | | GEMVAX::CICCOLINI | | Thu Dec 28 1989 12:51 | 21 |
| Jeans. Slim legged and tight. Cowboy boots, (love my Dingos!),
with a stacked heel. Chambray shirt, white man's shirt, open one
button more than usual. Blanket wrap, (which I've worn long before
anyone ever heard of Ralph Lauren except then people used to laugh at me).
Anything western or American Indian. Anything leather. Nothing
"delicate" or "feminine", (read victim), but very female and toughly
sexy - unapproachable to all but the most confident.
Off the range, skinny black leather mini, outrageously high black
heels, high necked, long sleeved sweater to compensate. And a free
strut. We always want what we can't have, eh? I'm a small blonde
but what I'd give to look like Iman - tall, coffee colored and gorgeous.
No shiny clothes
No polyester
Nothing yellow
No little French maid outfits or cutsie-poo little teddies
with gossamer lace that say this little baby-doll needs
a big daddy to "help" her. (barf).
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911.21 | | GEMVAX::CICCOLINI | | Thu Dec 28 1989 12:56 | 2 |
| ...and never, never one of those "dress for success" blouses with
the big floppy bow at the neck, a la Jessie in the comic strip "Duffy".
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911.22 | | DZIGN::STHILAIRE | Keep on rockin in the free world | Thu Dec 28 1989 13:25 | 8 |
| re .20, but, Sandy, *I* see little lace teddies as saying, "This
woman wants a (particular) man to f*** her brains out!" (not "help"
her!) :-)
But, I agree about those blouses with the floppy bows! Gag!
Lorna
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911.23 | | GEMVAX::CICCOLINI | | Thu Dec 28 1989 13:56 | 6 |
| Yeah, passive. Do me while I sit here and do nothing except stare
at my nails, myself in the mirror or perhaps I'll sigh once.
I like the clothes that say I'm going to f*** YOUR brains out! (Not
you personally, Lorna, cute as you are! ;-) Tight jeans. Leather,
Outrageous heat. An active participant. Most 'lingerie' is too passive.
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911.24 | no pink or lace please. | DYO780::AXTELL | Dragon Lady | Thu Dec 28 1989 14:17 | 12 |
| heels, silk stockings and not much else for a bottom layer
and then something with a long tailored skirt (black leather perhaps?)
silk shirt with long sleeves high collar and about half the buttons
undone... And then maybe some sort of cape to top it off.
Elegant and understated, but definitely not passive! And full of
contrasting textures. One more thing - it's got to be easy to get
out of.
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911.25 | well they are bright colors anyway! ;-) | WMOIS::B_REINKE | if you are a dreamer, come in.. | Thu Dec 28 1989 15:04 | 3 |
| So what am I going to do with my two blouses with the bows on them! :-)
Bonnie
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911.26 | | DZIGN::STHILAIRE | Keep on rockin in the free world | Thu Dec 28 1989 15:30 | 9 |
| Re .23, well, Sandy, lace teddies may symbolize passiveness to you,
but that doesn't mean that everyone who wears them is passive during
love making! :-) (Of course, I can only speak for myself!)
Bonnie, nevermind the blouses with the floppy bows, what are you
going to do with all your lace teddies?????!! :-)
Lorna
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911.27 | | DYO780::AXTELL | Dragon Lady | Thu Dec 28 1989 16:25 | 3 |
| re:.25
Donate them to my manager?
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911.28 | oh dear | SELL3::JOHNSTON | bord failte | Thu Dec 28 1989 17:57 | 28 |
| looks like Annie got it all wrong again...
<sigh>
I _like_ silk and lace lingerie. It doesn't chafe when I move.
I haven't heard the term 'passive' applied to me in _any_ context since
1971.
I haven't 'done' my nails since 1974 and spend very little time
contemplating them unless one tears down the middle.
I don't dress specifically to reflect my tastes in lovemaking ... any
more than I dress to reflect my tastes in lawn furniture ... which is
to say that my dress reflects my tastes and I am a multitude which
rarely reflects more than one aspect at a time.
If I want someone to 'f*** my brains out' I'm just as likely to ask
so as not to be misconstrued.
Can I still be a woman of the '90s?
or do I sign up for re-education camp?
Ann
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911.29 | ????? | GEMVAX::CICCOLINI | | Thu Dec 28 1989 18:09 | 1 |
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911.30 | Giggling uncontrollably :) :) | LOWLIF::HUXTABLE | Who enters the dance must dance. | Thu Dec 28 1989 18:09 | 1 |
| .28> ... any more than I dress to reflect my tastes in lawn furniture ...
