T.R | Title | User | Personal Name | Date | Lines |
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289.1 | sigh . . . | DEBIT::RANDALL | Bonnie Randall Schutzman | Tue Apr 21 1987 12:23 | 8 |
| If he just handed me the flowers and walked away, I would say
"Thank you" to his retreating back and continue on my way with a
smile on my face and a prayer of thanks in my heart that there are
still warm, impulsive people in this world of danger and suspicion
-- even if he left his phone number on the card.
--bonnie
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289.2 | Chivalry is not dead | OASS::VKILE | | Tue Apr 21 1987 13:18 | 5 |
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I, too, would thank him sincerely and be pleased. And if I were
single I might be *glad* his phone number was on the card.
Vicki
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289.3 | | AIMHI::KRISTY | Saving all my hugs for you | Tue Apr 21 1987 13:41 | 4 |
| I would get severely embarrassed, thank him for the flowers and
then I would just die... ;-) ;-)
*** Kristy ***
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289.4 | Smile... you're on Candid Camera | GOJIRA::PHILPOTT | Ian F. ('The Colonel') Philpott | Tue Apr 21 1987 14:04 | 5 |
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And of course, carefully look around for the hidden camera...
/. Ian .\
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289.5 | | GCANYN::TATISTCHEFF | | Tue Apr 21 1987 14:17 | 3 |
| Getting flowers from a stranger could make my day, maybe my week...
Lee
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289.6 | | AXEL::FOLEY | Rebel without a clue | Tue Apr 21 1987 14:21 | 6 |
|
If a guy ran up to me and gave me flowers and his number I'd
probably deck him!
mike
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289.7 | it happend on day... | NCVAX1::COOPER | | Tue Apr 21 1987 15:25 | 14 |
| Well not excatly like that, but one day I did receive flowers at
work from some one that I did not know, (he works in the same building
but not for DEC) who obviously inquired about me from someone else
because I smiled at him and he was having a bad day and my smile
brightened up his day and so he decided to brighten my day.
His name and number was on the card, I called to thank him and that
was when he explained his motives.
So.....
To smile at a stranger, you may be smiling at an Angel :-)!
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289.8 | | 2B::ZAHAREE | Michael W. Zaharee | Tue Apr 21 1987 17:17 | 3 |
| I agree with .6
- M^Z
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289.9 | but if the roles were reversed? | DEBIT::RANDALL | Bonnie Randall Schutzman | Tue Apr 21 1987 17:20 | 6 |
| .6, .8 --
What if a woman walked up to you and gave you a bunch of flowers?
--bonnie
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289.10 | I'd love it! | QUARK::LIONEL | Free advice is worth every cent | Tue Apr 21 1987 17:39 | 11 |
| If a woman walked up to me and gave me a bunch of flowers, I'd
be delighted and would be very cheerful. I would not necessarily
interpret it as a romantic overture - I'd have to see what the context
was. I've been a surprise donor and recipient of flowers, not to/from
"strangers", but women I had not met in person before.
I know that getting a surprise gift of flowers, even if it's from
your "SO", can really brighten a day. Too many people forget how
nice it can be.
Steve
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289.11 | I'd love it too! | ORION::HERBERT | Walk me out in the morning dew... | Tue Apr 21 1987 18:26 | 12 |
| I would be very happy, slightly curious, and probably talk to the
person...if they didn't turn to walk away (in which case I'd just
say "Thank you").
If you're contemplating doing it...DO IT! You'll probably make
someone very happy!
^ ^
U
\_/
Jerri
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289.12 | | CSC32::WOLBACH | | Tue Apr 21 1987 18:40 | 10 |
|
A very special friend (platonic) once sent me flowers
and a card which read "Smile, you are loved"....I did
indeed smile, and every time I read the card, which is
right over my terminal, I remember the flowers and the
thought, and my day is brighter for it!!
A very nice gesture from a warm person!
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289.13 | | SSVAX::LAVOIE | | Tue Apr 21 1987 20:12 | 2 |
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Smile for the next week and a half!
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289.14 | i have to ask | ULTRA::LARU | full russian inn | Tue Apr 21 1987 21:03 | 3 |
| At the risk of being obtuse, why would you not feel you were being
harassed? Are flowers more acceptable than someone smiling and
saying "Hi"?
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289.15 | My address is.............. | AXEL::FOLEY | Rebel without a clue | Tue Apr 21 1987 21:13 | 10 |
| RE: .9
Blush, Say "Thank you", Look at the card to see if there was
a number, and if I felt an attraction I'd call. If I didn't I would
probably send a nice thank you card.
Needless to say, I'd more than likely lose all composure and
just smile alot and say "Thank you" alot..
mike
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289.17 | Go for it guys ... | RDGE00::BURRELL | you want it by WHEN !?!?!?!? | Wed Apr 22 1987 08:19 | 20 |
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Well thanks for the answers - keep them coming ...
I must admit that I HAVE tried it once - and the woman did
smile, blush and say thank you, but that was during a rag-week
at University rather than for 'real'.
So the concensus of opinion from the ladies out there is ...