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911.31 | How'd you know I was talking about you?? ;-) | GEMVAX::CICCOLINI | | Thu Dec 28 1989 18:30 | 14 |
| How you dress, and decorate your lawn, and everything else, all
reflect your "inner vision". Sorry Anne, I don't even know you so how
could I suggest that you were a passive person? I hope you're not
insulted by what I, (a total stranger), personally think about
the standard, decoration-only type lingerie. Talk about defensive.
Silk and satin are fabulous fabrics. Cheap, lacy, racy little ditties
with cutsie peek-a-boo cutouts and lines where guys like to see lines
on women look no different to me than a tacky christmas tree. I
just have an aversion to seeing women "decorated" like birthday cakes.
It's right up there with the little sweaters and booties on poodles.
("Heel, honey!") That's what *I think* makes it *seem* passive *to
me*. No slander against anyone reading this is intended and I am
fully confident I wear stuff plenty of people find ridiculous.
Let's lighten up.
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911.32 | just thought I was in the wrong line again ... | SELL3::JOHNSTON | bord failte | Thu Dec 28 1989 18:57 | 21 |
| re.31
Actually I _was_ being light. I rather felt that any discussion that
equated lace with passivity would have to be light-hearted. Certainly
I did not take you remarks as being personally directed; and even had I
done so I would not have felt that my tastes in lingerie where in need
of defense.
I don't think tastes need defending.
As to my lawn or my clothing reflecting my inner vision, they do not.
My inner vision has little to do with my outward manifestation.
For instance my inner vision of my self tends to be taller than I am.
Not because I wish to be tall, mind you; but in western cultures size
and significance are often tied together and I do not find myself
insignificant.
But I imagine you already guessed that. Right, :^) ?
Ann
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911.33 | | WMOIS::B_REINKE | if you are a dreamer, come in.. | Thu Dec 28 1989 19:10 | 6 |
| in re Lorna -
I only have one lace teddy, well actually it is a camasoile (sp???!)
thingie, and I'll continue to wear it in appropriate situations! :-)
Bonnie
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911.34 | no limits... I like your spirit | COBWEB::SWALKER | Sharon Walker, BASIC/SCAN | Thu Dec 28 1989 19:57 | 11 |
| <<< Note 911.28 by SELL3::JOHNSTON "bord failte" >>>
-< oh dear >-
Ann,
I think your ability to reassign traditional associations based on
practical considerations and personal tastes *makes* you a woman
of the '90s. *Open* that re-education camp.
Sharon
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911.35 | | LEZAH::BOBBITT | a life doused in question marks | Fri Dec 29 1989 02:15 | 8 |
| Yup. To each their own. That's what inner visions are all about.
What's IN you, inherently. And that needs no defense, and no
justification.
Chacun a son gout, or whatever
-Jody
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911.36 | Almost asked for moderator intervention! | CLOVE::GODIN | FEMINIST - and proud of it! | Fri Dec 29 1989 11:50 | 26 |
| A suggestion to the contributors, if I may:
"To each their own. That's what inner visions are all about."
(Thanks, Jody)
'Twould seem to me that this should be the theme of this string. But,
if so, there's really no place for anyone to criticize, even by
implication, the inner visions of anyone else.
To imply that silk and lace and "decorations" equate with passivity is
to imply that anyone whose inner vision is silk and lace and
decorations IS passive. I know I personally have felt put-down by some
of the replies here, 'cause in your descriptions of what you wouldn't
be caught dead wearing, you've just described my wardrobe!
If it's not for you, that's fine. I've felt that way about some of the
replies here. But I won't put those repliers down by indicating I
think their "inner vision's" taste in clothing is tasteless or
policially incorrect.
That's not the purpose of this string.
Karen
P.S. Geez, I was having fun with this note until we got started on
(gag) "what my inner vision isn't."
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911.37 | My wish list | JURAN::TEASDALE | | Fri Dec 29 1989 12:03 | 14 |
| What's in the budget: jeans with men's shirts, t-shirts, sweat shirts;
a good pair each of boots and shoes(the chunky work shoe); baggy tops,
although I've gotten anal about tucking everything in; the perfect
pull-it-all-together item--right now it's my favorite Christmas present
--a stunning coat found in Bonwit's which screams "Audrey Hepburn".
Lots of black with a splash of purple or shocking orange. Man
tailored, yes. Several watches. Lots and lots of hats--one can never
own too many. Natural fibers or rayon. No polyester with fru-fru bows.
Pockets always--I like to be self-contained (no purse). Lace teddies
are too itchy, but lacy black undies can be fun. NO BRAS.
The dream wardrobe: clothes from London and New York to go with the
Levi's; more boots and shoes (Italian and Spanish); lots more hats from
around the world; silk undies.
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911.38 | | WAHOO::LEVESQUE | Can you feel the heat? | Fri Dec 29 1989 12:53 | 27 |
| re: Sandy
> Yeah, passive. Do me while I sit here and do nothing except stare
> at my nails, myself in the mirror or perhaps I'll sigh once.
Actually, I find the exact opposite to be true. When my partners have worn
satin & lace, they have been _more_ aggressive (includes pre-marriage days).
Presumably they were stimulated by wearing clothes that simply exude sexiness,
and allowed their innermost sexual feelings to come to the forefront.
> I like the clothes that say I'm going to f*** YOUR brains out!
I can imagine you do! :-)
re: Ann
> looks like Annie got it all wrong again...
Don't think so.
> I _like_ silk and lace lingerie. It doesn't chafe when I move.
There's nothing wrong with that. Just because a few people find silk and lace
to indicate passivity doesn't mean that it must for everyone else. No need
for guilt by association here. :-)
The Doctah
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911.39 | Small rathole and I'm outta here. Your welcome! | GEMVAX::CICCOLINI | | Fri Dec 29 1989 13:12 | 43 |
| I think I've figured it out, finally. I'm just not as sensitive as
most other people. I'm genuinely amazed that my dislike of certain
items of clothing makes people who like them, squirm. Perhaps I'm one
of the few who truly *does* believe "to each his own" because I take it
as a given that no one would *really* be bothered by what some unknown
stranger doesn't like about their clothes! Do you all really think you have
lovely wardrobes perfectly acceptable to everyone? It seems only if
you think that can you take offense when you find out, (from my "surprising"
revelations here), that it just ain't true. Different strokes. How
come so few other people in notes seem to really accept that? I get
the impression I have no right to say what I don't like because someone,
somewhere, may not agree with me. Good heavens. That would be a real
shock to the system to find *that* out! :-)
I wouldn't in the least take offense if someone wrote that they thought
tight jeans and cowboy boots seemed "aggressive" or even "butch" to them.
What the heck do I care? I wouldn't be able to GET dressed if I worried
about making sure I didn't wear anything that no one else liked. You
have to be living a supreme fantasy to have your bubble burst upon finding
out your personal clothing choices aren't the first choice of everyone
else.
I just assumed everyone else was also comfortable with their choices in
clothing and didn't require constant validation of the "rightness"
of their choices. There is no "right choice" and I suspect the ones who
take offense must subconsciously think there may be. My mistake was in
assuming everyone else was satisfied and confident enough with the choices
they made from their inner visions to withstand the revelation that some
other people wouldn't make the same ones.
So now I know where all my notes go wrong, not just this one. I'm too
"live and let live" for most people. I'm too much, "here's mine, what's
yours?". Because too often the response is, "Whaddya mean, that's yours?
How DARE you! Explain yourself! You have no right to say that", and so on,
when the response I generally expect is, "Hm, well here's mine".
I don't make the pronouncements of absolute right and wrong and I'm really
surprised that many people react to me as though I had. Why give me that
power or assume I have it? I'm no different than you except I'm more
open about what I think. And maybe that's because I'm satisfied with it and
not so vulnerable to the negative thoughts of strangers that I need to
believe there are none or at least expect to always be shielded from them.
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911.40 | I am a multitude... | SELL3::JOHNSTON | bord failte | Fri Dec 29 1989 13:18 | 49 |
| to get back to .0
> how would [my] inner vision effect the way [I] dress?
By implication, I would have to expose some of my inner vision to the
outward view. My inner vision of myself is of strength, serenity,
freedom, love and art -- in short Beauty. Obviously these are
abstracts that can take on many faces. So any outward manifestations
of this inner vision are, perforce, a bit chameleonlike.
A member of our community once said to me, 'you look _very_ different
dependent upon the context.'
The inner vision of freedom manifests itself in garments that are not
confining. I like large sweaters or loose shirts and leggings rather
than t-shirts and jeans. I tend toward large sleeves and full [or
short] skirts that do not restrict my movements.