It seems it would be appreciated.
So gentlemen ...
On your marks ..
Get set ..
Go ............ do to the local florists
Paul.
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289.18 | sightly different, but as pleasant as ... | AZUR::FAYAUD | | Wed Apr 22 1987 08:45 | 9 |
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I once received flowers via Interflora from a college in
Finland I had worked with over Network (I live in France), so this
person I never met, and even never talked to.
As a matter of fact, it was the day before my birthday,
and I tell you it was the one of the most wonderful present I ever had !
Rita,
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289.19 | Bring on the flowers | ORION::HERBERT | Looking for a raindrop in a downpour | Wed Apr 22 1987 14:43 | 12 |
| Re: .14
> Are flowers more acceptable than someone smiling and saying "Hi"?
No, I like smiles and greetings too! Flowers are just unusual,
and therefore, bring about an unusual, excited response.
> Why would you not feel you were being harassed?
Now why would I want to feel that way??? :^)
Jerri
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289.20 | random thoughts on harrassment | DEBIT::RANDALL | Bonnie Randall Schutzman | Wed Apr 22 1987 15:41 | 30 |
| Re the question of harrassment:
I'm surprised at the number of people of both sexes who seem to
think that any gesture of friendliness or interest is not only sexual
in intent but sexist too.
Even if a man is interested in me as a female and potential sexual
partner, that doesn't automatically mean expressing his interest
is harrassment. No one can deny that sexuality is one aspect of
everyone's personality, whether male or female and whatever one's age.
Healthy relationships acknowledge the other's sexuality even if sex
is not a part of the relationship.
Trouble comes two ways: Either one person tries to deny his or her
sexuality and feels offended when the other person does not agree to
ignore it, or one person tries to limit the other person to only
sexuality, denying all other aspects of the personality. That's
harrassment, whether the person being belittled is male or female.
Another form of harrassment comes about when expression of sexual
interest that would normally be appropriate takes place in a context
where it's out of place. It would be fun having a stranger run after
me on the railroad platform to give me a bunch of flowers, but if
a man I work with sent me flowers right before a meeting at which
we were negotiating something important to both of us, and he timed
it so the flowers came while our mutual boss was in my office, I
might feel harrassed.
--bonnie
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289.21 | .20 Says It Succinctly | TSG::MCGOVERN | | Wed Apr 22 1987 16:53 | 3 |
| re .20: I think this says it all.
MM
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289.22 | expected or unexpected | YAZOO::B_REINKE | the fire and the rose are one | Wed Apr 22 1987 18:39 | 1 |
| Flowers are always lovely and welcomed :-)
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289.23 | Nice people | MARCIE::JLAMOTTE | I'm Different | Wed Apr 22 1987 22:09 | 1 |
| I have never met a flower-giver that I didn't like!
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289.24 | | AXEL::FOLEY | Rebel without a clue | Wed Apr 22 1987 23:07 | 5 |
| RE: .22
Now is that supposed to be a hint Bonnie???? :-) :-)
mike
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289.25 | flowers and friends | STUBBI::B_REINKE | the fire and the rose are one | Thu Apr 23 1987 03:23 | 26 |
| He who gave them knows....:-)
and I have had a lovely afternoon....
"Bonnie, where did you get the flowers? Did Don send them?"
"no, they are from a friend of mine."
"why did he send them ?"
ans "because he is my friend"
and if it goes further and I mention that the charming gentleman
is just a little younger and single and that my husband and I and
my friend had lunch together and we all had a lovely lunch...
I am now a woman of mystery...
and thank you *you know who* I don't think I have ever felt
so popular....:-)
Bonnie
:-) :-)
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289.26 | Flowers | CSC32::JOHNS | God is real, unless declared integer | Thu Apr 23 1987 16:26 | 5 |
| I would love receiving flowers from either sex so long that I knew
the giver had no motives other than kindness. By walking away, the
stranger shows that s/he expects nothing in return.
Carol
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289.27 | I JUST GOT SOME | JUNIOR::TASSONE | Spring Fling | Fri Apr 24 1987 16:48 | 8 |
| I just received some flowers. A red rose, red carnation and purple
daisies. From a manager who "felt good about going on vacation
next week". She shared flowers will all the women in the department.
Now that was different and very thoughtful.
Cathy (who takes pictures of flowers so as to enjoy them over and
over again).
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289.28 | | ACOMA::JBADER | una voce poco fa | Fri Apr 24 1987 20:51 | 5 |
| re: .0
I wear that spray, yes, all over, nothing has happened yet. :-(
-sunny-
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289.29 | still waiting for flowers... anybody wanna make my day? :-) | AIMHI::KRISTY | Saving all my hugs for you | Sat Apr 25 1987 01:37 | 4 |
| I've been known to wear "impulse" before... I've gotten compliments
on how nice I smell, but no flowers...
*** Kristy ***
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289.30 | :-) | SPMFG1::CHARBONND | | Mon Apr 27 1987 10:50 | 3 |
| RE .0 & .28 that's because he's out in space on
the Battlestar Galactica (Captain Apollo).
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