The serenity aspect leads me to natural fibers, soft ones for
preference, because I get cranky when I itch or sweat.
Probably my fondness for stark black, white, metallics and bright
colours stems from my perception that they are strong. But I also have
an underlying love of the browns and greens and ochres and sands of the
Earth, which is also strong.
I decorate myself and my clothing as the mood strikes. But I have a
fairly well-disciplined mind that knows that the inner me _is_ and that
the outer world often does not interpret the externals in the same way
as I do; hence, I _do_ keep an weather-eye on the prevailing social
winds and accept that an unbridled flaunting of my tastes may not gain
my ends. Sometimes I only show that part of me that will gain them.
I wear nothing and own no clothing that doesn't please me. I created a
grey 'power-suit' and a white sarafan embroidered in silk arabesques
that I love equally and are both reflections of the essential me.
But still my inner vision's most physical aspect is my hands, which are
not beautiful and almost completely unadorned, because they _do_ and
_create_ things that I see in my mind's eye.
> why shouldn't we dress as we please?
By all means we should. But we should accept all consequences for the
way we do. In life there are consequences, good and bad, of our every
action. And there will be so long as we are all unique individuals
with unique inner vision.
Ann
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911.41 | | DZIGN::STHILAIRE | Keep on rockin in the free world | Fri Dec 29 1989 13:45 | 17 |
| Sandy, I hope you didn't think I was upset that you don't like lace
teddies. I think I basically have the same live and let live attitude
towards dress that you have. It's just that when you gave your
opinion of lace teddies, I wanted to express my different opinion.
But, I wasn't upset about it. I want you to know, Sandy, that
I don't give a damn what you or anybody else in this file thinks
about my clothes. :-) As far as I can afford it, I love the way
I dress, and I love that I take a size 3. :-) I wish everything
about my life pleased me as much!
(Also, I like boots, but not cowboy boots, but I do *love* tight
jeans on well shaped people of both sexes.)
I think it's interesting to read everybody's innervisions.
Lorna
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911.42 | just .02 | LEZAH::BOBBITT | a life doused in question marks | Fri Dec 29 1989 13:58 | 9 |
| I think one of the reasons that it got uncomfortable in this topic when
people starting saying "not that" or "not that", is that inner visions
equate, at least to me, to our own inner ideals. I'm getting used to
people knocking my outer thoughts, but inner visions are somehow much
more personal, and things can get weirder much faster when we're
talking about inner things, rather than more outer things.
-Jody
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911.43 | | OXNARD::HAYNES | Charles Haynes | Fri Dec 29 1989 20:49 | 24 |
| [Is this a place for men too?]
Sometimes I like to fantasize about skin tight black leather
pants, a black buttonless leather vest, legs spread and my left
hand in the waistband of my pants. Hair down around my shoulders
and a direct look that says...
Other times I think of loose blue silk breeks (tight waist,
flowing) and a nice linen blouse. Hair tied back with a blue
ribbon. Perhaps a cape.
Then there is skin tight violently colored lycra (red, black,
electric blue), top and bottom, soft black slippers and
weightlessness.
One I've learned that I like is full formal evening regalia.
Slim tailored black pants with a satin waistband and satin
stripe down the sides. Small polished ankle boots, a white
cotton shirt, perfectly tailored pleated not ruffled. Small
black tie, onyx and gold studs. A black evening coat (no vest)
medium lapels with one rosebud. A delicate flute in one hand,
filled with Roederer Cristal.
-- Charles
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911.44 | *heart flutter* | LEZAH::BOBBITT | a life doused in question marks | Sat Dec 30 1989 14:06 | 6 |
| re: .43 (Charles)
*whimper*....how long a drive is it to California ?!!!?
-Jody
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911.46 | "I wish" | DNEAST::FIRTH_CATHY | owl | Tue Jan 02 1990 17:28 | 8 |
| re .0
You have described the ultimate in clothing for men. Unfortunately
women of that period had quite restrictive clothing. But that era's
clothes for me was definitely the best in terms of attractiveness --
they say all styles comes around agin. Sure wish this one would.
I think a lot of guys would enjoy the colors and textures, but on the
whole the world is not ready for it yet!
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911.47 | SILK | PMROAD::JEFFRIES | | Wed Jan 03 1990 15:09 | 10 |
| For me it would be silk, all under. To me there is only one thing
better than silk gently touching me all over :-). When I feel good all
under, I feel good all over. I don't care if noone knows what I'm
wearing, or likes what I'm wearing, as long as I feel good.
For public appearances, I like long flowing garments, kind of lose
fitting. I would like to wear mid calf to floor length skirts or wide
legged pants all the time and silk blouses. At home I would like to
wear silk pajamas and caftans. Also, I would want silk sheets on my
bed.
Gosh!! this is fun.
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911.48 | I just bought two plumes for my next hat | TINCUP::KOLBE | The dilettante debutante | Wed Jan 03 1990 22:24 | 9 |
| After reading all the replies to my basenote I've been trying to
imagine all of us at work in our "outfits". It'd look like a costume
party. Wouldn't that be fun? Of course all of you who prefer the
"natural" look might still cause a sensation! Though I admit to
wondering around the house in summer sans clothing when no one ele
is around.
I agree with those that love silk. That fabric was made to be loved.
liesl
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911.49 | idea for a theme party | WMOIS::B_REINKE | if you are a dreamer, come in.. | Thu Jan 04 1990 01:21 | 11 |
911.50 | My inner vision makes most people uncomfortable | TLE::D_CARROLL | Who am I to disagree? | Thu Jan 04 1990 12:41 | 12 |
| > the next time you come east...lets have a 'come as your inner vision'
> party for =wn=
Uh...my 'inner vision' is illegal. I suppose I could come fully clothed
and strip when I got there. Do you think that would be okay? :-)
And I agree with people who love silk. I got my first pair of silk
underwear about a week ago and *loved* it. Especially under jeans!
(It is a black silk sort of boxer-short style panties. Hard to describe,
tho I am sure there is a word for the type.)
D!
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911.51 | | BSS::BLAZEK | songs of happiness murmured in dreams | Thu Jan 04 1990 16:38 | 16 |
|
Gosh, I wish I could share you people's enthusiasm for silk.
It's a thoroughly luxurious fabric that really does feel too
sensual for words.
I have a slight physical affliction, however, which prevents
me from wearing silk. It's called Silkperspititis. I only
need _CONTEMPLATE_ wearing silk to start sweating profusely!
Someone was talking about silk undies (which I can wear OK),
silk clothes, and silk sheets and I practically was soaked
with underarm perspiration just reading about it.
Destined for cotton-blends forever,
Carla
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911.52 | Outer-under inner vision... | BSS::VANFLEET | Living my Possibilities | Thu Jan 04 1990 16:39 | 23 |
| D! -
They're called tap-pants.
Since this topic started I've been trying to figure out what my inner
vision is. It's so varied that I decided to take the outer-under wear
tack and go with two visions to incorporate my inner me.
As far as outer wear goes I see myself in strong, solid colors - black,
white, true red, emerald green, saphire blue. The only patterns to the
fabric might be a geometrical design in sequins in contrasting colors
or the same shade. A sample outfit would be a black velvet skirt,
top-of-the-knee length with a 6-inch slit up the back, a white satin
tuxedo-type blouse, unbuttoned to make the most of my cleavage, and black
hose with a back seam decorated in rhinestones. Oh - and heels - black
suede with rhinestones across the heel.
Under all of this would be a something very minimal in white or pastel
pink silk and lace. Probably a corselette, panties cut high on the
hips and garters.
Nanci
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911.53 | | SSDEVO::GALLUP | six months in a leaky boat | Thu Jan 04 1990 21:09 | 35 |
| D!
>Uh...my 'inner vision' is illegal
Hahaha.....you aren't the ONLY one! ;-)
>It is a black silk sort of boxer-short style panties. Hard to describe,
>tho I am sure there is a word for the type.
Speaking of silk tap pants, I have some on! ;-) (Pink, I know it's hard to
believe, but I DO wear pink).
My inner vision is of me at about 20 lbs lighter than I am now (which I'm
on my way). It's of me in a royal blue leather outfit. Form-fitting
top-of-the knee skirt with a slit up the back, and a leather top that is
like a double breasted jacket, crossing low in front, with a notched collar and
long sleeves, narrow at the wrist with no cuff, pushed up slightly on my forearm.
Solid gold and silver bangles on my wrists....a gold chain (that
looks like a chain...with links) around my neck... black silk hose on my legs
with a shimmer to them....very sheer, with a seam up the back, held by a
black satin garter belt around my waist....no other lingerie at all, just
the garter and hose. Black velvet pumps with silver around the base of the
heel...............my makeup very bare, in soft rose on my eyes, navy liner,
black mascara...............a scant blush to my cheeks in a copper color
to make the glowing tan of my skin, and a brush of copper barely hinting on
my lips.....my hair spiked softly with wisps of bangs falling gently over my
right eye, all the way to my chin, giving the allusion of mystery to my look.
But then again, I quite often dress to my inner visions.....I just wish I
owned this dream outfit. ;-)
Wildkat
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911.54 | Clothed with the Sun | DEVIL::BAZEMORE | Barbara b. | Thu Jan 04 1990 23:41 | 9 |
| D!
>Uh...my 'inner vision' is illegal
Not in Vermont, well as long as you aren't being lewd. Merely being
in the altogether doesn't count as lewd.
To find out where the no-tan-lines crowd hangs out in the summer you
can peruse the Naturism conference (MOIRA::Naturism).
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911.55 | summer would be cool! | LEZAH::BOBBITT | changes fill my time... | Fri Jan 05 1990 12:34 | 9 |
| re: the party idea.
Yeah, I chatted w/Bonnie and some others about a "come as you aren't
party" (or "come as you would like to be" or "come as you REALLY are").
This sounds like it would be a fun thing if enough people played along
to the degree they're comfortable with...
-Jody
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911.56 | winter can be cooler... | SELL3::JOHNSTON | bord failte | Fri Jan 05 1990 14:29 | 6 |
| considering that one of my more elaborate flights of fancy resulted in
a creation of velveteen and wool [complete lined in satin] sporting a
modest train to be worn over a linen petticoat [read underdress] and
a a French Hood...
Ann
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911.57 | | SNOC01::MYNOTT | Hugs to all Kevin Costner lookalikes | Mon Jan 08 1990 02:16 | 19 |
| My inner vision (when I have the bod and the money) is to wear Armani's
casual designs. Other than that I would be in seventh heaven in an Aussie
design - Country Road for Men. I adore mens clothing and wear it most
of the time. To wear all those Kate Hepburn clothes from her earlier
films - very masculine.
To live in jeans, chambray shirt, oxford cloth or t-shirt/sweatshirt
and loafers. Sometimes just for the heck of it, a pair of high tops
instead of the loafers. And to top it off, no underwear!! (^'
Half the vision is there in that I don't own a skirt or dress and don't
plan on it. I love pants. My hair is already there, makeup is at a
minimum, I wear all my favourite colours, odd earrings, outrageous sox
with all my pants, and always wear what I want - so I just need the bod
and the money. Anybody feeling generous? (^'
...dale
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911.58 | | BSS::BLAZEK | a gypsy under the beckoning moon | Fri Jan 12 1990 16:13 | 21 |
|
I sense an enormous difference between how I'd dress if I had
my druthers (and loads of cash!) and how, when I look inside,
I see my Inner Self.
My Inner Self is immensely feminine. She has long, flowing,
thick wavy red hair, wears wispy white clothing such as loose
baggy pants and an enormous soft white blouse cinched at the
waist with a bright green sash, small flowers in her hair to
bring Mother Earth as close as possible to her, and she likes
sitting on dark jagged rocks while violent ocean waves crash
against them and lightly mist her face.
My Inner Self goes barefoot. She wears a small silver loop
earring in one ear to signify her oneness, which is the only
similarity my Inner Self and my Outer Self seem to share at
the moment. I really like her. In fact, I even wrote a poem
for her once!
Carla
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911.59 | | SHARE::DHURLEY | | Thu Jan 18 1990 13:01 | 5 |
| Clara,
What a beautiful image of yourself.
denise
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911.60 | | SYSENG::BITTLE | nancy b. - hardware engineer; LSE | Wed Jan 24 1990 23:43 | 21 |
|
The outfit is my Roger Rabbitt "I'm Innocent!" tee-shirt which
comes halfway down to my knees, loud Jams that are barely
showing underneath, white high-tops with grey trim and pink
shoelaces (either unlaced to be totally cool, or with those
spring-action plastic things that keep the 2 laces together
at the top), and matching pink socks that end just above
the hightop. And one of those sports-bras w/ an ace bandage
that smush everything as flat as possible so that it's not a
loud "I'm a girl" statement.
To complete, place extra-nubby outdoor-type basketball between
palm and hip. Look tough; don't immediately say yes when
a high school kid asks you to play; look him over first.
Then have fun covering a gorgeous, shirtless, sweaty guy
(shirtless because the other team is automatically "skins"
because my team always has to be "shirts" :-).
nancy b.
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